LIVE APART TOGETHER

Seven years ago, Jane Keller and Ken Porter began dating. They weren't seeking love, but we were, very content individuals when we first met. It took about three months, if memory serves, for him to give me a real kiss. Years later, despite having different interests, they are still happy and committed.

Jane likes to perform music, while Ken prefers his woodworking shop.

He enjoys watching big-screen television, while she prefers to read quietly. However, their relationship differs from the ordinary in another way.

I've lived in my home for about 35 years, and it is just as I like it.

Right, and when I first met Ken six years ago, he was in a house about a mile away, so we kind of had this idea that we didn't have to live together, and then, I think, it became this ah-ha moment that we could just keep on living like this, living apart together. They've both been divorced before and learned from previous relationships that as much as they cherish their time together, they also appreciate their time alone.

There are alternatives to the usual living together arrangement known as living apart together or lat. You may have an excellent relationship while living apart.

Ken and Jane are very dedicated to their relationship, and Ken recently bought a house next to Jane's in Sault Ste. Marie, Ontario.

I am now working on my dissertation, which requires a lot of attention and concentration. Occasionally in the nights, I will try to get something done, often I’ll say you need to go home because I can’t focus with you around.

He can go home for a couple of hours and then come back and give me a good night kiss because he lives just next door.

According to Statistics Canada, more couples are opting to live apart from one another. Between 2006 and 2017, the percentage of couples who claimed to be doing so increased from six to nine percent.

This freedom to set their own rules is what appealed to many people, especially women and single mothers, it seems, and it's not just in Canada. Associate professor of family demography Livia ola at Stockholm University in Sweden, who studies what types of people are drawn to long-term relationships, says that it allows for more equity in roles and breaks down stereotypes because they are not required to follow the conventional tradition.

Heather Macdonald met her partner in Vancouver when she was in her late thirties. They have been together for more than three years.

The benefits of living apart together are that you really make a point of spending time with each other. You are not going to fight over the little things like your socks are on the floor or you forgot to put the dishes away, but you're going to really enjoy each other's company. Just make a point of every time you are together being special because you don't get to see each other very often.

She is also a single parent of a 14-year-old son and her partner Jordan, who is also a single father.

I think one of my biggest worries is that I naturally take on a mother role and my step kids have a mother and a father they don't need a stepmom in the background nagging them. My job is to be a support for them someone they can trust someone else another positive adult in their life. So, we're really lucky because I live right here, and Jordan lives about a block away just over that way.

Some people would think that this arrangement lacks commitment, yet Heather and Jordan recently expressed their love for one another in public.

When a couple does not live together and doesn't want to have children together, it was crucial for me to get married to formalize our relationship and have something to show him when we told our story.

According to Libya, there are financial benefits to lat, such as keeping assets separate. Men who live in multiple relationships are more likely to own their homes. Previously, it was thought that women might be more afraid of losing their possessions, but it now appears that many men are just as concerned about keeping their apartment or home.

Living apart from one another has many benefits, but there are some drawbacks as well. One of them is benefits, and we are not just talking about fringe ones.

Jane believes the current system is discriminatory because she is not eligible for Ken's extended medical benefits. If we were living apart but married, his benefits would cover me, and if we were living together but not married, his benefits would cover me, but in this case, they do not because he lives next door. I can understand from the insurance company's perspective that there may be more opportunities for fraud and other irregularities, but it is still the only difference between a cohabiting couple and us address we don't share an address and to me, that's discrimination there. It's one of the reasons why research done by people like Livia is crucial because it aims to understand why people choose to live apart and for how long. This knowledge helps policymakers understand what relationships look like in the modern era and how to adapt. The pandemic may be increasing the number of people drawn to this type of lifestyle.

Relationship specialist Natasha Sharma why or how could living apart together be good for our relationship we’ve been in jail for two years, right, I mean like we have right, like we've been seeing the same faces day in and day out. I am a mother, a wife, and a father of two children, so I think a lot of people will relate to what I'm saying: "You can get too much of anything, even a good thing is too much." Some people may question the commitment of couples who all the time are not together because that goes against what society has taught us. We were raised and molded in this archetype, which states that this is wrong.

We need to take a step back from this indoctrination of the way we think things should look because they should not look that way in most cases. Instead, they should be reflective of our individual needs, individual desires, and our individual lifestyles and personas.

Jane claims it gives her the freedom to live her life how she chooses. Louis is quick to point out that you cannot really judge the commitment in a relationship, but we might have been able to compromise and do everything you need to do and live together, and we might still be happy together now.

We are together because we genuinely want to be, so I believe that makes it better for us because we want to be together and we have a lot of fun together as a result, so I think it's simply a better relationship whether two people live together or not.