Is Accepting Your Loss The Best Way To Win In Love?

No one wants to lose.

Be it in love, career or any other important endeavor in life.

We want to win! We want to prove that all the hard work we’ve put into our dreams will pay off one day.

Because what would happen if we just accept all our losses? If we don’t try again? Or if we don’t try hard enough?

Only those who persist can claim the prize of success, isn’t it?

But have you noticed how sometimes trying again and again never seems to get you anywhere near your goal?

Have you ever felt so exhausted giving your all and seeing no progress in return?

This commonly happens in our relationships. When looking for a life partner, you may feel as though you just needed to give it everything you’ve got and a relationship would work out in the end.

And so you try harder and harder. You assess yourself over and over again.

When the relationship still seems to fail, you wonder where you’ve gone wrong. You torment yourself as you ask, “What more should I do? How much longer must I try?”

The longer you try, the more desperate you become. You may not know it, but anger may be slowly welling up inside you.

You’re angry because you’ve done your part, and maybe more than what’s required of you! Yet despite it all, you’re still being hurt, neglected or pushed aside.

Should you try harder? Is that the only way?

While I’m not advocating on abandoning every relationship that encounters difficult times, there are cases when you need to take a more objective look at your situation.

Are you the only one trying to make the relationship work?

Is your future partner showing signs of selfishness or even tendencies of abuse?

Because if that’s the case, trying harder may not be the course of action you need to take. If that’s the case, accepting your losses may be the only way to save yourself from further harm.

Many people find it hard to let go because they have already invested so much in their relationships. They have invested time, tears and sweat. They have put their whole hearts and souls into making the relationship work for a long time. It just seems so unfair that after all your troubles, you’d get nothing in return.

You’ve planted the seeds, you’ve watered them, you’ve waited for sun and rain and everything you think you need, but in the end, you discover that the seeds you’ve planted were rotten from the start. Putting more effort would do no good. You must accept the truth that no plant would ever grow, and no fruit would ever be harvested.

Accept your losses. You can’t win it all.

Stop blaming yourself for all the things that did not work in your life.

Be responsible but don’t carry the burden of the whole world upon your shoulders.

Don’t be like a gambler who goes deeper and deeper into debt because he could never accept his loss.

The truth may hurt, but in the end, it’s still the truth that shall set you free.

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Mend My Broken Heart

“No matter how much we want to, there is no magic formula in healing a broken heart. There is no time-frame also. What we need is to know that our suffering is not meaningless, that the love we have given was never wasted, and that somewhere beyond all our pain, there is hope, hope that could help us endure the hurt we’re going through.”