Reasons why ladies love toxic guys

Another word for the toxic guys Is “bad boy”. Well here are some of the reasons I thinks ladies like “bad boys”

1.low self esteem: if you are a lady that already has confidence problem u would especially accept a guy that is rude, unfair and unkind to you because you are already doing does things to yourself, but if you are a lady that has embraced self love you will easily see red flags and things that you can’t do to your self, let alone appreciate it to be done by someone else to you.

2.Short term physical attraction: a woman that is not looking for commitment or long term relationships can be easily attracted to bad boys because of the flashy things they wear or do to show they are the cool boys, in the middle of the line these sort of women fall in love and forget the guy is a bad boy and then want the guy to change and be good for them therefore getting their heart broken.

3. They prey on your insecurities: they compliment you now n the next thing make a joke about your insecurities. They play with your emotions in other to Control you and brain wash you.

4. Physical attraction: some of the women ignore red flags because of their physical attraction to the bad boy, toxic men often appear alpha and confident which is generally attractive. There by making someone intrigued.

i want to put in that some of the men that are toxic, enjoy seeing you as a lady obviously being deceived, I have heard many relationships with toxic men break than more of a reserved guy.

Sis, you don’t deserve bare minimum, sis you deserve effort, sis you deserve a matured and sensitive individual, sis your heart deserves to be pampered.

On the other hand their are woman that sees toxic love as a true sign of true love, and there could be many reasons for this;

1. Childhood upbringing: no father figure, no fatherly love, when they saw their mother being abused by the father growing up can make some women seek validation from men that give them bare minimum, they feel like that’s how the world works, they succumb to the situation, men should do better to remove their daughters from this circle because even the sons that grew up with such experiences turn to be the so called “toxic guy” in future. Because the father didn’t set a good example.

2.fear of rejection: many women fear rejection because of this reason that is why a toxic guy will use the hot and cold method for u where at a moment they seem okay but then at a longer moment they seems distant from you, it’s a studied psychological way of making some one miss you and desire you more, they use this method a lot to get the woman that fear rejection to get immediately attached, which leads us to number 3.

3. Fear of detachment: once attached to someone some people truly and genuinely don’t know how to detach it changes their mood, the sadness and the bad part when everything reminds you of them, if you are some one like this you need to learn and master detachment, because most of these toxic men has learnt it and they don’t really care about that deep sadness that comes with the detachment to you.

In all this I endeavor ladies to have self love and self awareness, I am not saying that u should be heartless, but you should not be a people pleaser, live for yourself and for only things that brings happiness and positivity in your life, be free, be smart, be clever in and at all times remain calm. Speaking of calm let me tell you guys this secret, remaining calm while he does all his toxic tricks, will make him wonder if you are not bothered about it, if you truly love him. There by making him to stand up more for u in the relationship, situationship or sneaky link lol. In all just be you plus lots of self love. Thanks for reading see you in the next article.