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5 Tips to Become Friends With Anyone Over Texts

By Lesya ChumakPublished about a year ago 4 min read

Many of us lack confidence while texting new people for the first time. This might be especially challenging when it's you who wants to initiate communication after you met at a party or in a gym. Your mind may be swarmed with concerns like "How do I even start?", "What should I text about?", "What if I come across as boring or clingy?", and "How do we become friends over text?"

Here are some simple tips that can help you overcome your inner doubts and become a texting guru, enabling you to stay in touch with a person and get to know them better.

Remind them of your name and ask for their opinion

You've had a small talk with someone at an event and think that you have plenty to talk about? Well, maybe! To make sure your guess is fair and maintain contact, suggest that you exchange phone numbers and follow each other on social media. It may be a bit scary at first, but with a little practice, you'll realize that most of us eagerly grab a chance to converse!

Wait for a couple of days and reach out. When texting someone for the first time, bring up your mutual interests. If you met in a gym, consider asking them about their recent workouts. If you clicked with someone at a seminar, go back to the topic and ask for their opinion.

Remember about texting etiquette

Before you get closer with your new interlocutor, it's a good call to stick to the golden rules of texting. Over time, you and your buddy might agree on your own messaging dos and don'ts, but at the getting-to-know-you stage, texting etiquette is king.

Firstly, avoid using lengthy sentences since they can be perceived as dull. Secondly, mind your grammar. To make sure your messages are error-free, you can use AI-powered apps like Writely or ChatOn. Writely not only detects mistakes but also helps paraphrase sentences that are confusing or too long. And ChatOn is where you can find cool conversation starters to jump-start your convo, get help with expressing your thoughts clearly, and find mind-blowing facts to discuss with your new buddy.

Beside this, whenever possible, try not to split one message into many. Few things in life are more irking than those endless notification dings!

Don't be afraid to stand out

Right from your kick-off message, you can put your best foot forward and make a good impression by highlighting your creative streak. To do so, in place of generic fonts, consider using some more peculiar ones. They will emphasize the topic of your message and let your unique self shine through. For example, if you're discussing a horror movie or the upcoming Halloween party, give a whirl to a gothic font to set the perfect spooky mood! In addition to that, you can use emojis and GIFs, which will liven up your dialogue.

To feel inventive and at ease when texting, use apps with dozens of fonts to choose from. Fonts Art is one of the top apps in this category, boasting over 300 fonts and a huge collection of GIFs and emojis. Most importantly, it gives you a chance to craft your custom font using your handwriting! Another cool feature is that you can set custom keyboard styles to fit your mood.

Ask meaningful questions and give detailed answers

When trying to build a relationship of trust, consider wrapping up your small talks with meaningful questions. They might help you find extra bonding points and learn more about your pal. Some questions should be open-ended, so that in place of "yes" or "no" replies your potential friend can share their views and preferences.

Likewise, if you're asked an open question, make an effort to elaborate on your reply. Your acquaintance should feel that you don't mind pouring your heart out, too.

All in all, the essential point is that both sides should be engaged. If you notice your chat buddy not even trying to carry a convo and sending only dry "yeah" or "huh" in return, or it takes ages for them to reply, it makes sense to give it up, at least for a while. Perhaps now isn't the best time, or your hobbies turned out to be completely different. Instead, it's best to focus on people who are willing to make new friends.

Use humor wisely

Numerous studies have shown that spicing up your texts with humor helps make conversations smoother and more pleasant. Besides, humans are naturally drawn to the ones with a humorous streak. However, making someone laugh over text is no easy job. Jokes that have people in stitches when told in person might not work the same way in a message and may even cause an adverse response. Still, if you're confident in your sense of humor, don't be afraid to use this powerful tool, but watch your recipient's reaction. Some jokes are better to be saved for your offline chit-chats.

While texting can help spark a friendship and discover more about your new acquaintance, arranging a face-to-face meeting is crucial for building a strong connection. Your texting history will help you decide on the activity to go for. You might opt for a drink at a local bar, a walk in a park, or a home cinema or video games session. But no matter which activities you choose, you already know your interest is mutual. So the best course of action is to relax and be yourself during your in-person meetings.

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Lesya Chumak

I love to write and share my thoughts with others:) Writing is what make me inspired and alive.

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