Elaine Sihera
Bio
British Empowerment Coach/Public speaker/DEI Consultant. Author: The New Theory of Confidence and 7 Steps To Finding And Keeping 'The One'!. Graduate/Doctor of Open Univ; Postgrad Cambridge Univ. Keen on motivation, relationships and books.
Stories (122/0)
In Seeking Dates Are We Just Hard to Please, Or is it Impossible to Find Someone Suitable?
Every human being has strengths and weaknesses. When we fall in love, we accept those two elements without question. We cannot isolate the strengths and wish away the weaknesses to get that perfect partner. They come as a package and the best relationships are created on the foundations of balance in our partners, not hoping a partner will change into a perfect being later down the line. That expectation would bring a lot of disappointment, and ultimately resentment, as the relationship develops.
By Elaine Sihera12 months ago in Humans
5 Reasons Teens Lie to Their Parents
Many parents have experienced it at some time or other: teenagers who lie, and the loss of trust that results, and they can find it difficult to cope with. Lying is a common occurrence, but there are clear, and obscure, reasons why teens do lie. Understanding those reasons could foster a better relationship between teens and parents; one that would reduce the need for any lies.
By Elaine Sihera12 months ago in Families
The Power Of Maintaining A Special Relationship
Often we don't realise the effect on our mental and emotional health of being closely connected to someone we really care about. Eight years ago, when I was having complicated health issues and couldn't care less about meeting someone, he walked into my life and changed it dramatically with his presence, his humour, his affection, his never-ending hugs, and his genuine love for me. It has been the most awesome relationship at this stage of my life, and I have no doubt that it has helped me to deal more positively with my health issues, to laugh much more and to simply enjoy life to the full each day. Just having him there is the greatest blessing I could have wished for. I did not need him to complete me, but together we have had the most amazing time, enriching each other's experience and life-quality in unexpected and life-affirming ways.
By Elaine Sihera12 months ago in Humans
Can Confidence Be Learnt In A Simple Process?
Yes, confidence can be learned but it is not an external process that one follows. It is basically a process of internal, emotional exploration to first identify the root cause of why you lack confidence, then slowly working on each aspect to build that confidence gradually. But it doesn’t happen overnight, and it won’t get any better if you live in denial about the reason, or refuse to address certain issues. Honesty with yourself is the very first step, but the whole process of confidence building starts from this simple one:
By Elaine Sihera12 months ago in Motivation
Dancing To The Music Of Life
How does one compile a soundtrack to a life that has been so varied and unpredictable? A life full of joy, on one hand, but seared with pain, hurt trauma, parental rejection, and mind-boggling struggles? Nothing can ever really convey the impact and the uneven rhythm of such a life.
By Elaine Sihera12 months ago in Beat
How Do I 'Motivate' Myself To Write?
As a prolific writer, I often have people asking me for tips on writing effectively, or prioritising their words, but there is nothing to it, if we write from the heart and believe in what one we are writing. Belief means NO care about what others are going to say about it. They can always write their own piece and they might even be applauded for it!
By Elaine Sihera12 months ago in Motivation
How Can I Stop Being Lazy And Take Responsibility For Myself?
When we have not conformed to our own expectations it is easy to label ourselves as 'lazy'. However, as there are some definite negative mindsets around the concept of laziness, the real question for you is: Are you really 'lazy', or is there something else preventing you from fulfilling your own desires?
By Elaine Sihera12 months ago in Motivation
Why Most New Relationships Last Only 3 Months!
According to research by dating app, Inner Circle, 68% of daters have had a relationship that ended after just three months! Apparently it is due to something called the ‘feelings gap’ - “the difference in the amount of time each partner takes to decide whether or not they want to be in a long-term relationship”.
By Elaine Sihera12 months ago in Humans
How Do I Get Past The Fear To Ask Someone Out?
Many people who have confidence believe that it is not too difficult to ask someone out. It's as easy as striking up a conversation. But it is is quite nerve wracking for some due to four main things: our personal level of confidence and self esteem, the desire for approval, our self worth and the immediate goal. These four factors have to be addressed in some way before we can find the courage to persuade someone to date us. After all, if we believe we are insignificant, worthless and not worth dating, we cannot be surprised when others believe it, too, and stay away!
By Elaine Sihera12 months ago in Humans
The Main Reason For The Choices We Make
Unfortunately, sometimes we make seemingly inappropriate choices that end up with negative, unforeseen consequences. We wish we could change them and had acted differently. But why does this happen, often too regularly? Perhaps because we are constantly growing and evolving, never static.
By Elaine Sihera12 months ago in Psyche
How Does Someone Regain Their Self-Worth After a Break Up?
It is very easy for our self-esteem to take a nosedive the moment we have had a breakup, especially when we did not instigate it and feel rejected, because breaking-up is emotionally draining. Nothing prepares us for it. The reasons for the low self-esteem are threefold.
By Elaine Sihera12 months ago in Humans
Do You Often Feel Very Lonely?
If you are feeling ‘very lonely’, it will be more difficult to attract love to you. A feeling of acute loneliness suggests we don't like our own company too much, we have no love to give, neither to ourselves or others, so we would have little to attract what we want. The Law of Attraction will only get us what we are giving, and if all we have to give is a feeling of isolation and unhappiness, it’s not possible to attract what we want.
By Elaine Siheraabout a year ago in Humans