WHY YOUR RELATIONSHIPS ARE FAILING

Relationships are part of the human nature as much as eating or sleeping is. We are designed to interact and bond with others because we are simply beings who love and want to feel loved by those around us. Most people, I included, have been in a relationship that didn’t work out despite the effort and attempts to make it work. This got me thinking of the reasons why the relationship failed. Well let’s find out. Here are ten reasons why some relationships fail;

The first reason is failure to trust each other. Trust is a very important factor when it comes to a healthy long-lasting relationship. It builds the foundation of the relationship. Once trust is broken, then it is ultimately headed towards a break up.

The second reason why some relationships fail is lack of proper communication. Effective and consistent communication helps to keep the relationship healthy. If there is some issue in the relationship, you may need to sit down with your partner and talk about it. Make sure that your partner is heard and that you also listen to their needs. Otherwise, if the both of you are not on the same page, then conflicts will start rising in your relationship which creates an emotional disconnect therefore, increasing the possibility of the relationship’s failure.

The third reason of a relationship failure is lack of respect. Respect has to go both ways if you want the relationship to work. No one wants to be in any position where they feel disrespected whether it’s in a relationship or any other environment. Treat your partner with respect and honor as you would also want to be treated and your relationship will be free of emotional hurt which does nothing but destroy the relationship.

The fourth reason why a relationship fails is having different expectations. Everyone has a certain image painted in their mind about how they want their relationship to be or look like. This is not a bad thing at all. Only, you have to make sure that your partner agrees with your ideals. If the both of you do not agree on what you expect from each other, then you will start disagreeing on most aspects of the relationship which will lead to its failure.

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Number five on our list is lack of intimacy. Intimacy is a way of bonding deeply with your partner on both a physical and emotional level. The physical level involves spending quality time together, buying each other gifts, sex and so on. Emotional intimacy involves creating an environment where your partner can feel free to express themselves and become vulnerable. Listening to each other’s needs and being considerate about each other’s feelings is what emotional intimacy is all about. It is very difficult to maintain a relationship that has no intimacy whatsoever. Hence, take note of the intimacy in your relationship.

Reason six is compatibility issues. Your interests, values, hobbies and view in life may differ from each other due to factors such as the environment you were raised in, the experiences you’ve had in life or differences in culture. These differences may be a hindrance to a long- lasting relationship and so you may want to find someone whom you are compatible with.

The seventh reason of relationship failure is overthinking. Overthinking everything in a relationship leads you to see things that are not true and that are not there. This will make your partner feel distrusted and will eventually get exhausted of constantly having to explain every detail of their actions. Therefore, avoid overthinking by trusting your partner and giving them space to do their own thing so that the relationship stays intact.

The eighth reason why a relationship fails is because of selfishness. I can relate well with this reason because I was selfish in my previous relationship which resulted to my partner leaving. If you are in the same situation, then learn to sacrifice and be considerate of your partner as I learnt also. This will ensure that your partner stays and that the relationship remains healthy and stable.

Number nine on relationship failure is lack of empathy. Empathy involves putting yourself in your partners situation mentally and emotionally so as to understand their feelings. Being empathetic towards your partner makes them feel loved and cared for and therefore, helps to maintain the relationship. Without empathy, the relationship will eventually crumble.

And lastly, number ten is external stress. Issues such as financial strains, family problems or issues at work may affect the relationship. Some of these problems may just not go away and its okay. Somethings happen for a reason and you may not be able to do anything about it. But if the both of you can work through the problems by encouraging and supporting each other, then your relationship has definitely passed the test of life and proven to be strong and meant to be.

There is no perfect relationship. Every relationship has its ups and downs. So, if you are struggling in a relationship right now or hurt by a previous one or maybe hurt your partner, be gentle and kind to yourself. Forgiveness is also important for your piece of mind and you may need to seek some help.

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