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The Pursuit Of Contentment
Long after emotional deprivation and a demished self worth. I find myself asking “how do I pick up the pieces?” When suddenly as swift as an inhale I answered my own question with “How can you fix something that never worked?” It then occurred to me that my insecurities stemmed from a place much deeper than the mental manipulation of my children’s father or even the emotional absence of the second nor the lack of integrity neither of them hold. Although those were woes we had in common they were their own to bare and mature from. It was my upbringing. My fathers absence but not just the physicality; the lack of emotional depth and ability to nurture from both my mother and father. At the time I did not understand what depression looked like therefore I never knew why I was never enough for my mother and why my pleas for nurture and acknowledgment were met with misunderstandings. In the case of my father; I never heard of a narcissist until recently. That was an entire universe of truth to unearth within itself and still is. All of these things led to me accepting emotionally aloof and unrequited individuals. I accepted men who only gave me minimal effort because that’s what my father gave. I accepted men who were emotionless because that’s what my mother gave. The irony was when my parents would witness this treatment and would say “you should leave them”. I’d mentally reply “should I have left/ divorced you?”. For many years this was my “normal”. Desperately clinging to become the adversary to this pathology and yet not fully understanding the root cause itself. It had nothing to do with the men I chose but rather why I myself was attracted to them. Why I insisted on these specific principles to be a foundation for a “good” relationship when I myself had not consistently acquired all of what I required. And even with the “good providers” and hypergamist relations I found myself in the same dysfunctional, emotionless dynamic. “Is it me?” I asked myself. In a sense it is... The unearthing of my subconscious abandonment issues and anxieties of separation. My egoistic masking of emotions. The never ending fear of intimacy by trying to avoid rejection. These are my baggage. I must have compassion while I unpack these antiques of mine. Knowing that it’s simply a representation of where I’ve already been and with the proper adjustments it will not be the calculation for where I’m going.
By MUSA MANSA7 years ago in Motivation
All is Fair?
Life isn't fair. We all hear the phrase but it seems that the word "fair" loses its meaning the further we look at it. Sporting event do their best to make the game as fair as possible. But how can you account for skill, injury and even just the events that go on in the background. "If we stayed healthy" or if that call that seemingly everyone knew was wrong wasn't applied we would've won. Nothing can be totally fair because to consider life absolutely fair would be to consider every human absolutely equal which cannot be the case.
By Bryan Grayson7 years ago in Motivation
Do What is Difficult While it is Easy
"Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small." ~Lao Tzu We must do what is difficult while it is easy. What does this quote mean to you? Have you made complete good use of your time? Using the 86,400 seconds in your day to their fullest potential? Back when I first read this quote, it caused me to revaluate my life. There was a time when I often did the complete opposite.
By The Breatharian Blogger7 years ago in Motivation
Hello inner critic.
The other day I witnessed something in myself , something that went unnoticed countless times before. A process that is as damaging as it is elusive. But since I learned about its existence, my radar was up. And as I caught this phenomenon in action - I was able to stop it in its tracks, not allowing it to gain any substantial air time and preventing the damage from being done. Ladies and gentlemen, please meet the inner critic - part of our psyche that is always up for not so constructive criticism. Unfortunately, it usually appears when we need it the least - namely when we feel somehow weakened already, and could do with some support and compassion instead. This aspect of ourselves is the inner voice that will say something like "what were you thinking?” , "it’s your own fault", "you’re so useless “ and so on and so forth. While it’s certainly counterproductive that it would get activated while we are in some sort of a crisis , it also makes perfect sense given the fact that most of us grew up being punished for multiple "errors" on our part. Self - punishment then becomes a program that we switch on when things don’t go as planned.
By Eva Smitte7 years ago in Motivation
“Why you should always be yourself no matter what.” By Sentual Strong: October 22, 2019
Has there ever been a moment in life where you just felt like you’ll be judged or dislike for behaving like your normal self? Well, you aren’t alone with the experience if that question applies to you. There are many times where we may feel like being are natural selves would cause a problem but in all honesty, you should be yourself no matter what. You can still be in peace with your surroundings and be who you truly are at the same time. As you read on I’m going to tell you how that is possible for every single person and why we should just be ourselves at all times.
By Sentual Strong7 years ago in Motivation
How to Break Routines and Habits.
Many people tend to fall prey to the vicious cycle of routines. I look around at the residents of the little town in which I live, and I am shocked to find that this applies to about 90% of them. They tend to allow their lives to be ran by a routine they had fallen into a long time ago, the false satisfaction of knowing what tomorrow holds, and the day after that, and the day after that, due to the clockwork vice that rules their lives. Think of your acquaintances for a second. I'm sure many of us know people that will never leave their town, drink at the same shitty old bar every second day, watch the same TV show, work the same job, and eventually die in the same house they had moved into back when they were young. That's the harsh reality that many people wake up to everyday, the truth that they are going to deny until the day they are buried six feet beneath the soil.
By Alex Barbu7 years ago in Motivation
ADULTING IS HARD.
1.This is your house That's right. This is your house and you have to be responsible for it. There's no doubt that you will glam up and decorate you house however you want, setting your own rules and everything. However, all that, doesn't come without a little bit of work. You have to make sure that everything is catered for; shopping, cleaning and keeping your house organized, because no one is going to do that for you.
By ruth danielles7 years ago in Motivation
Afraid of Myself: a non-binary life
My days as a writer began when I couldn’t put the thought in my head into words that made sense. I would always write in journals or diaries, questioning everything. Who I was, what I was... but I never could never really get myself to read what I was writing and think about what I was thinking about. I was afraid. I still am.
By Riri Danziger7 years ago in Motivation
Tryin to do me
It's been a whirlwind of a year. Every year I feel like I'll be more equipped to handle life's challenges. Then I realize with a lot of effort and knowledge of self I am, but it's never easy. I've had so many times this year where I've felt defeated, purposeless, and just disappointed with where I am. I know these can be somewhat normal feelings as long as you're not stuck in this feeling; in believing this "norm" is where you belong.
By Karina Nistal7 years ago in Motivation
All For The Love of The Run
There is a nagging ringing noise slowly droning on and on in the background until I’m suddenly ripped away from a dream and slammed back to my reality— the daily hustle and bustle of life. It is a bright and early Monday morning; indicating that the week has just begun. Sun rays are just piercing the sky when I’m tying my shoelaces, setting up my GPS watch, tightening my pony, and bounding out my front door dedicated to getting my run in before the heat from the sun starts to bear down on my back. Before I know it my feet are slapping the concrete in a harmonious rhythm and I am racing past cars, dancing around street puddles, and sprinting around corners to the beat of my own two feet. My muscles start aching and I am gasping for air as my watch beeps indicating that I’ve reached mile five. The initial thoughts that usually run through my mind at this time are, “Why am I even doing this?” “What’s the point? I’m not getting any better than I was yesterday?” However, I know that I must push these thoughts to the back of my mind because I know the true answer: It is all for the love of the run. What keeps me going is knowing that I love the sport and I couldn’t live without getting my daily run in!
By Amelia P7 years ago in Motivation
