Isolation; it can seem like a scary word, and it becomes even more terrifying when it’s the current reality. The ongoing pandemic of COVID-19 is with no doubt making the entire population of the globe anxious and worried. It’s a distressing time, but we will get through it.
I’m an angry person. I know it, my wife knows it, even my Mum knows it. And I’m told all the time that I shouldn’t be. I shouldn’t be so angry, I should be more relaxed, more forgiving. I should learn to let things go. And for so many years, I tried to do that. I tried to let things go; I tried to be relaxed. But I couldn’t. And all that did was make me feel guilty. Guilty that I couldn’t do what people wanted me to do. And I couldn’t be what they wanted me to be. And this guilt led to some pretty monumental feelings of inferiority. I felt so much less than everyone else. I felt like these people who were telling me to move on were somehow so much better than me. And no matter how hard I tried, I would never be like them. So forgiving and at peace.
Have you ever felt like “something terrible is about to happen”? Does it feel like the worst scenario is unavoidable? Have you ever experienced waves of dark, freezing and sticky anxiety that it is impossible to shake off or ignore? I did. Many times.. Too many. At some point I started reflecting and understood that most of my fears will most likely never happen or I worry about things that are out of my control.
I‘m going through every single emotion there is out there right now.
“The inner child is a metaphoric expression commonly used in the psychotherapist community. We were all children once, and we still have a childlike ego dwelling within us—the inner child is the unconscious part of ourselves.” —Diamond, Stephen A. PhD
“It’s not always that we need to do more but rather that we need to focus on less.”
I’ve kept large bottles of hand sanitizer in my bathroom and small containers in my vehicle or purse for years. I’ve been using the disenfectant wipes In the front of grocery stores for as long as they have been offered. I routinely wipe down car seats and spray inside my vehicles with disenfectant and always have a bottle of alcohol, witch hazel, and peroxide on hand without much thought, until now. Because of the mass hysteria and hoarding mentality associated with the coronavirus, life is more difficult than it needs to be. I did not panic and hoard toilet paper but I did purchase a few extra roles. I was in a store today, where a large number of shoppers showed up all at once and devoured the toilet paper. Some were talking loudly, others were on their phones alerting friends and relatives of the store’s location and announcing that toilet paper was being sold.
In these very weird times, we need to stay optimistic.
I was planning to write this article for some time now, since anxiety is a worldwide problem that affects a lot of people. My initial idea was to just share some tools aka coping mechanisms, that helped me in the past. This was my plan until recently, and while I will still execute it , in the light of recent events I feel it’s my duty to add something equally important.
What is self perception theory?
**Many of these tips are probably applicable to lots of other fields. However, I only have experience with mental health jobs, so that's why my focus is there. We all need to take care of ourselves!**