It seems the past two decades have created a legion of diverse narcissists. Although, as humans, we're all capable of narcissism from time to time, what I want to explain clearly in this article is the stark difference between healthy narcissism and the toxic narcissism that creates very toxic relationships that never seem to end well (and they all end at some point).
I joke about it extensively. I mention it in passing from time to time. I’ve never really talked about it, though. Partially out of fear, partially out of frustration, I try to keep it at arm’s length. Consider this my first steps to try and change that.
There was a Facebook post going around... not too long ago called "BPD awareness." It talked about how hopeless someone with BPD can feel, how guilty they feel on a daily basis, how it destroys their relationships with everyone they love—and I shared it. Because, that's what you do when you relate to something on social media, right?
I have a master's degree in psychology, and yet I am at a loss as to what is wrong with my roommate. Perhaps this is because we have been roommates for over three years, and I am too emotionally involved to be logical when it comes to figuring things out. Plus, I invited her into my home not realizing all the ramifications of her behavior, because I hadn't witnessed it yet, so that makes me a bit off as well if I have the education I have, and yet do not see what is right in front of my face.
Facing the reality that the person you fell deeply in love with never actually existed is unbelievably painful. While you were preoccupied with loving them and shapeshifting to please them, they were busy plotting your destruction for their own gratification.Most victims do not realize that they are being abused, or hope their partner will change for the better. Others are aware but feel trapped and helpless to leave due to codependency, financial strain, lack of family support or resources, or simply because they are afraid for their lives. Here are a few signs and flags that might indicate you are in an abusive relationship:
Narcissists do not come with a warning on their forehead. They do come with a deeply limited repertoire of behaviors and interaction styles that are not glaringly obvious, yet are present from the beginning.
I told myself I would never be that person; you know, the girl who’s extremely stick-thin? The one whose ribs show beneath her shirt? The one who only eats a morsel here and there? Except my story differs extremely from the typical person who starves themselves. I don’t have any body image problems, which is the hallmark of anorexia. While I control my weight––the primary symptom, according to Mayo Clinic––I don’t really care about the number on the scale.
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) has tremendous stigma associated with it. That stigma doesn't just come from people who have limited knowledge of the condition, it can also come from health care providers.