A Woman's Guide To The First Date

It may seem challenging to date. It's challenging to be ourselves and avoid offending the other person while still attempting to impress them. This might seem quite challenging at times, and for women it may be much more challenging because many of them don't seem to understand what a guy actually wants. How can you entice a man? What's the greatest method to win him over without scaring him away? Do guys appreciate sophisticated, self-assured girls more than cheap thrills? There are so many myths and misconceptions about guys and dating that it can truly seem like a very enormous and frightening thing. Fortunately, this isn't the case at all. As long as you know what you're doing, real dating is far easier than it may initially appear to be.

In order to make things more straightforward, I divide dating into two categories: long-term dating and short-term dating. After you and your partner have gotten to know one another quite well, grown more devoted to one another, and begun a serious relationship, the long term will make up the majority of your partnership. The initial four or more dates when you're still getting to know each other and trying to "catch" them are referred to as the short term. First impressions are crucial, and they frequently determine whether you'll stick around for the long haul throughout this time. Due to this pressure, it appears that certain problems for women develop as a result of a lack of knowledge about how the other sex thinks and perceives the world. Since most of how we judge a person is based on their first impressions, how you handle them is crucial. I'll discuss a couple of these topics and provide you with some insight into how we men actually feel about them.

On a first date, eating appears weird but is actually a common problem for women. Although it's insignificant and inconsequential, it seems that many ladies experience moderate anxiety when deciding what to eat in front of a man. It appears that many ladies are self-conscious about their appearance and end up ordering something leafy and green instead of something like a cheeseburger or those onion rings. They believe that by eating a typical dinner in front of a man, he will view her in a negative light or assume she is a pig! Is this, however, actually the case?

Obviously not. The most important thing a guy wants from a date is to enjoy himself and learn something new. Can you determine the best strategy to make sure he enjoys being in your company? Ensure that you are acting at ease and naturally around him by being yourself. Tell him you're loving your food when you place your order! If you would ordinarily order a cheeseburger, do so now. Just be sure to behave properly at the table! If the man has already asked you out, it indicates that he finds you appealing. He truly doesn't care whether you're eating greasy cheeseburgers or leafy green vegetables; all that matters is that you're out on a date and having fun with him. Eating like a rabbit won't change his opinion of you, so it's far better if you stick to what you enjoy and act normally around him.

We're now moving on to clothing, which generally causes much greater distress. What do you put on? Should you try to attract him solely through physical attraction by dressing in flamboyant, revealing clothing with lots of skin? Women are aware that males are strongly attracted to female bodies, so the thinking goes that if you show him more of yours, he'll want to get to know you better. Is this how it operates then?

Certainly not. The feminine body naturally draws men's attention. When it comes to dating him, though, that is wholly unimportant. Just because a girl wears loose or flirty clothing doesn't guarantee that a good guy will stick by her side. Think about it—do you really believe that relationships between strippers are ones of love, respect, and compassion? Naturally not, no. If that were the case, they would have likely selected a different career path. Men believe the female body to be highly beautiful, yet they don't often date ladies who are promiscuous. A man might be drawn to you while still respecting you. Naturally, attire plays a significant role in that, but a girl's attitude is far more crucial. A man finds nothing more seductive than a self-assured girl, and I can't stress this enough. A female who is confident in her accomplishments is always more appealing. Men should not project confidence by wearing apparel that is barely there. The insecurity is almost audible in it. A classy, appealing wardrobe is essential. Men have a wide range of preferences; some find a female wearing a t-shirt to be incredibly stunning, while others are considerably more drawn to women wearing more formal dress. Find clothes that suit you well, regardless of your body type, but avoid flaunting your complete frame in public. Use your feminine fashion sense to choose an outfit that flatters your body type as you are a woman. In the end, men don't want to date someone who is a street walker.

How to start a great conversation is probably the most crucial and potentially difficult skill. Avoid the "Awkward silence" and "Overbearing and flaky" pitfalls, which are both huge pitfalls. You need to be careful not to fall off the thin strip of land that spans the gap between these two terrible abysses. What's wrong? When two people first meet, they are typically a little worried about what the other person thinks and saying all the proper things, which deals a severe blow to the true dialogue. This is a major issue because talking to people is the easiest approach to win them over. You've taken a giant stride forward if you can start off a good, natural discussion. Simply said, it's far simpler to fall into one of the two holes and either have awkward silences in which you are unsure of what to say, or you bring up subjects and make comments only to break the ice, coming out as uneasy and at ease. The issue will only get worse as a result of this. How then can you resolve this and get the conversation moving in the correct direction?

Ensure that you get him talking, though! And the good news is that it's really simple to do if you give it a little consideration. Just take a moment to consider how human beings naturally behave. We all like to chat about topics that are important to us. The activities we enjoy doing in our leisure time, our hobbies, or the things we are enthusiastic about. Starting a conversation about a topic they are interested in is the best approach to get someone to talk to you! However, there is a key to this since you have to make sure you do this wholly organically. You need to come across as at least somewhat curious about the subject. Imagine that you are out on a date with a football player. It will sound forced or uninteresting to ask him, "So, uh, you play football, don't you?" He plays football, thus it goes without saying that he loves to play it! - You'll have him in the palm of your hand once you can persuade him to start talking about it seriously! Ask him how he got into football and how long he's been playing it! Make sure your questions are sincere! This is a double-edged sword for you since, in addition to getting him to chat cheerfully and eagerly, you are also learning a lot more about him for future conversation. A man will enjoy himself and start to respect you as a good listener if he feels comfortable opening up to you and sharing his interests with you.

Men are not particularly complex or difficult to understand, but we do deserve a lot more credit than we typically receive. Most good guys aren't searching for a quick rush in bed or someone with a good body and a pretty face to cling to. When dating a girl, what a guy truly wants is to have a good time and be with someone who makes him feel at ease. All a guy wants in a relationship is a friend to share everything with, someone to have fun with, and someone we respect as a person. On your first few dates with a guy, always dress nicely and with confidence, but be yourself and don't stress about getting the cheeseburger or the fries. Also, keep the dialogue moving. You'll be sure to enjoy yourself on any date if you follow these advice.