dating

All about dating. First dates, three years into a relationship, Tinder, and more.

You Were Never Her First Choice
What attracted you to your current girlfriend? Many people don’t backtrack to think about it but for many of my readers including yourself, you’re probably with your girlfriend because your self-esteem dictates that no one else is going to really want you if she decides to break up.Your inner feelings keeps you from leaving her because there’s something about her a prudent personality that keeps you around just enough where you don’t want to leave and just enough yet still where you’re constantly competing for her attention. Because she doesn’t give you much attention even though you guys are together. It’s like everything you do from the biggest event to the smallest gesture doesn’t seem to impress your girl. It only bores her.
By Kyle Smith6 years ago in Humans
Jack & Tammy: First Kiss
Tammy & Jack’s First Kiss The date was over and Jack had walked Tammy to her door. She stuck her key in the brass deadbolt and had held it there for several moments. Jack folded his arms across his chest and leant his head against the wall, smiling warmly. It was now evening at 7:00pm sharp, because at that moment the timed lights in her apartment building lit up in a synchronized effect.
By Hanna Hell6 years ago in Humans
Stop thinking the worst, analyze your relationship the right way!
So many of us enter into a relationship thinking that “this might just be the one.” Everything’s going great. You guys are in sync. You share a number of common interests. But, then you comfortable. The first time something seems out of place, we start questioning everything …and to the point of overanalyzing it. An analysis is great, but it’s only great if you do it correctly. Stop thinking the worst about your relationship, and analyze your relationship the right way.
By Jessica N. Abraham6 years ago in Humans
What I learned From My 4Years Long — Distance Relationship
It feels like it’s been a while since I talked about my long-distance relationship with even my close friends. I used to not only talk but think a lot about it.
By Anggun Bawinur6 years ago in Humans
A Great Inconvenience
I'm completely abnormal according to society's norms. Plastic surgeons make insane bank off insecure and desperate souls who want to change their body to ensure they become "beautiful" on the outside. Society has created this façade of what each gender should appear and act like. Men must be strong and not show emotion while women must be dutiful wives who bare children. All a deep psychological programming we are fed at a young age with barbie dolls and G.I. Joe toys.
By Krystal Smith6 years ago in Humans
Am I the Only One in this Relationship?
As far as humans have evolved in society and in our dealings with other human beings, we are still prone to the idealism of romantic love; the idea of being “in love.” No one really knows what being “in love” means; there is research to suggest it can be quantified. However, there are not too many people who find themselves questioning their relationships with the age-old query, “He loves me, he loves me not…” who will take to peer-reviewed academic papers to quell their emotions. The truth is, there are no balancing scales that measure the amount of one love over the other. There are many times that an individual may find that he or she is in a relationship, or desirous of a relationship with someone where feelings are unreciprocated.
By Dr. BB6 years ago in Humans
How I Learned to Have Tough Conversations with My Partner
Not everyone has good communication skills but when it comes to relationships we have no other option but to learn if we want to make it work.
By Anggun Bawinur6 years ago in Humans
Random Ramblings of a Single Woman in the 21st Century
They say that those who want to be with you will be with you, but in this day and age there have been so many I may have wanted to be with but never was because of bad communication. It is so easy to assume things and misread situations in today's world of technology and dating apps. We need to normalize communication, openness, and honesty.
By Cora Mack6 years ago in Humans
Considering a Long-Distance Relationship? Ask Yourself These 5 Questions
While some people believe that you can just go with it as long as you ‘love’ each other, unfortunately when it comes to relationships especially a long-distance one, you need more things to consider.
By Anggun Bawinur6 years ago in Humans
What Women in Their 40s Really Want in a Man
Years ago, my girlfriends and I relished the quiet hours when we’d steal away from our male friends to sit beneath the stars with a drink and embark on deep and meaningful conversations.
By Kim Petersen6 years ago in Humans
It’s a Love Story
Thump. Thump. Thump. My heart pounds as I come across your profile for the first time. I swipe to the right seeing hearts fill the screen my own heart does a flip. Ping! I see your message start to filter through the cracks in my heart. Months go by and as much as I shove you the brick wall facade you leave up doesn’t budge. You stay. Even as I talk to others and try to flirt my way through existence, you stay. As men come and go breaking down what is left of my withering heart, you stay. So one blistering summer day I make a decision, I stop shoving. We lay in my bed a mess of entangling heart beats and as I gaze into your half lit moons that encompass your eyes I know I’m home. Immediately I put my everything into you and I force the love that remains onto that towering brick wall. We make it official. Ding. Ding. Ding. Support pours in from all angles. The hurt and the pain starts to fade replaced with your smile and your laugh. Every date planned and late night adventures fill me up with an unimaginable hope that comes to the brim like a glass about to spill over. I try to show you in every way that my heart is yours now, so I do what I am most afraid of and say the most meaningful words I know. We’ve only been official three weeks but my heart has known yours for a year and it can’t take the silence any longer. But the silence continues. You don’t respond. You say you’re not ready for that yet. Crack. I say it’s okay and to take your time all the while the crevice grows. A week goes by and my mind battles itself. I constantly pick and pull and the threads keeping my mind in tact. Every day feels like a struggle with one second full of never ending happiness and the next gut wrenching pain and sadness. My two sides constantly yell at one another making it hard to read the subtitles of my heart. The finally you say it back. The day was bad and long until you couldn’t stand another argument another sad moment so utter what my heart longs to feel. And it does. It feels it so much it never wants to let go and it pushes and pushes for it to stay. Month after month goes by filled with happy times overlooked by small fights and missed dates. I thought I was giving you my all when really it was therapy session you didn’t ask for. The days feel forced and my mind questions you at every turn because that’s what it knows. My heart loves your more than anything else but my mind knows yours is fading from view. I start to push more and more knowing the moment is coming when that brick wall will consume me. Crack. You say you’re fine and that nothing is wrong. The strings feel that familiar pull and my mouth starts before my heart can wrench it back. I question again and again and again. Leaving you tired and drained. The fight felt like the leaves when they fall off the tree, drained and used. The next day comes and my heart knows what’s coming. We talk for hours on end not wanting the resolution to come but secretly knowing that it will. Crack. The resolution is here. Your heart leaves mine for good. Days feel like years and my heart is done for good. It knows nothing but pain and bleeding. It doesn’t understand and it wants you to come back but the mind knows you want yet the pulling won’t stop and it’s overwhelming and suffocating and it never ever stops. Until one day it does. One day the crevices stand still and the heart feels okay. Crack. You have found another. The heart breaks all over again and it knows it will never be the same. The heart try’s to grow and move but it can’t it still connects to yours. But you can’t and you won’t ruin the happiness you had so many times before. You want hurt his heart again. So you keep it in and do what the mind tells you to and you laugh and the heart aches again. It knows that love will never leave but you have to let it go. Then it happens again. Thump. Thump. Thump.
By Cordelia’s Corner6 years ago in Humans
5 Warning Signs You’re Dating A Narcissist and It’s Time to Run
I remember I was pretty upset when things didn’t work out the way I wanted it to be. Yet my gut still told me that this is the best decision I’ve ever taken for myself.
By Anggun Bawinur6 years ago in Humans