Every year, college students and recent grads find themselves struggling to celebrate Valentine's Day. With the costs of text books rising with no end in sight and paying off student loans, it's amazing we're even able to buy ourselves a sandwich, never mind buy a gift that accurately captures how we feel about a loved one. So what do we do instead?
It all starts out with a good character. When I say that, I don’t mean a morally good character. Bad people tend to be crowdpleasers as long as there is a tragic story to why they went bad, without a backstory as such the character is just an mean person, which is alright as long as, in the end, their love interest changes that part of them. The bad character has to get morals and realize that they should be good because, suddenly, it all makes sense—the only thing in their life missing was LOVE.
As we grow older in life, we go through different experiences and face many obstacles. It’s a part of growing up, and that’s what you've been told your entire life. But the one thing no one could ever prepare you for or teach you how to deal with is betrayal. It’s not something you can watch a “how to” video on or something easy to ask someone about. Because when you become betrayed, you feel ashamed. You are embarrassed that this happened to you and you think to yourself, “Am I really that stupid? How could I think that they actually cared about me? I’m an idiot.” Believe it or not, you aren’t an idiot. And I’ve learned that through my own personal experiences. And I’m here to help you get though this.
Leaving your boyfriend's side for the holidays can feel like a sadistic remake of Christopher Nolan's movie, The Prestige. One moment, he's by your side constantly. He's the first person you call when you're losing your mind over an exam, the one you can rely on for a good popcorn fight or a star-watching adventure. He makes you laugh the most, and he knows all of your roommate drama, your pet-peeves, and your cheesy moves. He's your best friend.
My boyfriend and I have been together for a while, so we are way beyond the honeymoon phase. This doesn't mean however, that our relationship has gotten dull. And that takes a little work to keep things new and exciting still. Here are 8 ways to keep a relationship strong.
When you make a new friend, it's a wonderful feeling. You learn new things and have new experiences with this friend, expanding your mind to possibilities, opportunities, hobbies, and more. You usually don't think that with any person you call your friend, that anything truly bad will happen to your friendship. Sure, you'll have spats and disagreements every now and again; but that's normal. But what about when something happens that destroys the friendship? How do you know if it's your fault or not, and regardless which, what do you do?
When you're looking for a relationship usually you're looking for trust, honesty, and loyalty. Someone who you can spend your whole entire life with and go through anything with. However not everyone you will date will have this qualities. I soon found this out after dating a guy for a year and four months. Spoiler alert he was a good for nothing cheater. I pretty much wasted all my time and energy on him. I was a dumb girl for always going back to him too. See every time we would break up, he would have a new girl in less than 24 hours. Well those relationships wouldn’t last long and he would come crawling back talking about he “made a mistake” and he “misses me.” Well my stupid self would believe him cause I fell madly in love with and believed he would change. Boy I was wrong, he did the same so called”mistake” five times and kept promising that he wouldn’t do it again. The same red flags would coming up every time he was cheating.
There is hope on dating sites! If you get out often great, but if you're like me going out is rarely an option, especially with kids so it is difficult to meet people. That's why I turned to online dating sites and apps to fill my alone time. Believe me I thought I had seen it all, but dating sites can be scary. You just need to know what to look for if you're looking for something long term. Then you can ween out the bad options to meet love sooner. I was on the sites for about a year and a half on and off and realized the mistakes I was making. Here are five things to be aware of while you are picking a match:
I'm no longer a "Tinderella", but I used to spend my fair share of time left (and very rarely, right) swiping on the most popular dating app for Millennials, so if you're a dude who's either making a lot of matches that lead nowhere, or just not getting any matches at all, grab a pen and paper and take this advice as gospel.
Have you ever been in an argument before with your friend or partner? If so, raise your hand. From the looks of it, it seems like it’s nearly impossible to get into a relationship without getting into some form of conflict at one time or another. This makes me wonder why we choose to step into these kinds of relationships at all in the first place. While everyone may have differing opinions, I believe that life would be utterly boring without having other people around to share our experiences with.
Most people who are cheaters never really imagined they'd end up in that role. After all, only seriously sick, warped people will go into relationships just to hurt the person who loves them. Sometimes, despite the best of intentions, sexual or emotional attraction happens, and people end up making huge mistakes.