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Our meeting is beautiful
I often think of those words that write before, at that time, like to read xi Murong's poem, like to see ancient poetry, in fact, youth is a lyric poem, at that time the sky is colorful color, the body is flowing recklessly blood, impulse, impetuous, right also miss. In each of my poems, there is a girl's back, and every girl is different. Some of them are road encounters, some are my classmates or friends, and some are even my elders. I write about them because they are beautiful, and beautiful things don't just move me, beautiful things move the world. For example, when I was a child, every time I walked across the Rock pot Bridge in the east of my house, I saw the babbling water under the bridge, and occasionally there were fish on the water, I could not help but stop. There are green willow caresses the wind in spring, and flowers on both sides in summer. Every time I think of my high school English teacher, she looked at her desk preparing lessons, the beautiful image of strolling reading, and her gentle rebuke to us, real smile. Now, to see the children focus on the white paper graffiti, that luxuriantly green woods, clumsy chickens and ducks, and smiling sunrise, naughty stars. To know what beauty is. No overtones, no self-defeating. All is pure, pure, transparent. That kind of beauty is pure, like the snow lotus on the Qilian Mountain, like the sunshine in Tibet, like the rain on the Mongolian grassland. It seems to be my pure love story. Remember very small time, like the girl in the class, she is thin, tied a ponytail, is our school sports team athletes, every time to see her, she always run, and run. He was young and giggling all the time. It is also her sunshine, attracted me, she sat in my back row, every time in class, she always teasing me behind me, make me red in the face. Although, as the growth of the age, I and her classmates together for five years, but I always dare not to say to her, it was a summer evening the gorgeous sunset, I was walking on the campus road, suddenly, a girl coming from the opposite me, slipped on a piece of paper to me, I felt panic, walk to the corner of the cafeteria, just secretly open, is adjacent to the class of girl, We often meet in the library. At this time, my first decision is to tell my secret love for her for several years. After that night, I was able to breathe a sigh of relief because it turned out the way I expected. My heart can finally unload this burden, we pass by. Five years of rubbing shoulders, although not the imprint is engraved on my heart, but there is always some sadness. Later, I and the literature girl's story is very simple, we study together, spent together on the playground fascinating extracurricular activity time, she later transferred to the city, although wrote two letters to me, I did not return, it was such a beautiful over, in fact, we have no hand pull, closest just side by side. College entrance examination that year, I and several girls in our class have become iron friends, at the beginning of our very harmonious, together with slapstick, joking, later, gradually a lot of trouble, boys and girls friendship, like a piece of ice on the side of the fire, maybe. Later, I know the girl is my sister type, mostly a friend's sister, the university of younger sister, we also like each other, but, I have no way to love, if it is love, rather than affection...... I met her through a referral. During a job interview, her aunt noticed me and set me up. The first time we touched, our marriage was confirmed, because I saw maternal warmth in her. We are married first after love, although, at the beginning of the experience of pain run-in, we quarreled over, once, I drunk, and she quarreled after even attempted suicide, later days slowly calm. She is a woman who is hated and loved even more. She has been spoiled by her family since childhood and has a bad temper. Later, I often think that since her parents can spoil her, why can't I, as her lover, love her more. Looking back on the years with her, although bitter, but I never give up, because this life, we can come together, how to say it is not easy. What is love, love is a habit, unpredictable, unspoken; Love is giving, not taking. You can't get anything without giving. Looking back, the in the mind always have faintly disappointed, though that one month is already gone in the wind, however, there is a call lost something but precipitation in the heart, but I am very pleased, because our meeting are all beautiful, not too many sad, no more hurt too deep, those beautiful days we spent together, can only hope that the good in our hearts forever.
Emotional quotes from a cheating woman
Before the end of 2005, there was only one man in my world, my husband. I was so infatuated with him and depended on him. He was the man I had fallen in love with since I was 18 years old. But this is the man I love with my whole body, in late 2005, because of something inexplicable, serious domestic violence against me, in front of my parents, in front of my children. I still can't get over the fact that my parents, my son, were standing in our bedroom door, and the kid was crying out loud, and the parents were yelling at him to stop, and he just, like, stomped on me on the floor. I had three broken ribs as a result of that incident. So, in the whole country to celebrate the Spring Festival and the family immersed in the joy of family reunion, my family was under a cloud, it was two days before the Spring Festival. Because of their parents, so swallow their pride and insist on the end of the year, just after the second year of junior high school, parents strongly requested to go back, I know the parents heart is not happy, also no longer retain, so, sadly sent them away. I know they have been deeply hurt. Her husband's attitude is still as if nothing has happened in general, celebrating the Spring Festival. That year I, how much love him, from the follow-up of this thing can be seen, although I from the body to the heart are very hurt, but, I actually did a self-reflection, I think, if not too strong, will not provoke him, so, domestic violence is excusable. Until May, my ribs hurt when I pushed them too hard, but as long as the pain subsided, I forgot. Maybe it's selective forgetting! In this way, the time came to the end of May 2005, one day I took my daughter to go shopping, the daughter shouted that she was tired and did not want to go, we conveniently into a fast food restaurant, it is very cool, here, I met the most longing to get a person in my life. He is the waiter here, still very clearly remember, he was wearing a white short-sleeved shirt, wearing a tie, the bottom of the clothes tied in the waist, waist is very thin, as if not a grasp, ha ha, that year, saw his first glance on the meaning of Yin... He didn't know that. Because not the rush hour, so he is idle, also went to play with my daughter, said her daughter is very beautiful, I of course is very useful, but I dare not flatter really, at that time because I is a focus on inner beauty in a woman, I think chastely, only empty inside will be too care about a person's appearance, the facts prove me wrong, And he's the one who put it right. I feel very abnormal, always have a crush on the thin tall boy, the best melancholy point, that is perfect! Over the years, I like to own this kind of abnormal condition finally found out the reasonable answers, my ribs, feel oneself is the virgin, save the plot, as if I am the angel sent by god, and then fall in love with the husband becomes too normal, I met the husband is because I heard that he just broke up with his girlfriend, he loves his girlfriend, but very real, Feel that he is not the ideal marriage object so simply put forward to break up, the husband is very painful, but the husband is a very face-saving person, so, when know the inside of the time, I immediately feel that all the husband's smile is bitter smile, including his bright laugh inside are mixed with pain...... Then, out of goodness worth mentioning, out of sympathy worth mentioning, out of abnormal rescue psychology worth mentioning, I began to approach husband slowly... He was a tall, thin boy with long hair. Therefore, at the first sight of him, I knew that he was my favorite type. However, I was not abnormal enough to fall in love with a child, because for many years before, I liked uncle type men, and my husband was seven years older than me. However, such is life, it never plays by the rules. So and Yan met, he is very talkative, also very humorous, told a few jokes to us soon, has also asked the daughter to him to tell jokes, I looked at them with a smile, then, is also one build what did not build with Yan, ask some of his situation, for a long time later, I discovered that I actually didn't come out, but he really is my answer... You can see how powerful his diplomatic rhetoric is. It's like everything, but nothing. I don't remember what I said. However, he asked for my phone number, and I hesitated to give it to him. He said, our shop will do activities recently, I will give you a card, which will be very preferential, mainly children will enjoy free, it is a pity not to do. I thought, isn't it just to get a card? There are so many different cards that women get in so many different places. So, I left his contact information, I did not want his, because, I was not sure he would call, a few days after returning home, I forgot about this matter, including this person. Until one afternoon, I in my boudoir beauty su Yan home, suddenly received a strange phone, I asked him which, only to listen to the phone at the end of his ha Ha said with a smile, is me, your card done, tonight on the big reward, you come? I noticed his choice of words. Didn't he ask my advice and say you're coming? I said, "Come on," and I'll get back to you. Hung up the phone, told Su Yan the story, asked her, want to go, in fact, with my sensitivity as a grown woman, I know, he is more curious about me. Su Yan said, go, why not go! You son of a bitch! You're afraid of him! Diem was finishing his shift when I met him, and he quickly brought me a cup of coffee, and I watched him work with interest, and I wondered what he was going to say to me, if he was really just telling me to pick up that boring card. Finally when he got off work, he said sorry to keep you waiting, let's go out for a walk. I got up obediently and followed him outside. Outside the fast food restaurant where he worked, there was a big square that was beautiful at night. The night view was so beautiful that almost everyone who visited the city stopped at the square... And here, has become almost every time we meet a fixed place. Casually sat down on the edge of the flower bed, he was a little surprised, but felt the unexpected look made me laugh, I laughed at him, how, sister and you imagine the same? He nodded, almost. That's what I think you are, frank and unaffected. Well, go ahead. What do you want to say to your sister? He looked at me, sure, and said, I've always liked tall, long-haired girls, and I think they're generally nice characters. I immediately vent, originally, this guy is the same as me, is also a abnormal condition! Imposing your preferences on others! However, the next sentence he said shocked me. He said, although we only met once, I could feel that you were not happy, and there were melancholy and troubles in your eyes. I do not know, this sentence is not a man seduce a woman's classical sentence pattern, but, when I was shocked, I think, can see through to a person's heart, this person is really not simple! In addition, he is very young, so, I think, he is not a simple young man. Perhaps he was not as naive at heart as he appeared? Curiosity was piqued at once. Now that I think about it, I was so green compared to Diem. And after two dates, is in the square, the summer night, have cool wind blowing slowly, next to a young handsome boy chatting knife-shaped eyebrows star purpose, sometimes will have the stars, sometimes there will be a bright, have to say, at that time, my mood is good, but even dating several times later, I still don't know his motives, we just chat, and, The main reason was that I was not confident about myself. At that time, I was not outstanding at all, just like my aunt. If it were not for the fact that my speech was a little attractive, there would be no redeemable points. But did Diem have the best eye? He knew right away that I was an emotionally explosible woman? This matter, I still do not understand. Our relationship took a turning point when WE first met after my business trip. After a week's business trip, I told him THAT I would come back today, he was very happy and said, I will take you to a nice place tonight, you are sure to like it, so let's meet each other at the same time? I know he sounds like he's talking to you, but he's already decided, just to let you know. But I like it, because it makes him feel like a man, not a boy. The moment we met, he hurried towards me with outstretched arms and a distant smile. I was embarrassed by his enthusiasm, which he had never shown before. But still gently hugged once to let go, I pressed the heart to say, what place is worth you so recommend? And he said, You shall know. After seeing the fountain, the night came to an end. At this time, he looked me in the eye, without reservation or ambiguity, and said to me, tonight, can I go with you? I was stunned, not expecting him to say this! I looked at him. His face was so angular, his eyes big, his nose straight, his eyebrows thick, and he smelled just the right amount of perfume. The point is that at this moment, there is not a trace of nastiness or sleaziness in his face. He's a real sunny guy, and me? What is he trying to do? He knew I had a house near work, so it looks like he had a plan. My heart a horizontal, thought I a young xu Niang afraid of his a small fart child do what! So, I build up courage, pretending to be indifferent to him, you are not afraid of my indecent you go with me. He chuckled and said, you won't... Very angry, he why see I see so thoroughly, I really belong to very silly very innocent woman? To my home (in order to facilitate work, I bought a small apartment near the company, only to return to the three people live in the home on weekends), I am not nervous, like greeted often come to the general let him change shoes, asked him to drink water, he said, no wine? Come to think of it now, this kid is really a love veteran, I was like that step by step into his emotional trap. Taking out the wine, he told me that wine tastes better with people he likes. When the wine had reached the anthracite, and a breeze wafted through the window, bearing the scent of jasmine, we all said, Jasmine is in bloom! Let's go and see, I said excitedly. I bent down and sniffed at the flowers greedily. I have always liked jasmine, so THERE are always several POTS at home. I say, you also come to smell, too sweet, turn back, I am in his arms! Originally, he looked at me behind, get very close, I unwittingly, suddenly bumped into his arms to go, I haven't reacted to the time, he hugged me, tightly. I did not speak, struggling, but he hugged tighter, I simply let him hold it. Isn't that what I want to happen? He attached to my ear, gently said, you know, the first time I saw you, I think your temperament is very noble, as if magnolia general, I never think you are very ordinary. (I thought to myself that when men don't want to tell a woman she looks good, they say she has class.) He went on, "I want to influence you to see if I can make you happy, which would be better." (Oh, this is a self-righteous male Madonna like me, rescue!) I say, that your sacrifice also is too big, if you lose body to me not... . He chuckled and said, would you. Such a night, the moonlight leaked into the windowsill, placed himself in the arms of a young boy, next to the flowers are so refreshing, I do not want to push him away, his body smell very good, very clean taste. For a moment, I couldn't help looking for his lips. .Then he kissed her. What happened next, however, was a surprise to me. I had no idea that I would burst into tears while being tenderly kissed by him! I've always seen in literature how the kiss is enchanted, how the love, how. But with my husband, we seldom kiss and seldom fall in love. My husband was my first love and we got married six years later. Before, I loved my husband very much. Sometimes I could not help kissing him when I saw his appearance, but he pushed me away just when I touched my lips. After I met my husband, I basically didn't have any physical contact with other men, not even shaking hands. Until today! My sudden situation let him also very unprepared, he quickly asked what was wrong, I just cry, cry, at that moment, I really understand the word: from sadness... When I think of what I have done for my family over the years, I think of what I have done for my husband. I have given up so much for him. Lost a lifetime of happiness but met such a man, I am how the heart has unwilling ah. .That cruel domestic violence, I can not calm down when I think of it. Until crying collapsed sitting on the balcony, he did not say anything, because I have encountered these setbacks we have already communicated, otherwise he can find the sadness in my eyes? He knew, so he kept patting me on the back. He probably knew why I was crying. But when I calmed down, I told him it was your kiss that made me cry. He was speechless. It's just, I didn't realize that this half-assed kiss would be our only kiss. In my heart, he is a big boy, I have no feelings for him, I may just want his embrace, want his warmth, of course, at least he is a good communication object. He always looked at me intently when I spoke. As my expression changes and changes, he cares about my passions, cares about my every move. So, at that time, I was simple enough to think that I could continue to Plato, and then timely progress. It was July 2006, and the months that followed were some of the most difficult OF my life. I thought about him every minute of every day, every hour of every day. Insomnia, wake up early, people also quickly wasted, but as if played chicken blood general, always energetic, glowing. Makeup said it was the skinniest I've ever been in the 20 years she's known me, and the best I've ever looked. As a result of being with a young man, when buying clothes, he considered the effect of standing next to him. As a result, clothes became more and more youthful, so that Diem once saw me and blurted out, "You're so young!" Then, he is hostile to invite me to go swimming, although I don't swim, but in order not to jinx, or go with him, into the swimming pool, he is just like a duck to water, happy like a child, said after a while, I'll give you a show or cartwheel, said after a while, I will swim, really 50 meters from the swimming pool, he go from here, come out from there, wow I. Then in the water big play sunflower point hand, in short, happy like a complete child, his happiness affected me, slowly I also put down the old things, not like before so depressed, as he said, the smile on the face more and more from the heart. Said out, maybe nobody believe, we later date is these content, watching the previous, we laugh together, he will learn the cantonese, shaanxi dialect, like to imitate, make me laugh, have a word of good, how happy together, then apart will have much pain. Yes, this kind of history, in
Yong Qian: The application of affective computing in Taobao UGC
First of all, I would like to share with you the application background of UGC emotion computing on Taobao. In Taobao APP, UGC comes from a wide range of sources. When you buy a product, you will see other users' comments on the product. The number of new comments can reach tens of millions every day. In the short video business scenario of Taobao APP, millions of comments will be generated, and the scale of comments in the live broadcast room will be even larger. In addition, when the user enters some search scenarios, we can show the user's opinion of the target product. For example, when we are searching for the product of "lipstick", we will present some opinions or feelings of users who have bought the product. In addition, we also show a summary view to help users understand the attitude of most users who have bought the product, and through it, users can make better shopping decisions and learn the advantages and disadvantages of the product more quickly. Generally, we need to do the following three things for UGC: commodity attribute word extraction, emotion word extraction and emotion word polarity analysis. Next, we make a definition of UGC emotion computing task. 2. Definition of UGC Emotion Computing Task Let's first talk about what attributes are. An attribute can be defined as a part or a part of a commodity. The battery of the laptop, for example, is itself a component and a part of the laptop, so we can define it as a property. The commodity itself also has some inherent attributes, such as the price of the commodity, material and so on. A property can also be a component of a product or a property of a part, such as the battery life of a laptop. We also need to extract emotional words from the comments. Emotional words are some words that users express subjective emotional tendency to an attribute. For example, in comments, users describe the long life of notebook battery. The sentence expresses the positive emotion of users' battery life. The task of analyzing the user's emotional tendency corresponds to judging the part of speech of the user's emotional word output to the attribute. In the emotion computing task, we pay more attention to the positive, negative and neutral emotions. In the comments apparel goods, for example, the user said "received goods feel good fabric, it's good to try it on, zip is not so good, wear comfortable, effect is very good also, worth buying", and then according to the < attribute words, emotional words, emotional attributes > this three parts, we can analyze the < cloth, good, positive > a triad. Because fabric is part of clothing, and the sentiment words correspond to "nice," the sentiment bias is clearly positive. For "it's good to try on", the sentence only contains the emotional word "good", so it describes the effect of trying on, so the effect of trying on is an implicit attribute, and the corresponding emotional tendency should be positive. There is also a user description "zip is not very easy to pull", which corresponds to a part of clothing, emotional word "not very easy to pull" obviously expresses some negative or derogatory emotional tendencies, so it is a negative emotional polarity. Then, "wearing is very comfortable", "wearing" is an upper body effect of clothing, which is a corresponding attribute, and its corresponding emotional word is "very comfortable", which is a positive emotional tendency. Then "effect" is also an attribute of clothing, and the emotional word corresponds to "also good." For the emotional word "worth buying", it describes whether to buy back, is the buyback attribute of clothing, "worth" as an emotional word expresses a positive emotional tendency. 3. Problems & Challenges facing UGC Emotion Computing In terms of UGC emotion computing tasks, the challenges we face are largely due to the characteristics of the business itself. First of all, different categories have huge differences in the attributes of the domain and the way of expressing emotions, namely, long-tail cases are included. For example, taste is an attribute of food, but not of cooking utensils. In addition, for the same emotional word, there will be great differences in the emotional tendency in different categories or fields. For example, "very dry" has opposite emotional tendencies for garlic and fruit. Many expressions of user evaluation opinions contain rich contents. Differences in fields and different proportions of annotated data in different fields of the same expression pose great challenges to the generalization ability of supervised models. In addition, there are some negative comments on the business scene of Taobao, but its proportion in the overall data is small, which may reach 10:1 or 20:1 in different fields. It is difficult to label samples in these extreme cases, and data imbalance will lead to low classification accuracy of some negative samples. Finally, cross-disciplinary issues are also a big challenge. For example, "low sound" is a positive emotion for refrigerators and a negative tendency for sound. The UGC sentiment analysis system designed by us will be introduced in general. We chose supervised training because we couldn't achieve the performance requirements we needed to go online without supervision. We will feed UGC paragraphs together into the attribute-affective word extraction model. UGC clips may come from users' comments on products, users' comments in the live broadcast room, users' comments on short videos, q&A area, etc. The extraction model then breaks them down into triples (attribute, emotion word, emotion polarity). Firstly, the extraction model will extract attribute and emotion words respectively. Then a matching task is carried out, that is, which attribute corresponds to which emotion word. There may be independent emotional words in UGC, which represent that they describe an implicit attribute. In addition, after properties of emotional extraction, we will have more properties - to emotional words, but to express the same attributes and emotional matching distribution in different users' comments, we need to put the same semantic properties - emotion to describe using the same point of view, and in the final convenient view summary and presentation. For the above reasons, we need to normalize attributes & emotions. Specifically, normalization will complete the implicit attributes of the previously generated attribute-emotion pair, and cluster the emotional words with the same attributes or semantics. After normalization, we will have a classification model that identifies attribute-affective pairs for affective tendencies. For the online presentation, we will use an opinion generation module and an opinion aggregation module. Its function is to summarize the words expressing the same point of view and generate a unified point of view for display under the commodity dimension. Of course, in the whole system, we will continuously dig out the samples with poor performance in the model for manual bidding through active learning, and then continuously improve the effect of the model. The viewpoint extraction model is explained in detail below. The input of the model is a comment. Backbone is based on RoBERTa. Continuous training of RoBERTa with e-commerce reviews enables the model to be better expressed in specific domains. RoBERTa then passes through a BiLSTM layer in order to obtain a more abstract sequence feature. The original intention of the intermediate Linear layer is to make the model pay more attention to the characteristics of the current domain, because domain-specific attributes and emotional polarity are very common in taobao scenes and difficult to obtain by traditional methods. For example, the same word may or may not be an attribute word in different fields. Therefore, in order to better describe such words, we need an expert network to control the characteristics of words in a certain field. We borrowed from the MMOE and added the shared property to it. For example, in the scene of e-commerce, the price of goods, the service of merchants, the speed of logistics, etc. The advantage of adding common attributes is that for attributes with rare annotations in some fields, if annotations are sufficient in other fields, the field can make good use of common attributes to express their features. In addition, we also added the feature of dynamic sharing and adopted the attention mechanism to make the model have the ability of feature screening in the current field. Finally, the three features are spliced together to solve the label continuity problem through feature mapping and CRF layer to get the final output. After a lot of experiments, we get that the F1 value is 0.8493 under the basic model of Bert+BiLSTM+CRF, the F1 value is increased to 0.8546 after Backbone is replaced by RoBERTa with continuous learning mechanism, and further increased to 0.8662 after joining the domain private expert network. After joining the domain common network, the F1 value continues to increase to 0.8666. Finally, the F1 value of the model with attention mechanism can reach 0.8668. Of course, in the offline experiment, the data scale is small. In the online experiment of the real model, we sampled the case. Found after joining the optimization performance more obvious ascension into the emotion of knowledge in the process of the training mode of using knowledge into emotional reason is in the process of the training model to extract property level emotion classification tasks and tasks are directly dependent on knowledge related to emotional expression, such as properties, emotional words), in the preliminary training general knowledge in this field will be directly to the promotion of downstream tasks. If we rely entirely on annotation data to train the model, limited by the high annotation cost, the triplet training sample size we have (attribute, emotive word, emotive tendency) is small and there are long-tail expressions, which leads to poor model fitting effect. The types of knowledge used in our pre-training include general knowledge of emotion and specific knowledge of e-commerce. General emotional knowledge includes emotional words, part of speech, emotional polarity of word level, negative words that reverse emotional polarity, degree adverbs that express emotional intensity, adjectives and so on. This knowledge can be obtained through open source and daily business related sentiment thesaurus or POSTAG. For e-commerce domain specific knowledge includes commodity attribute, commodity emotion word, commodity attribute-emotion word collocation, and commodity name (entity). In addition, we also added contextual knowledge, such as the category to which the product belongs, category, CPV/CTV system of the product, product title, etc. Such knowledge can be obtained by unsupervised mining or direct mining of existing models. At present, our model integrates emotional knowledge by adding knowledge-related embedding and mask of emotional word level, so that the model can pay more attention to the knowledge we add after pre-training, so as to significantly improve downstream tasks. Specifically, we add category embedding on the basis of Bert's traditional embedding and realize the integration of emotional word knowledge through sentiment masking. Sentiment masking has a similar idea to Bert. We hope that the model can obtain the expression of emotion word knowledge by recovering attribute-emotion word pairing or emotion word masking. In addition, users actually have an overall emotional tendency towards a product, which is very helpful for judging the emotional tendency of attributes. Therefore, we add the overall emotional polarity of the sentence to the objective function of pre-training. Finally, the loss function of our model is composed of six parts, corresponding to the predicted loss of attribute-affective word pair, the loss function of Bert's traditional pre-training task, the predicted loss of affective word, the predicted loss of commodity category, the predicted loss of sentence overall emotional polarity and the loss function of POSTAG task. Through the experiment, we found that the FORMULA 1 value was improved in most cases by gradually adding the trick proposed before. The macro-F1 value of Bert base model is 0.9306, but after adding all embedding and masking techniques, the final macro-F1 value of the model can reach 0.9543. We also tried to add an emotion map to the pre-training model. The idea of mapping came from the fact that the pre-training model did not work well for some long-tailed cases in the field, and the inclusion of maps enabled those long-tailed cases to match similar expressions. These long tail samples may not be sufficiently labeled in the current field, but there are sufficient samples labeled in other fields. In this case, they can be better expressed by drawing. This approach can also be seen as data enhancement.
GUESSING MARRIED AT FIRST SIGHT S11 COUPLES ZODIAC SIGNS
THE COUPLES: Amelia & Bennett MY GUESS: Sagittarius & Aquarius Ok I think that Amelia, based on her demeanor on the show, is a sagittarius. She is warm, agreeable, affectionate, and caring, wordly, a free spirit, and a traveler. While Bennett also has many of these qualities, he seems a bit more fixed in his location and attached to his life as he knows it. Even though Bennett plays it cool much of the time, he is obviously quite quirky and very social, and for this reason I think he's an Aquarius.
Jenna in the StarsPublished 2 years ago in MarriageHow to spend emotional burnout period
From love at first sight to speechless, how long does it take? It took Mai and Juan five years to turn the sweetest love into mutual abuse. When they met, they discovered that they were strikingly similar: they liked the same niche writers, music and movies; Have the habit of using movie ticket stubs as bookmarks; They even wear the same little white shoes. Those ideas and habits that can not be understood in daily life, see the same shadow in each other's body. It's as if two lonely souls have found themselves. So they fell in love quickly, confessed, and lived together. "My goal in life," he told her, "is to stay with you." However, after a few years of living together, everything changed. She was still a literary young woman, but he studied success books carefully; She wanted to see the new movie, but he thought it better to spend his precious weekend working overtime. The small white shoe that porch is in became mature sedate black leather shoes, once the intimate love that makes people admire became "numb exhaustion" listless concern. The psychological definition of relationship burnout is simple: it occurs when you become numb to your current relationship. Simple and poignant. According to researcher Tessapelas, the negative co-existence of burnout in a relationship is characterized by: no longer engaging in deep communication when you're talking but he's not listening or doesn't care, completely ignoring the other person's feelings. Not caring about each other's dynamic past can be as simple as "what did you have for lunch today?" Now they don't even ask each other what jobs they're doing or who they're meeting. It seems that what they're going through is none of your business. In the past, you might have thought it was cute when your partner was studying the plot of a comic book, but now you think he or she isn't doing his or her job. You may think your partner is boring or even bored in the past, and you may feel happy as long as you are with him, even if you don't do anything. Now, however, you are no longer used to being around them, preferring to spend time alone or with other friends. Relationship burnout can also create a vicious loop. It can significantly reduce partner satisfaction, making people more likely to magnify their partner's shortcomings and less willing to communicate with them, leading to more conflict in relationships and exacerbating relationship burnout. It's not your fault. It's written into our genes. From the point of view of physiological psychology, love is the product of a variety of hormones. Over time, we become more numb to the same stimuli in love. From the perspective of developmental psychology, Erikson's eight-stage theory of personality development holds that we have our own main task at each stage of life. After resolving the intimacy vs loneliness conflict, we move on to the reproduction vs stagnation task, which is colloquially known as having children and having a career. The amount of energy you put into your relationship, naturally, goes down. However, compared to these hard facts. Those unconsciously, artificially accelerated relationship burnout is even more regrettable. For example, there is "burnout" caused by the triviality of life and the accumulation of conflict. The pressures of work and the demands of daily life leave us with little time or energy to resolve conflicts in our relationships. A friend told me that for a long time, she felt her husband was no longer passionate about her, working late every night and falling asleep when she got home. Until one day woke up in the middle of the night, found the wine bureau returned to the husband in the bathroom vomiting, she did not understand: he is not the student period that accompany her to skip class with the youth, he has a lot of identity, also a lot of pressure, she has been blind, but also asked him as always. From now on, the friend no longer complains husband to come home late, does not accompany her to go shopping, however silently in his bag stuffing up cure wine candy, leave a lamp for him to return late. The best antidote to tired burnout is empathy. On the other hand, when two people are tired and still give each other bad looks, they don't communicate or solve problems, and they get annoyed with each other. Or "lack of novelty burnout." Ambiguous periods are sweet because we do all kinds of new and romantic things to advance our relationship. The self-extension model of human motivation holds that attractive partnerships expand our interests, skills and experiences. We will explore the world together, share experiences, and expand the breadth and depth of our lives through communication. For example, when we go hiking together, he will tell you how to find your way in the wild, and you will take him to the farmhouse at the foot of the mountain for its signature dish. But if being together is an end in itself and you don't actively create new experiences, then relationship development stalls. Without fresh shared experiences, fewer ideas to share, and more strangers to each other, burnout ensues. Relationship burnout is hard to avoid. But the outcome is entirely up to us. 1. The best way to deal with burnout is to manage expectations and negotiate how much to sacrifice. You can do it in three steps. The first step is to express expectations for each other. Try to communicate the responsibilities you want them to take on and your expectations that they will be met. If Juan can express her expectation to Mai that "it is important for me to see the latest movie of my favorite director together"; Mai can also express his expectation to Juan that "this project is very important and overtime work on weekends is crucial". They don't get into heated arguments. The reality is: they make demands without explanation. When the other belittled their demands, the two began to turn on each other. When we accuse each other of incomprehension, consider: Are we really expressing our true expectations? Step two, correct expectations of each other. When there is no stress in life, they may be able to put a lot of energy into their relationship. But there is bound to be a limit to how much energy they can devote to you after life changes. Therefore, we need to be aware of their multiple identities and adjust our expectations of them. The most difficult thing in getting along is that I ask you to spoil, but you ask me to understand. Such relationships can only fluctuate between the extremes of fantasy and extreme disappointment. Step three, negotiate a sacrifice. What adjustments and compromises are you willing to make to meet each other's expectations? Juan to Mai's expectation is to accompany him on weekends, Mai is looking forward to Juan can understand and support him to work overtime on weekends. If two people are willing to take a step back, Saturday mai accompany yun to see a movie, Sunday yun let Mai go to work overtime, will not be deeply tired of the other side's requirements. 2. Lack of novelty type burnout. Try creating a "love preservation plan" to add a sense of ritual: relive the things you did when you were in love. I know a couple of friends I've been dating for 12 years who confessed their feelings after watching a movie. So they made a pact to watch a movie together every month on their anniversary, either at the cinema or at home, but most importantly together. Be "curious" and "caring" about your partner and find something new: "Who is he or she besides your lover?" "What happened to him today? Why do I have such emotions?" "What does he or she do on a daily basis? What are they proud of?" ... This kind of curiosity and concern are mutually reinforcing. On the one hand, it gives you a constant source of conversation, and on the other, it makes you feel deeply cared for.
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Modern-Day Pilgrimage:
Get to know yourself on your bike. Blending technology with spirituality, Eurovelo Route 3 allows you to follow the footsteps of the pilgrims across Santiago de Compostela and discover yourself, all while supported by EuroVelo's app. The app, launched in 2019, provides interactive maps, waypoints, and guidance about accommodation and supplies, thus easing your journey.
Faye McCullaghPublished 2 years ago in Humans