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Toxic Traits: Do You Recognize Them in Yourself?

The Benefits of Honest Reflection and Constructive Feedback

By KamyaPublished 8 months ago 4 min read
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What comes to mind when you hear the term "toxic person"? It's not always easy to spot toxic traits, and they can lurk beneath the surface for a while before rearing their ugly head. But take a moment to look inward and consider: do any of these traits resonate with you? It may not be the most pleasant exercise, but it can be a powerful tool for self-improvement and growth.

By taking a step back and reflecting on your own communication style and behavior patterns, you may identify areas for improvement. Perhaps you could benefit from being a more patient listener, or from finding ways to express your thoughts and feelings more clearly.

1) Being argumentative.

Are you someone who always seems to be picking a fight or gets excited when conflict arises? If so, you could be inadvertently causing unnecessary disagreements and acting in a toxic manner toward those around you. Sure, it's normal to argue occasionally, but if it's a constant pattern and you find it difficult to maintain peaceful relationships, it might be time to examine whether you're starting fights that could be avoided.

2)Failing to take responsibility for your mistakes

It's human to err and occasionally cause unintended harm to others, but how we react to these slip-ups can either make or break our relationships. Do you tend to blame others or circumstances instead of owning up to your wrongdoings? Instead of deflecting or shifting the blame, it's essential to take responsibility and apologize when you mess up. To avoid this toxic behavior, it's important to listen to others' concerns without becoming defensive and focus on resolving the issue at hand rather than being right. Remember, a genuine apology can go a long way in repairing and strengthening relationships.

3)Caught up in drama

Do you find yourself constantly caught up in drama? Whether it's at work, school, or in your personal life, it can be exhausting and overwhelming. But have you ever stopped to ask yourself why? Sure, some people just don't get along, but what if there's more to it? Maybe drama makes you feel important or entertained, but have you considered the harm it may be causing you and those around you? It's time to take a step back and reflect on your actions. Are you the cause of the drama, or are you simply attracting it? By identifying the root cause of your involvement in drama, you can begin to take the necessary steps to maintain more peaceful relationships and live a happier, drama-free life.


Are you feeling envious of your friends or partners? Do you feel the need to exert control over them or get possessive when they hang out with others? If you answered yes, you may be struggling with jealousy and possessiveness - two toxic traits that can harm your relationships. But don't worry, you're not alone. The good news is that by communicating openly with your loved ones and setting reasonable boundaries, you can overcome these feelings. Remember, just because someone enjoys spending time with others doesn't mean they value your relationship any less. Stay self-aware and work towards building healthier connections with those around you.

5)Being overly competitive.

Competition can be a great motivator, but it's important to strike a balance. It's essential to recognize and appreciate the accomplishments of others, especially those close to us. So, when your best friend tells you they got that big promotion, do you feel a sense of genuine happiness for them, or do you find yourself trying to minimize their success? Toxic competitiveness can rear its ugly head when we only celebrate our victories and disregard those of others. But, here's the thing, there's enough room for everyone to succeed. No two journeys are alike, and someone else's achievement doesn't take away from your own. It's time to ditch the toxicity and lift each other.


Are you guilty of being hypercritical toward others? Maybe you enjoy the occasional teasing or playful banter with your friends or significant other, as a way to show how close you are to them. However, it's important to recognize when your words may be causing harm instead of building a stronger connection. Criticizing someone's flaws or mocking them, no matter how light-hearted or sarcastic, can lead to damaging consequences. It could be causing more harm than good. Take a step back and ask yourself: are your jokes and comments tearing others down instead of lifting them? Don't let your words negatively impact someone else's self-esteem.

Did any of those toxic traits hit home for you? Whether you saw yourself in them or not, keep in mind that there is always room for growth and improvement. The fact that you're taking the time to reflect on your communication patterns is already a step in the right direction. It shows that you care about being a better friend, family member, coworker, or whatever other role you play in life. Don't be afraid to seek feedback from others on your communication style, and ask them for suggestions on how you can improve. This simple step can help you steer clear of toxic behavior and build stronger relationships.

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