Autistic, non-binary, queer horror nerd with a lot to say.
Social (Anxiety) Butterflies
I have never been a fan of small talk. Even as a child, I wanted to skip right past the hey how are you, how's the weather and jump right into who their favorite dinosaur was and why. I could learn a lot more about a person by their favorite dinosaur anyway, not how cloudy the sky was. Meeting new people was often anxiety causing then, just as it is now. I'd much prefer if people gave me details about a new person I was meeting, and things we might have in common.
The Importance of Boyfriend by Dove Cameron
For many LGBTQ+ folks, representation in music means changing the pronouns to make it inclusive. Sometimes if we're lucky, songs about dating and relationships aren't as gendered and we can find a bit ourselves there, but more often than not, we're drowned in the heterosexual "norm".
Saved by Horror
I had horrible nightmares as a child. The kind that woke you dripping in sweat and unable to think about anything else. Even movies like Jurassic Park would send me into weeks of nightmares about dinosaurs eating my loved ones. I was a weird kid, but I didn't know that some of the weirdness I was dealing with in myself weren't just the pings and pangs of growing up, they were mental health monsters rearing their ugly heads.
The Monster In The Living Room
As a disabled person myself, I am excused from certain behaviors BECAUSE I’m disabled. I’ve had people refuse to make arguments with me because “They couldn’t argue with someone mentally disabled.” I’ve had people dismiss toxic behaviors because I’m autistic. If I’m wrong, I may not understand it, but how can I learn to be better if someone doesn’t openly talk to me about it? It’s infantilization, and honestly, it’s ableist not to hold disabled people accountable for their actions. Disabled adults can still make mistakes, have problematic and hurtful behaviors, be racist, transphobic, etc. Our abilities or inabilities don’t excuse hurting others, and often, able bodied people use our disorders, diseases & disabilities as an excuse to not help us grow and do better. As if we aren’t human enough to be worth the effort, we’re not seen as valid. We can and will put in the work that we are capable of, and not calling us out on things we may be missing, can hinder more than help us. I’m not perfect, no one is, but I also don’t want to be treated like a child because I’m autistic with physical limitations.