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Marriage Counselors Expose the 5 Toxic Habits That Ruin Relationships

"A lack of communication between two people can cause a surge bigger than any actual distance."

By The Lost GirlPublished about a year ago 3 min read
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At the heart of it all, of course, should be love and mutual respect. There must always be mutual attraction between two individuals for the connection to be true.

Is that, though, all there is to a relationship? Is it just a question of communication? Obviously not. There are several aspects that contribute to the success of a relationship.

However, developing a connection is not always the same as maintaining a relationship. And if a romance becomes a marriage, you can expect that things will get exponentially more complicated.

Many people make the mistake of taking their relationship for granted as it begins to stabilise and settle down. When this happens, people fail to see all of the small things in the connection, which can be a source of anxiety in the marriage.

If you want your relationship to work, you must always remain on top of things. Marriage does not happen by chance.

If you want things to run smoothly in your marriage, you must always put in a lot of time, effort, and care.

You will encounter many roadblocks, and you and your spouse will have to work together to overcome them.

Many individuals are unaware that their relationships may develop identities and traits of their own. And the simple things that you perform in your relationship every day will ultimately establish the character of your partnership.

And if you have a pattern of negative behaviours, this might jeopardise your relationship in catastrophic proportions. The thing to remember about habits is that they might feel extremely normal and natural to you.

You might be engaging in a poisonous behaviour in your relationship without realising it until it all comes crashing down on you. You should always be police yourself. You cannot allow yourself to engage in harmful behaviours that may cause a schism between you and your partner.

Take the time to read this essay completely. If you are guilty of any of the following habits in your relationship, you must alter them immediately.

If you want to ensure that your marriage lasts long, you must always minimise the harmful behaviours. You should constantly strive to create a joyful and healthy relationship environment.

And that will be difficult if you continue to engage in poisonous relationship behaviours. And all of this is based on the recommendations of the world's top relationship therapists and marriage specialists. Here are six poisonous behaviours that might be ruining your marriage.

1. You don't actually discuss the connection.

You don't fully convey your wants, feelings, expectations, and standards. As a result, you are rarely on the same wavelength as a pair.

2. You keep each other's secrets.

You're not always honest and upfront with one another. That's a concern since it represents a breach of trust in your partnership. You cannot make your marriage work until you cultivate mutual trust.

3. You lose sight of how significant the smallest details are.

You must always pay attention to the smallest nuances in your relationship. Even the most insignificant things must have significance and purpose for you. These things cannot be taken for granted.

4. You have no social life outside of your marriage.

You put too much emphasis on your relationship to be your only source of social engagement. That type of pressure is usually harmful to a marriage.

5. You do not find a way to compromise on ideals and convictions.

You may not always agree on most issues in life. However, as a married pair, you should always find a way to live together despite your differences. 

FINAL CONSIDERATIONS

Different marriages may point to a variety of causes for their demise. There is, however, always a way to make things work. It only requires a lot of work and attentiveness. Even though your marriage is plagued by a certain issue, you always have the option of resolving it. You only need to dedicate a lot of time and patience to resolving these challenges.

If you are willing to learn about your marriage and change your conduct so that it does not disintegrate, you will be placing yourself in a position to succeed in your relationship.

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The Lost Girl

A Lost Girl is: A woman in her 20s, 30s (and beyond) who's more than a bit unsure about what she's doing with her life, the direction that she's headed and how to make changes for the better.

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