When Your Boyfriend Makes You Feel Bad, This Could Help

How do you feel when you text your partner and don't immediately get a response?

How do you feel when your partner isn't in the mood to cuddle?

When your partner tells you he's going to hang out with the boys when you ask about his weekend plans,

How do you feel?

All of those issues wouldn't bother you in a perfect world since you feel confident in your relationship. You know that he loves you. There's nothing that could change that.

But little things like that hurt in the REAL world.

When you put yourself out there and get nothing in return, it hurts.

It was you who decided to take a risk. You put in the effort. You reached out.

And he cut you off. He ignored you. He shut the door in your face.

Being rejected is not fun.

Even worse, you start to feel bad about being upset. Nobody likes to make a big deal out of a text message, which is quite minor. He could have been busy. Maybe he missed it.

You tell yourself to just let it go. You tell yourself that you should accept it. He doesn't have to be at your beck and call.

Of course he needs time with his friends. Of course he doesn’t always feel like getting physical.

But deep down?

You're not okay with it. You're even a little mad at him about it.

At that point, you've got 2 choices.

You can bury those feelings deep and act like you’re okay…

Or you can turn those feelings into a chance to bring back his devotion.

Normal Relationship Ups and Downs

There are times like these in every relationship.

There are times when the person we love turns away from us just when we were expecting them to come closer.

Keeping these times in perspective is simpler if you feel secure in your relationship. He may prefer to hang out with his buddies, but it doesn't mean that he doesn't also want to be with you.

But many of us lack confidence in our love lives.

We fear that these little incidents are a sign of worse things to come.

He ignored your SMS message. Does that mean that he saw your message but intentionally decided to ignore it? If you don't even receive a response, what does it reveal about where you rank on his priority list? He obviously doesn't care about you as much as you do about him. Before your heart is shattered, you'd better call it quits immediately!

This is a common example of catastrophic thinking.

It's the point where you assume the worst.

We don't want to be that person, at all. Shaming ourselves for feeling anxious or exaggerating issues, however, just makes matters worse.

There is a better answer.

Even when there is some distance or conflict between you, you may develop a certain skill that helps in developing trust in your relationship.

One way to comprehend how this skill works is to ask yourself whether a tree falling in the forest makes noise...

What Happens to Love?

That brain-teaser is popular:

Does a tree falling in the forest make noise if there is no one to hear it?

The obvious response is yes. Despite the fact that we couldn't hear the trees falling, it produced sound waves.

In light of that, ask yourself this.

Your partner just behaved in a way that didn't display love towards you. Does he still love you?

Whether you can put your trust in something you can't see will determine how you respond to this question.

You don't feel his affection. You can't hear his devotion. Is his love still there, or did it suddenly disappear?

When it comes to love, those who have a strong sense of object constancy have no issues believing that their partners still care about them despite differences or distance.

They have confidence that love is still there even when they cannot now feel it. They constantly feel 'love', while the feeling of rejection or separation is temporary. When it comes to love, not all of us have a fully formed sense of object constancy. It seems as though the love is gone forever when the person we love stops acting loving. We cannot put our trust in what we cannot see.

You can start learning the constancy of love by reminding yourself that all relationships go through natural periods of closeness and distance.

Distance doesn't mean that the love has vanished. It means that love is playing hide-and-seek. It has momentarily vanished from view, but it will return.

Looking at photos or other souvenirs from significant times in your relationship might also serve as "love reminders" for you. Even if it feels like he doesn't love you right now, you may see plenty of signs that he does.

Instead of suppressing your feelings or seeking proof that he no longer loves you, it is much more effective to look for evidence that you are loved in order to get over those feelings of rejection.

It takes work to trust in love, but that work is among the most important that we'll ever do.

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