Did you know that Australia is rapidly developing a reputation for being the home of some of the most successful and brilliant business minds? Successful and youthful business people seem to have it all; a steady income, clear and concise goals, a nice car, etc. However, people fail to notice one of the most important things in life that a lot of these individuals struggle with: romance. The question is, how does one attract a perfect partner, or rekindle a love flame in marriage when there is simply not enough time, and so much work to be done? If you are reading this in hope of finding out some helpful tips and tricks to balance love, and a successful business, keep on reading.
You're not actively looking for someone, but you want to be ready for when that special person comes into your life. Yet there's one thing that keeps on bugging you. "How on Earth will I know if they're the right one?" Now, there are so many possible answers to this question. From zodiac signs to numerology, the ways to find that partner are endless. Well, I'm going to provide a methodical answer rather than wishful way of finding "The One."
I’m inspired to write this because there is an overwhelming amount of content online about how to have successful relationships, communicate, trust, blah, blah, blah. Right?
The word “communication” is seriously over used. It plagues every relationship quote—along with “trust, love, faithfulness” etc. The thing is though—with trust, love, and faithfulness comes maturity and understanding—not practice. These three words mentioned cannot be practiced in the way communicating can. In fact, it’s only by communicating that we can show these three attributes. That’s deep, I know.
I have been polyamorous for quite a few years now. I've yet to really encounter problems, as some do, but even so I have learned some very helpful things over time when it comes to polyamory, and what's important to keep in mind when it comes to this type of relationship dynamic. Right now I have two partners, and those partners have at least one as that is not me as well. Whether you're a seasoned vet, or a curious beginner, I hope you read my five rules me and my partners live by helpful to you.
This is for women. Women that are struggling to see what they need or what they want, but most importantly, what they deserve. “We don’t need no man”. That’s right, we don’t. We don’t need a relationship. But some of us still want someone there, someone by our side. We need someone that we can depend on, but not someone we depend on, not someone that depends on us. A relationship should be a factor in our lives that amplifies our happiness, not one that completes it. Please try to remember that when your parter keeps causing you pain. When they blame it all on you- don’t believe it. Don’t let anybody manipulate you into thinking less of yourself. It’s never wrong to work on yourself and a healthy relationship usually aids you in doing so naturally. It’s not easy to let people go that you love, so please don’t ignore the red flags. Don’t ignore the intuitive feeling that lets you know something’s not right. Because you don’t need anybody but yourself. You don’t need them to complete you- it might hurt, but you will be better off in the end. And it will end, sooner or later, and we can all agree that sooner is better than later.
If you’re having trouble getting over a breakup it can really hit you not just mentally/emotionally, but also physically. Love is like a drug, and when you’re going cold turkey you can get withdrawal symptoms. After my breakup, I couldn’t eat or sleep for two weeks, and even when I tried my body would reject it. It’s different for everybody, but it’s not safe to continue living like that.
Disclaimer: This post was written and intended for an essay contest. While it didn't win any prizes, it was liked by quite a few people! Enjoy!
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