The 72-Hour Rule: What to Do (And Not Do) When Your Partner Goes Ghost (Breakup).

These thoughts are based on personal experience and views.

Reasons why blocking occurs

As everyone blocks people for varying reasons, either due to toxicity or unwanted messages, I thought it would be best to discuss the reasons why women might block their boyfriend after a heated debate.

Firstly, I would like to emphasize that several considerations need to be considered when deciding whether blocking your partner is appropriate since different people behave uniquely when wounded.

In some instances, blocking your boyfriend may seem like an unnecessary exaggeration, while, in others, it can be perceived as a way to gauge your boyfriend's reactions.

Having experienced blocking and being blocked by my boyfriend on multiple occasions, I would humbly advise putting yourself in the girl's shoes – that is, what made her take such an action?

It is important to note that a partnership consists of two people who will not just decide to block each other out of nowhere.

In my case, I was really angry about how little respect he gave me with his continual disregard of my time by once again standing me up due to a client calling.

In retrospect, it seemed like the appropriate action at the time.

Why argue? Since he obviously was not going to listen when I had already tried to communicate this with him several times before?

Two weeks passed and I calmed down, at which point, he knocked on my door, ready to talk and re-promise.

Is this behavior normal?

Well, perhaps not really, and you might even consider it to be toxic; however, people do this sometimes when emotionally triggered. Just give her some time if you love her.

If she does not contact you first, try contacting her and seeing if she is willing to meet and discuss the matter.

Experts’ views

However, there is also professional opinion, as dating coach Dan Bacon in his article on The Modern Man touches on the topic of the reasons behind women’s decision to block after an argument.

Below are 3 ways to help you to get your ex girlfriend back if she has blocked you.

Discover the reasons for her blocking you: First of all, the reasons for blocking may differ from her losing attraction towards you, running away to live happily ever after with another man (i.e., infidelity) to a mere test that she might do to check her boyfriend.

At times, however, the blocking was the result of her getting hurt by something you did.

First, you need to modify how you interact with her before attempting to communicate with her:

Dan says you have to modify yourself when trying to connect with her. For instance, if you have an aggressive approach towards people, why not change?

The aim is to draw her back to your life rather than driving her farther away from your life.

It is time to determine if you will use dangerous approaches to open up your connection: The reason for using dangerous approaches in this case is that some men like being aloof.

Maybe it is because of ego or maybe he wants to teach his girlfriend a lesson – whatever the reason may be, once she unfriends him, and then he ignores her texts; she gets disappointed and finds herself another person.

Some men go out and date other women to make their partner jealous.

In addition, both can have the opposite effect, so Dan recommends avoiding them.

To conclude, Dan leaves us with the message that simply because we are blocked does not mean we are necessarily bad individuals. This gives us the opportunity to introspect and improve ourselves in those areas where improvement is necessary.

Effective time-out communication

I have a European boyfriend, and at times there could be misunderstandings and conflicts even though we don't mean to have them. The problem is we cannot sort out the issues by meeting face-to-face.

As far as where I am at this point in my life, I tend to keep quiet when I am sure that whatever I will say I will regret afterwards. But I make sure he knows that I am too emotional to discuss the issue right away and I need to cool off first.

This is not only for myself but also to prevent anything worse from happening, based on what I have learned from previous experience.

And that way, I don’t say anything but wait until I’m ready to start up the conversation all over again without raising my voice at anyone.

It’s a blessing in disguise that he allows me the time and space to collect my thoughts without making me feel rushed.

Ever wished you hadn’t blocked a person when you cooled down?