Where Should I Take A Girl On A First Date? Online Dating Advice For Men

One of the most frequent inquiries I receive from guys is this one. They believe that the first date must be fancy and perfect or she won't be impressed.

Consequently, you see men picking up women from their homes in their brand-new, pricey Mercedes, gifting them with a bouquet of red flowers, and then expertly escorting them to an absurdly posh restaurant where they attempt to impress the woman with the best seven-course dinner money can buy.

They then spend the second half of the evening posing while indulging in wine sniffing, gesturing with their fingers to the server, and showcasing their extraordinary expertise in fine dining.

She is currently restless in her tree and is constantly checking her watch every ten seconds.

What these guys need to realize is that the vibe you have with each other matters more than the location of your date. Do you exude an air of fun, flirtation, and banter? Or is the conversation being dominated by highly uninteresting, repetitive "what do you do?" questions? Is it thrilling and unpredictable, or is it blatant and unoriginal? Is it likely that she has gone on 100 dates with men who have pushed her to respond to the same set of questions as if she were in an interview?

Instead of trying to impress her, you should concentrate on providing her something unique. Every guy wants to win her over with his wealth, physique, brains, intelligence, etc. She just wants to have fun and feel close to you, that's all. Simply put, you don't need to spend any money on her if she feels that way.

Actually, I don't frequently spend a lot of money on first dates. My preferred setting is a calm, relaxed lounge bar with background music that isn't too loud to be distracting from the conversation and doesn't make it hard to hear what you both are saying.

I then order us a few drinks from the bar and find a quiet, private place to relax; a sofa in the corner works best. Try to take a seat next to her if you're at a table (a round table with 4 chairs is ideal - you can easily sit next to her, without invading her personal space too much in the beginning). The aim is to get near to her so you can touch her and develop a bond before kissing later.

Sitting right across from her makes it feel too distant and more like a business meeting.

Then just focus on creating a friendly, jovial atmosphere. Don't try too hard to crack jokes all the time; you don't want to come off as a clown. However, most males don't find this to be an issue. The issue for the majority of guys is coming across as being too boring or pleasant.

Just think of this as a broad concept for the time being. I will go into more detail on how to achieve this feel in later postings (and on my website as well).

There is not much pressure at this location, which is another positive. The first course of a pricey lunch can be difficult if you and your companion find you don't have much to talk about with each other. By using this method, the strain is kept to a minimum. You may even say, "Let's meet for a drink in bar X."

No huge deal; just let's see how things go. After 10 minutes, if we still don't like each other, we may call it a night.

This significantly lessens her stress, which increases the likelihood that she will accept your invitation to go on a date with you and decreases the likelihood that she will back out.

Maintain a low-key and relaxed atmosphere on your initial dates moving forward.