Caribbean-American(she/her)+Actor+Life Coach student. I value quality over quantity, simplicity over complexity but the perplexicity of life shows that the proof is in the numbers. Provoking thought and creating change, one story at a time.
May Is For
Happy Mental Health Awareness Month We’re five months into 2022, how are you feeling? Other than crime being up in all major cities being likened to the crack era in 1980’s NY, gang crime overridden in the streets of LA (where I am presently) It’s been a wild five months already! I went from being afraid to go outside, to becoming relatively accustomed to helicopters overhead and robberies taking place every day in broad daylight… In other words, this is our “new normal.”
Where There’s a Will (Smith) There’s a Way
What a week! The infamous Oscar slap had everyone’s head in a talespin! How could “hollywood’s golden boy” ever be human and show an emotion that we don’t agree with at a moment that will change history forever!? How will humanity survive this 2 second slap!? I’m kidding, it was shocking and that’s why I thought it was a joke, like a skit, yano? Apparently so did Michael Bay, Bad Boys Director…
Bridgerton Season 2
Sigh, and a rather long one at that. Oh, there is much to unpack about Bridgerton Season 2 and one thing’s for certain, I cannot wait to see Season 3! I’m known for doing an English accent or two but besides the Monarchy and the society therein, comes a truly universal story of tragic love and other things… Without giving too much away because I really want you to see it, let’s get into the undercurrent themes of this brilliant show.
The Handmaid’s Tale Season 4 I started watching The Handmaid’s Tale over the quarantine in 2020. It was me and two other actors, one of us had already seen it and suggested it. We binged it all day and overnight some nights. We chose characters that we would’ve reacted similarly to… We gasped at the hypocrisy and patriarchy but nothing hit home quite like Season 4, which I just finished two days ago.
Has anything happened recently in your life’s events to make you wonder, “who am I?” I’m here to tell you that it’s ok to feel unrecognizable. You’re actually supposed to outgrow past beliefs and become a whole new, evolved human being. Or to look at yourself and wonder, “how did I get here?” Here may not have been the sought after destination, but in the end, it’s the journey that matters, isn’t it?
The N Word
God no, not that one! This one, Narcissism. It's the second most commonly used word in our society today, covid being the first... Truth be told, I'm sick of the word because depending on who's talking about it, you can get lost in the sauce! I'm going to start by saying that it is easy to call someone a name or diagnose someone especially when you believe that you are a victim of their behavior. The sad truth, however, is that at one point or another, we have been the person inflicting the injustice or invalidation and making another person feel like they are just not that important... It's called being Human, or maybe a spiritual person will say, not healing from traumas. We experience such a wide range of emotions throughout our lives (many new to us) as we deal with depression, anger, resentment, abandonment... the list goes on and on... That what you need, is to catch your breath and try to understand what is happening to you. If you can't understand yourself, what led you down that road, why you are where you are, reacting and responding the way you are, what boundaries you overlooked, never had or didn't know that you needed... (that's a mouthful I know) If you are currently "processing" your emotions internally and therefore lacking in the capacity to make time for someone else's problems, or issues, this does not make you a narcissist. So, let's get into it...
We’re Breaking Up
Today is the day of love, in all its glory and the expression of love aka Valentine’s Day, Galentine’s Day, Singles Awareness Day… I was single last year around this time and comfortably so… Little did I know that love was anything but comfortable, or, the journey of discovering how to love…
Give It Your All
Death is one of the most natural unnatural experiences to process as a living human being. Sometimes, I feel like it is the end of the person's suffering whether it be mentally or physically. Other times, I take the spiritual approach and feel completion, as the being enters another phase of life. Still, it is painful to experience the loss especially when it is a choice, like suicide. Cheslie Kyrst's death on Sunday morning left me feeling a range of emotions for countless reasons and I will try to walk myself and you, through this range in this article. Trigger warning: If this topic is difficult for you thank you for reading up until this point. If you're ok with processing this with me, I welcome your support.
Five Months ago, I celebrated my birthday, poolside at the Freehand LA and afterwards? Jumped on a plane! My mood? Ready to live! Couped up for almost a year, all by myself in LA, I was ready to see people! I also had a moment of wanting the digital nomad life. I was tired of my own space. First stop? Miami!
I “come from” a tiny Island that takes about a 2 hour car ride to drive from one end of the island to the other. (Said in my Antiguan dialect aka- “broken english”) We were taught the Queen’s English but cut sentences in two to make them shorter, more direct, to the point and in a language only we could understand and make our own. A defiant cause, indeed. It’s no wonder that my favorite subject in school once I moved to America in grade 6 was English. Americans do not speak like the British and I do not always speak like an American. I have however, spent most of my life living in South Florida. When I lived in Florida, people thought I was from NY, now that I live in LA, people think I’m a Valley girl. Hey, I’m just me and my accent has a very wide range depending on who I’m around.
Codependency In The Dark
It’s been two and a half months... I finally turned on the light. Let me explain. You know how some people liken relationships to a dance? When I move you move just like that 🎵 (Ludacris-Stand Up, song reference) Well, try moving together while not knowing the song or the rhythm, in the dark. This was my first taste of codependency. A fumble, a misstep, a turn in the “wrong” direction... Can someone hire a choreographer already!? Ok... All jokes aside, codependency is real and living in the time of coronavirus, it’s exasperated. I’m much more confident free-styling my dance moves anyway.