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Planning to Ask a Girl Out?

Relationship With a Girl

By Biswajit DeyPublished 2 years ago 4 min read
Planning to Ask a Girl Out?
Photo by Valerie Elash on Unsplash

There are several things you need to plan when you are

going to ask a girl out. This Articles will guide you through

the planning.


 Reason for Failure

 Plan to do Something Exciting

 Plan the Logistics of Your Date in Advance

 Take it as Read, That You Have to do the


 Choosing the Right Moment

 Knowing When the Time is Right to ask Her


You are likely to come across some tough situations

throughout your life-time. However, perhaps one of the

toughest will be getting it right, when you ask a girl out on

a date. You are hoping she will say yes straight away.

However, you may not always be that lucky and she may

say no, or make excuses as to why she cannot go out with


Here are some tips on how you can get the girl to say yes to

your request for a date.

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Reason for Failure

If you are a stranger to the girl, you are asking out, the

chances are she is more likely to say no. You could be

‘Jack the Ripper’ for all she knows. Her response will

likely be an act of self-preservation that has little to do

with you. She will be applying what she has been taught

since early childhood ‘not to talk, or go with strangers’

You should not allow a rejection to dent your self confidence. You need to take things slowly and spend

some time as acquaintances, getting to know each other.

Once she gets to know and starts to feel comfortable with

you, she is much more likely to say yes.

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Plan to Do Something Exciting

Choose something fun activities you can do with a group of

friends. That gives you the opportunity to invite the girl to

join your group as a friend. You then have a non threatening opportunity to relax and interact so you can

get to know each other better.

If you succeed in getting the girl to hang out with you and

some friends, you will find it much easier to ask her on a

date. She is more likely to say yes, because she has seen

that you can be a fun guy.

Be spontaneous, and don’t be afraid to show you have a

caring side. Show her you are intelligent and can talk

about topics other than what’s going on at school or at

home. Talk about subjects or hobbies that really interest

you, and take time to find out what she likes and dislikes.

It is all about natural and free flowing communication and

getting to know about each other.

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Plan the Logistics of Your Date in Advance

Plan ahead and know what you intend to do on the date.

Then when you ask her if she is free that evening, you can

tell her what you have planned and ask if that is OK with

her. If she has already said she is free that night, she is

unlikely to say no. If she sees you are willing to

compromise about what you want to do during the date, it

will help to win you brownie points.

However, if after saying she is free, she then starts to make

excuses why she cannot go on the date with you. You

should accept it as a good sign, she is not attracted to you.

Alternatively, if she says, she already has plans for the

evening you want to take her out; you can try some charm

and gentle persuasion. If she knows you are a fun person

to be with, and she is attracted to you, you may get her to

change her plans. Or you can ask her what night would be

OK with her.

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Take it as Read That You Have to do the Asking.

Don’t labor under the misapprehension that a girl will ask

you out on a date. Contrary to a popular belief, there are

only a very small number of girls who will ask you out. If

you don’t want to miss out, then be prepared to be the one

that asks for a date.

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Choosing the Right Moment

Making sure you choose the right moment to ask a girl on

a date is important. If you rush in and ask her before she

has had the chance to get to know you, she will say no. It

may take several meetings as friends before you find the

right moment. You need to be patient, use your instincts

and learn to read the signs she is giving you, and you

should know instinctively when she is ready to progress to


Knowing When the Time is Right to Ask Her Out

There are several signs that may indicate that the girl is

ready to go out on a date with you. In addition to the way

she looks at you and her body language, you may notice a

more intimate tone in her conversation with you.

She will show an interest in you, even when you talk about

something boring or are saying very little. You need to

rely on your instinct and natural ability to know when the

time is right to ask her for a date.

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