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THE ART OF HAPPY RELATIONSHIPS

Relationship satisfaction is not contingent on how long a couple has been dating or courting.

By Kareem Wale obafemiPublished about a year ago 6 min read
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People sometimes say things like "They hardly have had an opportunity to get to know one other" about couples who start dating after only a day or two have passed. Such reasoning discountenances direct contact between spirits.

Relationship satisfaction is not contingent on how long a couple has been dating or courting. How long you've dated in the past has little bearing on how long your current relationship will last.

Relationships may be formed and destroyed by more than just a Soul-to-Soul connection. Variables exist over five stages. Let me put it in plain English.

Nature of animals

Our initial impression of the other person is based on our senses.

Sight is the most essential sense if we value our partner's look, which includes their clothing, furniture, art, environment, and ambiance. The aesthetic appeal of a person can be affected by the design of their personal space.

Evaluate how their voice sounds in various situations, such as when they are alone, with others, under pressure, defending themselves, and being attacked. Take a cue from the honesty and openness that reigns at family get-togethers.

Physical contact is not only sexual. Try putting your hands together and seeing how you both respond. Is it degrading, off-putting, or appealing? A slight reluctance to physical contact can poison a connection. Think about if your partner's touch is weak and uncertain, or strong and certain.

Coaxing, or begging for little pleasures, is a sign of a dulled sense of pleasure and likely marital suffering. Little tokens of affection, sacrifices, and acts of kindness are where love is shown; if these don't happen naturally, without prompting, unhappiness is inevitable.

Despite its common association with the mouth, taste also involves the mind, which is why art, film, and music are all significant. We need harmony between variations, not uniformity of taste. If the gaps are too wide, it will be difficult to find lasting joy.

The fragrance is a powerful tool for making connections between language, memory, and experience. Do they have pungent hair, perspiration, feet, socks, breath, ears, or farts? This is a very important relationship perspective. Is your significant other more comfortable with a breeze or stale air when sleeping? Does your partner bring home offensive scents from work (secondhand smoking being a prime example)? Is the aroma of their house similar to yours? Physical attraction is influenced by one's level of happiness.

The Psyche

Healing from Pain - Choose a moment when either you or they were considerate, generous, and helpful while your relationship is struggling. Keep that mental picture in mind. Just remember why you did it and how fantastic it made you feel. The ability to look back on happy moments and let go of negative emotions is key to maintaining positive relationships.

Contrast - If you have the view that your partner is superior, your relationship will flourish. Thus, only compare your partner to superior people. Any ex-lover, bad scenario, or unfortunate individual that causes you to think, "I count my lucky stars," and vice versa. You will attract negative energy and make your current relationship disagreeable if you compare it to anything better, even being single or a fantasy lover. Although it's typical for people to get resentful of another's relationship or optimistic about a connection they've dreamed of, this is a significant decision of mind since it may lead to a lack of appreciation and happiness in one's relationship (sabotage).

Sum of Money

Money can't buy you happiness in a relationship. Yet, financial difficulties may be a huge reactive issue that strains relationships. The focus is mostly on outlays. Those with lower incomes could be better at budgeting their money than wealthy ones with the same feelings. This is a dimension where relationships may go wrong. Like excessive spending, hoarding is destructive. Relational harmony is more important than financial security. When a poor lady supported her family with $50, she irritated her husband, who was worth millions of dollars. To be happy, one must adopt a fiscally optimistic frame of mind.

His and Hers When one partner stays at home to run the household while the other goes out to work full-time, the full-time employee has the right to dictate how their partner spends his or her salary. Freedom of thought and action is essential in today's economic climate. It should be divided evenly when all bills are paid. The one who stays home has a 50% share of the couple's income after expenses.

There must be His, Her, and Their money in a relationship. Honor each other's uniqueness while sharing time. When two people agree to use money, there is less room for mistakes.

Emotion and Spirit, the Psychic Realm

The psychic insight will be motivated by love. There are a lot of feelings at this level.

If either spouse places a great value on this emotional component, and precautions are not taken, they may end up dissatisfied. It's challenging to maintain a relationship's integrity when emotional attachment takes precedence over practical concerns like shared resources. Emotions and romantic attachments are capricious. When asked to share or "meet" their spouse on other levels, those who are primarily motivated by love or emotion become hostile, possessive, and defensive. Relationships with only one dimension are doomed to fail. Feelings like love and passion are toxic to every relationship.

No matter how much you care about someone, you should respect their need for privacy, independence, and creativity. Spending too much time together can ruin an expression like this and make a couple miserable. In a love-driven relationship, spending more time apart can strengthen the bond between partners. Longing is fuelled by separation. We value it more now that it's gone.

Those who live on the emotional love plane tend to struggle in relationships since their identities tend to crumble there. It's still egotism, but it only involves one focus rather than five.

True loves

Seldom is it said that the lonely will find their soul match. The majority of "Soulmate" relationships fizzle out due to mundane financial concerns.

Due to the rarity of a real-life Soul merger, the merged entity's training will likely have centered on the first four levels. As a result, the love between you will be whole on all levels. Much preparation is needed for this. Each subsequent layer of connection requires several intermediate relationships to be established. In other words, it's a simple link.

Soul Mate preparation requires extensive use of the imagination because the very idea and mental picture of a Prince Charming or Princess Flawless has been kept secret for years. It will be challenging to locate the right pictured individual in the finished product. because we're all the same behind the surface. Everyone you date will at first bring to mind that Ideal Princess or Prince Charming in some way (the sex, the looks, the eyelids, the touch, the castle, the body, the face, the mind), but it is extremely rare (needle in a haystack rare) to find someone who possesses all of these qualities in a single package, and thus, a Soul Mate is discovered.

You may gradually attract your Soul Mate through several dates and interactions with potential companions, eliminating those who don't measure up piece by piece until you're left with only the one who's the closest fit.

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Kareem Wale obafemi

l’m an experienced content writer who produces original, friendly, entertaining and informative content for your audience. I’m happy to write in US,UK English

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