Learning to navigate the world without Belle
I left a dream on a shelf because I felt that my voice didn’t matter. I slid back into the shadows unconsciously and put my own aspirations and dreams aside because I was constantly bombarded by feelings of insignificance and not being able to realize my own gifts. I simply forgot that I mattered in this world. I put thoughts in my own head that sharing my stories, experiences, etc. would be laughed at and outside opinions mattered more than my own. When someone told me I wasn’t a great writer, I took that to heart and believed them. I didn’t take the constructive criticism into consideration and use it as a catalyst to improve my writing. I shut down their opinion and stopped writing. Why did their opinion matter more than my own? Why did I let them control my dream?
Overcoming our self-limiting beliefs that determine whether we are worthy of love in life is a challenge that most people these days struggle with. If we don't believe we are worthy of love, then another person will not see our value either. "We accept the the love we think we deserve." And we have locked ourselves into preservation mode that prevents us from allowing another person to love us as we are, flaws, baggage and all. Have you lived a life in solitude, because you are so afraid to love someone that you’ve convinced yourself that you are undeserving of love? When finding another person you are interested in, do you think of reasons why it can’t work out? Do you often tell yourself that they are too good for you, and that loving you is impossible?
“Ignoring your passion is slow suicide. Never ignore what your heart pumps for. Mold your career around your lifestyle, not your lifestyle around your career.”
Fear: That terrifying feeling that grips your entire being into paralyzing inaction. A state of being that prevents us from living a full and complete life where our dreams are possible and life is full of beauty and wonder. Fear of living is not living at all. It is death while breathing, but not completely... It is the inability to see your potential, realize it and make It happen. It is utter agony to be in such a state of inaction where your thoughts control your motivation and next steps.
What is the number one item in your life that you are constantly fighting with yourself about? Take a look at the first sentence and read it again. They key world is "yourself." We are living in a world with an exorbitant amount of pressure that is placed on us. We are constantly being compared to what other people look like, what they're doing with their lives, or where they are going, when they got the college degree, had the kid or the the all American dream—the White picket fence and 2.5 kids/dogs/ etc. When do we stop the comparisons and take a look at our own journeys as separate and equal?