3 Mistakes Love Addicts Make

When Courtney fell in love... she fell HARD!

She offered her loved one everything.

She turned his life into a fantasy. She gave him gifts that he liked as a surprise. She was never argumentative or whiny.

She was the perfect girlfriend.

At least, that's what she believed.

When she came to relationship coach James Bauer, she was healing from yet another heartwrenching breakup.

She couldn't eat. Couldn't sleep. Barely managed to get herself to work.

She was curious as to why this continued happening to her.

Why did she offer these men everything just for them to leave it all and walk away like nothing ever happened?

Was the world filled with users? Was she doomed to live alone forever?

James asked her three questions.

The questions were based on the work of codependence expert Pia Mellody.

Question #1.

When you’re in love, do you make the other person your whole world?

Question #2.

When you’re in love, do you expect him to adore you forever and ever no matter what?

Question #3.

When you’re in love, do you neglect to care for or value yourself?

If James' client answers yes to all three…

Then he talks to her about love addiction.

An Addiction to Love

Love addiction is romanticized in the society in which we live.

We are looking for couples that are so madly in love that they will do anything to be together. Stories with drama are interesting to read.

But that focus on one thing doesn't work out so well in real life.

If a man pursued you as Edward Cullen did Bella Swan, you could feel quite uneasy and might even call the police to denounce him.

When a man shows interest in you, it's fun, but when he abandons everything to chase you, it's disturbing.

While healthy love belongs in our lives, all-consuming love belongs on screen.

Healthy love is affection that is:

• Realistic - Finding a knight in shining armor to fulfill all of your dreams is not the point of this. It's about finding an ordinary guy who makes you happy to share life with.
• Boundaried - This kind of love doesn't sacrifice everything. Love is what provides appropiately.
• Balanced - This is not self-sacrificing love. It is love that emanates from self-love.

Love addicts struggle to love in a realistic, boundaried and balanced way.

But to make these mistakes, you don't have to be a full-fledged love addict.

We all make mistakes occasionally. We either idealize the wrong person or we offer too much.

Here are 3 mistakes that love addicts make that you should avoid.

Mistake No. 1: Placing Him on a Pedestal

Making someone else your "Higher Power" is the first mistake made by someone who is addicted to love.

This term, as used by Pia Mellody, serves as an example of how a person who is addicted to love tends to overestimate the power of their loved one.

The love addict is certain that this man would be the one to save her from the mundane problems of daily existence.

He will take good care of her and love her in the way that she has always desired.

She would obviously drop everything to be with him. He is everything she has ever wanted.

As you might expect, it puts her in a position to experience a major letdown when the common man she chooses proves to be fallible, untrustworthy, and disinterested in becoming her rescuer.

Take him down from his pedestal. He is neither better nor worse than you; he is your equal.

Mistake No. 2: Relying on Him to Feel Good

Expecting unwavering positive regard is the second error of love addiction.

Most people are aware that you may love someone and still dislike certain aspects of them. Even if you adore someone, you may not agree with all they do.

However, if you are in a relationship with a love addict, anything you say that can be seen as critical will seem terrible to them.

The relationship is crucial to the love addict's self-esteem. She is incapable of handling him when he's upset. She is always dependent on his approval of her.

Self-esteem comes from inside. Find ways to feel better about yourself that don't rely on him.

Mistake No. 3: Expecting Him To Take Over

The third love addiction mistake is handing over the responsibility of looking after yourself to another person.

When a man is not around, love addicts are often quite good at taking care of themselves. They keep their money in order, eat healthy, and schedule social time with friends.

But as soon as they fall in love, their self-care is completely destroyed.

They cease doing stuff that kept them healthy and sane.

They follow their partner's wishes - even though he's not always thinking of their wellbeing.

Even if you're in a serious relationship, you still need to take care of yourself and stand on your own two feet.

Although love addiction is a pattern of addictive relationships, it occasionally only shows itself in the case of one particular guy.

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