Do or do not - there is no try. The ins and outs of one of the most difficult jobs on earth: parenting.
"Because I Said So!"
Everyone has heard it, most of us have said it, “Because I said so” has been a frustrating cop-out parents have used as a blanket excuse for anything they didn’t feel like justifying at the time.
I remember it like it was yesterday, my mother telling me "Do not marry a man with a whole bunch of kids". I knew what she was trying to say, I had watched her over the years having to deal with so much. My Dad had 10 kids that called my Mom their Stepmother. It seemed like every month we had a new edition to the household. They would come and go like there was a revolving door and with opened arms she would accept them, she loved them all.
Free to Be
Does anyone remember the iconic children's album and illustrated book from the 1972 called Free To Be... You and Me? While I don't remember this "Top 100 Albums of All Time" work, published when I was 6 years old, I know that the phrase "Free To Be" has resonated through my being for as long as I can remember. This work by Marlo Thomas and several of her friends tells ALL children that they can be whomever and whatever they can be. Here we are, 48 years later, still working on this same message.
Being a first time mum with mental health
Being a First Time Mum and Mental health STOP. This is a safe place for you to stop for a minute and read. The words mental health are scary to admit and no one really likes to say they struggle with this but so many people do and I think it's a subject we all need to talk about more in a positive not a negative way.
Momming ain't easy
*TW: talk of pregnancy, motherhood* "They don't come with a manual". I mean, at this point, after literally thousands and thousands of years of people growing and raising babies, you think we might have some sort of easy-to-follow plan on how not to screw up a human child, no? Or at the very least how not to lose your mind while trying not to screw up said child? I think we could maybe all sit down and try to do that?
Peaceful Warriors~breaking the cycle Do you remember your childhood? What memories haunt you, which comfort you? We were all so strong and confident, so ready to take on the world, we had power in our imagination, and we had nothing but strength in our hands and hearts. Our dreams were everything. Children are innocent, gloriously innocent, they still believe in the world around us, don’t take that from your children, let them play, let them get dirty, let them fall, then pick them up,and tell them to try again, how you speak to them holds a huge impact on their mental and emotional states. If a child is taught they are useless, dumb, inadequete that is what they believe, and that is who they become, don’t be like your parents, don’t drown them in your own issues, don’t talk about your bills, and your mortgage and how much you hate your job, the word hate breeds hate, it teaches them to be angry. Be better than our parents, teach them good things, teach them that there is no limit to what they can become or achieve. Show them mercy, and they will show others mercy. Don’t strike them, it takes away their trust, and you are their heroes. Don’t take that from them. Fathers are honest, strong, faithful and protective, mothers are loving, strong and kind they are teachers. Teach them that no matter what the truth is always better than being right.
Times are tough for kids. For reasons, they can't understand, their lives have been turned upside down. They are doing everything from home, including learning. This is a list of activities to help them have fun and simultaneously learn.
Mother's Day Gift to Myself
May 10th of the year 2020, I was walking through Wal-Mart with my 8 year old daughter still waiting to hear just the words Happy Mothers Day. I did not expect a gift from her since school was distance learning from home due to Covid, in addition to being separated from their father who would have otherwise reminded her to at least say something nice. I used all my efforts to remind myself to just keep breathing.
Moms Who Do It Anyway
First, let me explain what kind of homeschool mom I am. I hate it. I love my boys to death (we're supposed to say that no matter what), but I don’t like teaching them. It takes forever and their little hands are so slow and they're so bad at things. I know I’m supposed to think it’s adorable that they suck at reading and writing and basic critical thinking and that they’re really good at making messes and crying for no logical reason. But yeah, no. I’m not a fan.
Parenting is a Mindf**k
I found myself standing in the bathroom of the house I shared with my best friend early one morning, in late November 2008. I was brushing my teeth, trying like hell to ignore the pregnancy test on the counter next to me. I counted down the minutes as I brushed, anxiety churning, my stomach in knots.
How To Be A Bad Mom
I’m not a very good mom. In fact, most of my friends are better at “momming” than I am. Society defines the concept in ways I don’t match up to. I don’t wear makeup or dresses. I don’t do my hair or nails. I don’t keep an immaculate house. I don’t like shopping or decorating. I’m not a fan of major holidays nor the cheer that comes with them. Play dates are the worst. Sometimes, I don’t even like my kids. But mostly, I don’t like being a “mom.”
Parenting is Hard Work
Parenting is one of the hardest jobs in the world. There is no manual and no correct way of doing everything (even though most people will tell you that you are doing something wrong). You do not get sick days or vacations; you are the chief, chauffer, coach, teacher, extra. There are going to be days where you think am I really up for this, days where the love is over whelming and some days where making the cut just doesn't seem enough. With all the things you have to do and give up; being a parent seems like a hard enough job. Well, you my friend would not be wrong in you assumption that this job is not always cracked up to what it is.