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Desire
My thoughts of late have been focused a lot on desire. My main gripe with desire is how we talk about it our whole lives, and then we directly do things that contradict those desires. How many can conjure up this memory:
Sebastien LacassePublished 6 years ago in Motivation55 MPH Thought Train
I've always got something in my head. It can be a simple what-if scenario, a script of a conversation that I am expecting to have, or making a list of everything I need to do at work to function on a more manageable level.
Heather WilkinsPublished 6 years ago in MotivationThe Words You Need to Hear
You shouldn’t be wasting your life right now, no matter how old you are. Time is not on your side and it won’t slow down to allow you to do the things you want to do. It’s you that makes the choices; Only you can set the course of your future, and it’s your decision on how you spend the time that is given to you in this life. This one life. This one chance to make it count.
Morgan Georgia BlanksPublished 6 years ago in MotivationHow I Deal With My Guilt
What is guilt? And why is it that it is one of the few things that everyone has but keeps it a secret? According to Wikipedia: Guilt is a cognitive or an emotional experience that occurs when a person believes or realizes—accurately or not—that he or she has compromised his or her standards of conduct or has violated a universal moral standard and bears significant responsibility for that violation.[1] Guilt is closely related to the concept of remorse. I have come to realize that I was living in an automated version of stock, I would call it. To get into a more in-depth explanation, I could classify my life as a day trader. As humans, we spend so much time focusing on things that don't necessarily matter. I used to be obsessed with watching Bravo housewives; I watched every season, every episode. I wanted that life, but I did not necessarily know where or how to get it. Life is like a tide; your mood sways like breathing. One day I want to be successful, the other I am trying to keep my head above the imaginary ocean of water. It is so difficult to stay focus with a life full of distractions. I have always figured out a way to remain relevant and up to date. I enjoy watching people interact. I spent so many years like a zombie getting from point A to B. See, here's what I know, there are several types of people. People born with moral codes, others that developed it from experiences and their hurt, and finally, the OTHERS. The others are people who alter their views of the world and their surroundings. At the moment I would classify myself today as developed guilt from my experiences. The only difference between the rich and poor is; drive, dedication, patience, knowledge, networking (relationships), and finally the understanding of money. Guilt is a choice, and i know some people may read this and say it's not. But it's your guilt stopping you from understanding what I am trying to explain to you in this second. Life is like an unlimited amount of flowers, they are everywhere. When you finally pick your flower and remove the first petal, life reveals itself to you. Last year i was a regular person myself, appearing open but closed. Listening, but not hearing. Speaking, without knowledge. When I first saw The Matrix, I always thought I was Trinity, because I love so hard. I had no idea why I never saw myself as the leading person. I think most people never amount to their true potential because of fear. I call it the "fear of actually succeeding." Like most people, we spend, spend, spend. Every year we wonder why our lives are not improving. We never actually take a step back and evaluate the things what it is we actually want. I have one of the biggest guilty consciences. I can rip anyone apart with words and then smile. But if/when I actually feel like I hurt someone, it bothers me. See, to me, guilt is worse than fear simply because fear occurs and you have a much easier choice to panic and make a decision. But, guilt hits you internally brewing like a bottle of turkey hill half & half lemonade. I remember vividly I did my usual and spoke too much "truth" about a colleague marriage, also to note there were other colleagues present also giving their own opinions. Days later the individual blocked me from social media LOL. No one can prepare you for the small window of emotions you experience when you someone who has no significance "to you" blocks you on social media. I felt something—I guess it was remorse—and then carried on with my life. Moral of the story is: I altered my guilt because I did a quick pros and cons of what the goal of blocking me on social media meant to my direct life and decided to carry on. Why wallow in guilt? You are in control of what is okay and what is not.
Teri-Ann PhillipPublished 6 years ago in MotivationCalling All Perfectionists!
Do you know how incredibly freeing it is to be okay with failing? I was such a perfectionist growing up, and I still am to an extent. But I’ve been working on this underrated thing called “self-confidence,” and the difference between those who have it and those who don’t is truly remarkable!
Journey ScribePublished 6 years ago in MotivationHow Scuba Diving Made Me Realize Not to Sacrifice Happiness for Money
It was during the middle of college that I realized I wasn't happy with the way my life was going. I was on track to go to pharmacy school, was getting good grades, and had everything figured out.
N MPublished 6 years ago in MotivationFive’s an Asshole
Some people seem to believe that three's the lucky number of the single-digit bunch, but I? I disagree. I think that five's the real clock cruncher, and here's why. Ever been at a dead end before? I'm not talking some metaphoric "I-don't-know-what-to-do-with-my-life-right-now" dead end, but a real physical dead end. Well, I have and excuse the cliché psychological outlook, but it sucked, and the very reason why I felt so down about bucking up at a dead end when I could've just simply turned around and found another way, got me thinking which lead me to my theory. So, five's my dead end. We commonly associate the number three with a limitation. Whether it's 'Third time's a charm!", or "You get three wishes, and three wishes only', three is where we set our eyes to, and so little numbers after just get forgotten. But five to me is important, because when we reach five, we realize that we've gone two too many over our limitations. We realize that we've been taken for granted, and so we gather and remove ourselves from the situation which brought us to five in the first place. I had a crush on the same kid for five years, and throughout those five years, I would let him treat me however he pleased. I lost sense of who I was, and so I was just his. By the fifth year coming, he got a girlfriend and I had gone through this revelation that was so shocking and surprising, but at the same time eye opening. I had realized how just plain stupid I looked chasing after this guy, and letting him walk over me for five years who was now in a relationship and still referring to me as just his "friend." The fifth year brought on a cruel revelation, so much so it felt like a physical boundary. But without that dead end, I would've still been kissing at the kid's feet looking like a complete idiot. So, five's an asshole for letting it get that far, but was also important because it served as a reminder that three is the damn limit, and hell would freeze over before I forget that. So, don't forget your five, because then you'd end up like me— Kissing the feet that in turn would walk all over you.
Xara B. WilliamsPublished 6 years ago in MotivationComparison Kills
We often compare ourselves to other people, whether it's what they have, where they are in this stage of their life, or what they are doing. Social media is one of the most common ways for us to compare our lives to others'. We get to have a sneak peek and a snippet of peoples' lives. You see that one of your coworkers got that promotion that you were hoping for. While scrolling you see that house you were hoping for is sold; or, that one of your closest friends got a new car while you're struggling to keep yours. Maybe it is a group of your peers who are graduating and you're still trying to figure out which degree to pursue. The truth of the matter is, we have no idea how those people got what they have. We don't know what it took to get where they are now. Comparing yourself to someone else will always leave you unhappy because someone will always have more than you or always be further than you are. It is my belief when God placed us on this Earth we were beautifully and wonderfully made. Each one of us has a gift. We become so aware of other people's gifts that we forget our own. Galatians 6:4-6 states, “But let every man prove his own work, and then shall he has rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another. For every man shall bear his own burden. Let him that is taught in the word communicate unto him that teach in all good things.” This means don’t compare yourself to others. Just look at your own work to see if you have done anything to be proud of. You must accept the responsibilities that are yours. I believe whoever is being taught God’s word should share the good things they have with the one who is teaching them.
Santayshia WilsonPublished 6 years ago in MotivationMoney-Making Motivation
When you are young, you think there is nothing that you need to worry about. You cannot get hurt, you have all the money in the world, and you feel there is nothing that could ever go wrong. As you grow older, you start to realize that since you were so carefree when you were young, you screwed yourself over in a sense that reality and adulthood are sinking in. I know this firsthand because I was this exact person. I played outside doing dangerous things (like jumping off the roof of our shed onto our trampoline). I also spent every dollar I ever got because it would burn a hole in my pocket if I did not. It did not bother me at all that I was this way. Now that I am 24 and freshly graduated from college, I have an entirely new perspective. Especially when it comes to earning and saving money.
Corrin RegginelloPublished 6 years ago in MotivationLife: The Greatest Balancing Act
Being only 18, there is so much to life that I have yet to discover. However, I have experienced a lot within these years—lessons and events that have helped me to grow into the individual I am today. I have learned that to truly enjoy life and to make the most of it, it is important to find a balance in everything you do.
Jeanne-Marie BranchePublished 6 years ago in MotivationWhy Are We So Insecure?
"Is everyone looking at me?" "That was so stupid! Why did I do that?" "Do I look okay? I look ugly, don't I?" "Are they laughing at me?"
Journey ScribePublished 6 years ago in MotivationDream Big
Do you remember being a kid? Times were uncomplicated and straightforward. Stray thoughts would drift through your mind like a refreshing summer breeze. These thoughts consisted of friendship, young love, and spectacular dreams for "when you were old enough to chase them". That actually meant when you could drive. Yet, now when you look back on those dreams, you label them as “irrational” or “unrealistic”. What happened?
Joel W.Published 6 years ago in Motivation