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Tips for Asking a Girl Out

Relationship With A Girl

By Biswajit DeyPublished 2 years ago 5 min read
Tips for Asking a Girl Out
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If you are asking girls for a date and being rejected, then

you should read the tips in this Articles to find out what

you are doing wrong.


 Presentation and Punctuality are Necessities

 Remaining Calm and Happy

 Compliment Her and Make the Environment


 Follow Your Instincts

 Always Stay Positive and Thoughtful

 Show Your Intent and Passion

 Look For Positive Dates

Society takes a much more casual view of dating habits

these days than used to be the case in our parents and

grandparents days. It was almost unheard of for

individuals to have multiple relationships ongoing at the

same time. Dating was taken seriously and when it

became a longer term relationship is usually ended in


Whereas, today it is not that unusual for individuals to

frequently change dating partners, or have several at the

same time. It is much less likely that individuals will enter

into a marriage with their first dating partner.

Unfortunately, this modern practice of trying out multiple

dates in the search for the right partner can have

disastrous consequences of a criminal nature.

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Preparation and Punctuality are Necessities

Preparing for a first date is important. If you want to

make a good impression you have to start by considering

how you will look. Ask yourself what your date is likely to

think of the way you present yourself? Will she be able to

see that you have made an effort? Making an effort with

how you appear, especially on the first date will help to

create a favorable impression.

Punctuality for your first date is just as important as your

appearance. Even being a few minutes’ late, sends out the

wrong signals before your date has even started. You are

better off planning to be at your meeting place a few

minutes early.

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Remaining Calm and Happy

Try to remain calm and don’t let your nerves show on a

first date. If you are feeling a bit uptight, taking a few deep

breaths can help to relax you before your date turns up.

If you are someone who is easily wound up by poor

service, then you need to select the venue for your date

carefully. You will not win any brownie points if you lose

your temper or create a fracas about the littlest thing.

Remaining cool, calm and collected if you are justified in

making a complaint creates a good impression and shows

that you can act responsibly.

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Don’t Shy Away from Giving Her Compliments

Any individual, especially a female who says she doesn’t

appreciate a compliment is lying. However, the

compliment does have to be sincere or your date will likely

pick up on it. Although this is sometimes an area where

you may need to rely on your tact and sensitivity,

especially if she asks you what you think about her new

dress, or a new hairstyle and you hadn’t noticed. She will

not thank you for your honesty if you tell her you hate it.

Actively listening to what your date has to say and

accepting her right to have her own opinions, helps to

show that you value and respect your date. If you allow

your attention to drift, or constantly interrupt to impose

your own opinions over hers, you are unlikely to get a

second date.

You need to take responsibility for keeping the

conversation flowing as naturally as you can. You can do

that by ensuring there are no long gaps in the

conversation. Having a mental list of topics you can

introduce into the conversation, that you know will

interest your date, helps to avoid those uncomfortable


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Rely on Your Instincts and Tell the Truth

It is unlikely that on a first date you will get around to

telling your girl all your deepest, darkest secrets.

However, there are some things that you need to be up

front about and you will know instinctively what they are.

If you want the relationship to continue and develop

beyond the first date you need to tell her. She can then

decide if she wants to continue dating you. You need to

think carefully about what would happen if she finds out

about your secret from another source, before you get

around to telling her. It will get harder to tell her if you

keep putting it off.

On the other hand if she asks you a direct question, you

can always lie. If you do you are likely to feel guilty about

lying and when it does eventually come out you will have

to explain why you lied. That can be enough to finish your


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Remain Positive Despite Bad Experiences

If you can get through life without having to deal with a

rejection in the dating game, you will be very lucky.

Nearly everyone will have at least one, if not more poor

dating experiences at some point in their life. You just

have to learn what you can from it and move on. You have

to accept that life is not a ‘bed of roses’ and it is not always

your fault that it didn’t work out.

If you think you were even partially responsible for the

breakdown of the date, then you can take steps to ensure

that the same things don’t ruin any of your future dates.

You need to remain positive about finding the right date

for you in the future.

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Committed to Finding a Potential Life-Time Partner

If you are committed to finding a life-time partner as

opposed to a girl for casual dating, you need to be clear in

your own mind about what you are looking for. You also

need to be upfront with the girl, as she may not feel the

same way as you do about a life-time relationship.

There are some girls out there who would be willing to

commit to a life-time partner for any number of reasons.

However, unless you have spent time getting to know each

other first, which usually means dating. There are no

guarantees that you will be compatible or that a life-time

partnership will survive.

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Positive Dating Experiences

If you are new to the dating game or are returning after a

long period of time, it can be a daunting prospect. You will

need to brush up on your knowledge and techniques if you

want to find a good dating partner.

Spend some time people watching to see others in action

and talk to friends and other people who may have just

gone or are going through the same looking for a date

experience. They will no doubt be a good source of advice

and tips on how to go about it.

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