Have You Wasted Your Time on the Wrong Person?

The last thing we ever want to do is to fall in love with the wrong person.

Who wouldn’t want to avoid one’s heart being broken by keeping away from the very people that could break your heart?

But reality is often different from our hopes.

It sometimes brings us to the those people that would hurt us. It awakens us to the truth that not everyone would give you the same kind of love and care you have given them.

What if you wake up one day and you found out you’ve wasted such a long time on the wrong person?

Of course the first thing that may come to mind is to break away immediately.

Save yourself from more regrets. Mend your heart while you still can!

But our hearts are not like machines that can easily be programmed that way.

Our hearts are tender and fragile and much slower than the thoughts running through our heads.

Here’s what our hearts could be saying after falling in love with the wrong person for so long:

1. I’ve already wasted so much time on this person. It’s not so easy to accept that. What if I just try harder to make things work?

2. I feel so guilty letting myself be hurt this way for so long. What’s wrong with me? How can I ever forgive myself and move on?

3. I’m afraid to fall in love again. I have invested so much in this relationship but it eventually failed in the end. What if my next relationship just turns out to be the same?

As difficult as it may be to try to talk to your heart, you must start somehow.

Begin somewhere and as early as possible to make even the smallest steps for your healing.

Here are some things that can help you recover from the breakup:

1. Give yourself time to grieve

You need time. Don’t rush it.

You have to cry all of those tears so that you can release the brokenness you feel within you.

2. Accept your loss

After grieving, you must somehow accept the loss. It often becomes more difficult when we refuse to accept that things have gone wrong somewhere and we try to fix what can no longer be mended.

3. Learn the lessons from the past

You may feel that you have just wasted all those years with the wrong person, but that time has also taught you a lot. After your painful experience, you have gained much also.

You now have the wisdom that you can apply to your other relationships. You are also much stronger now than you used to be. Use that strength to love even better next time.

4. Look towards a different future

Don’t be trapped in the past. Learn to hope again. Don’t let the pain of your past define the life you could still have. Look towards a brighter tomorrow!

Final words

You may have invested so much time on the wrong person, but you don’t have to stay trapped in a wrong relationship.

Set yourself free and find the kind of love you’re looking for.

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"Mend My Broken Heart"

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Mend My Broken Heart

“No matter how much we want to, there is no magic formula in healing a broken heart. There is no time-frame also. What we need is to know that our suffering is not meaningless, that the love we have given was never wasted, and that somewhere beyond all our pain, there is hope, hope that could help us endure the hurt we’re going through.”