How to Identify a Commitment-Ready Man

Debbie has desired the same thing for as long as I've known her:

A nice man who treated her well and wanted a future with her.

But the guys she's known have never exactly fit that description.

She'd be raving over someone new every time I spoke to her. This guy was a lawyer. This guy worked as a stockbroker. This guy brought her to a spectacular rooftop bar. This guy brought her out on his boat.

Every time, she got taken away by enthusiasm.

But I never got to meet the man in Debbie's life since she'd be single again in no time.

"Guys just don't commit these days," she cried.

However, I sensed that there was more going on.

Debbie was starting to fall for her new guys based on the thrill and excitement of those first few dates.

Was that criteria ruining her chances of finding the committed man of her dreams?

3 Ways Guys Try To Romance You

Some men see every date as a test to conquer.

They go straight for victory rather than "wasting time" getting to know you better, finding out if you share their interests, and evaluating whether you are compatible.

They shower you with romance. Nothing is more flattering than someone who has been intensely interested and fascinated by you from the moment you first locked eyes.

There are three ways that these men ramp up the emotional intensity.

1. The Great Gesture

This is the man who pulls strings to get you reservations for your first date at a fancy restaurant. It's the guy who, out of the blue, flies across the world to surprise you. It's the guy who entices you with adventure or the one who pleasantly surprises you with expensive experiences or gifts.

2. Your soul partner

This is the person who gets emotionally intense very quickly. He claims that you have a spiritual connection that he has never experienced before. He talks about soulmates, twin flames, and destiny. He seems so certain of the chemistry he's feeling, even if you might not be able to sense it.

3. The Passionate Lover

This is the person whose eyes are glued to you. He compliments tiny details about your appearance that you thought no man would ever pay attention to. He claims that he needs to hold himself back from kissing you because he knows he is moving too fast. He finds it so hard to keep his hands off of you.

When a man is overly romantic on those first dates...

You lose sight of everything because of how bold and exciting and flattering and thrilling his feelings are for you.

You overlook the fact that you are on this date to decide if he may make a good long-term fit.

You become caught up in the moment.

And that distraction can take you away from what you really want.

A romance or a committed relationship?

Our best love stories tend to go something like this, which is why it's so easy to get sidetracked by over-the-top displays of affection or talk of twin flames.

When the couples in our love stories meet, they instantly recognize that their connection is out of this world.

People who are meant to be together don't need to waste time asking each other questions and listening.

They don't have to waste time determining whether they have similar values or goals.

They just "know."

We also believe that we should "just know" too.

However, the qualities that make a relationship last a lifetime are not immediately obvious.

Finding out if a man is effective at communicating when things are challenging takes time. Finding out if you can tolerate being together 24-7 takes time. To adapt to each other, to learn to work through conflicts, and to make decisions together.

The way he treats you on those first dates does not help you determine if he will make a good partner. He is simply showing you what you want to see.

Spot a Commitment-Minded Guy

Guys that want a lifetime commitment behave differently.

Because they don't truly know you, they don't often spend lavishly on such grand gestures on the first date. They want to save those grand gestures for the woman they truly fall in love with.

These people have a tendency to start out slowly. They don't jump to conclusions about you. They don't assume you're their soul mate. They ask questions, pay attention, and reflect on what you have said.

Maybe you'll think the date was a waste of time. After all, no fireworks were set off. This guy didn't approach you with the same vigor as other guys you've dated.

However, perhaps like Debbie, you've been so busy looking up to the skies for fireworks that you haven't looked down to see the genuine warm glow in the eyes of this man sitting across from you.

If what you want is a great guy that treats you well and wants to build a future with you, then look for that. Your heart is worth much more to put on anything else.

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