Jay LeTron Dobbins
Casual writer! Love to express in print! Tell people how you feel and love life to the fullest with no regrets. Try to say something good about a person when they can hear it, and not when they are gone! Love like no tomorrow.
A Simple Dinner for 2
I was told that if there was enough focus and determination, situations will eventually turn favor to the labor. I was also told that if a man tried too much, then his foolish ways would never see the side of appreciation. Nonetheless, it all can end and start with one simple dinner. I know, guys don't ask women out and true luv is quickly fading away! I cannot take account to anyone's plan or what their intentions may be. So let me focus on me and care less of what everyone else may think. If I had thousand words to convince you to spend a moment of your life with me, the chances are high that I could give you more than enough reasons why we should have more than dinner together.
Peace in the Parking Lot
A few cars approached and one car turn on a quick, but yet faith siren. I was a bit concerned, but was ready to fight my way out of this. "What's going on here guys? My name is Office Bates! We like to keep things simple and relaxed in vine country." Mr. Chow walked toward me and said, "Don't worry Officer Bates! We are just settling and old deal!" Janette and I walked off and as we passed Mr. Chow, he whispered, "This is not over, Sir!" Janette grab my hand and put her head on my shoulder and said, "That was a close one!" We both looked at each other and in sequence said, "Let's get out of here, quick-fast and a hurry."
Dating a Brother from the Midwest
Since my relocation of varies cities here in the US, I have come to the confirmation that brothers in the Midwest are built differently. I am going to speak for the majority because I know there are some case studies out there that may go against the statistics. I have LIVE and not visited just about every region of the United States in my lifetime. Over time, I have always enjoyed the observation of the social environment and it has always been surprising to me how women relate to men.
The passing of Love
I write this on a remarkable day for many reasons! I can easily turn this into a multi-chapter book, but I will try to simplify this article the best way possible. Self reflection is a powerful tool, and I hope in the mist of my personal evaluation; someone can learn a lesson in their personal life. I write this with the highest love for my mother and there were some not so positive sides to her. There is no such example of a perfect parent and she did the best she could, with what she had. So looking back on her life as me and my other siblings celebrated her life years ago, projected good and bad memories of her. I cannot tell you why all ten of her children weren’t there to celebrate her life. Everyone has there reason for every action. Their attendance has nothing to do with the love I have for them. This is totally about me and how her love was she transferred to me, and how I transferred that love to others. However, the lack of attendance could have been a reflection of some negative aspects some of my siblings could have with her. I don’t know and that is not my story to tell.
Diamonds, wine and White House Confrontation!
The knocks of Mr. Chow grows louder and the pace is picking up! I quickly ran to the door, "Mr. Chow! We have been looking for this bag since we left downtown. Thanks for bringing this by!" I made an motion toward the bag and Mr. Chow gave a gentle block of my hand. "Not so fast. Sir! I think you made have some merchandise of mine." I gave Mr. Chow a grin, "What makes you think we have something of yours, Chow?" Mr. Chow gave me another tense stare down. Greater than the one of our first encounter. He drop the bag and said, "Do not mistake me for a fool! You will see my wrath and feel the pain when I crush you. Give your greatest hope that I do not catch you with my merchandise!" Mr. Chow walked off as he stirred up a quick wind with his exit.
The Help Meet
Now, my sisters may beat me for the title of this article and the illustration that I have selected. Just a little humor if you know me personally however the story is a bit deeper. Please allow me to explain this concept. I’ve always considered myself to work in an unorthodox manner. So I will attempt to approach this on the back end, while explaining the primary role of the man. I understand what society has placed by mixing these roles up, and if you are subject to having a household, without gender roles this article may not be for you. Just don’t be confused if he ask you to check on a loud noise in the middle of the night or to take out the trash and pay half of the bills. I know some of you have been there before and some of you are living in the situation now.
A Man should PAY ALL the Bills!
In this world of two-income required living, the need of common sense is at an all-time high. There is a choice and we all live by choice, like it or not! However, most of us do not live by reality. The reality is that things in life can be achieved with or without someone. I really think that this is not a conversation that needs statistical data to back any statement that I am about to make. I am sure that we all know rich people, poor people, and people who live well beyond their means and mental realization. A prime example of mental realization. Having the ability to assess any situation and acknowledging if that situation is good for you mentally or not. If we cannot agree on anything, we can agree that our mental being is the key to everything we do in life.
Is She really that close to Flawless?
It was quite the meeting that I never thought would extend to an impromptu dinner invitation. We were only scheduled to meet for coffee after briefly connection on a social dating site. My skepticism was very high after being constantly disappointed with the dull communication of a connection taking three days to answer a question. Only to find her lame response by saying she doesn't check her site much. As if her phone doesn't chime each time she receives a message alert. However, this woman her broke the low standard of social media dating and excelled far beyond any expectation.
Hauling heavy Ice
The tour train made it back to the resting grounds. Janette was in need of a perm after a long and humid day. She pulled an old military cap to cover the beginning stages of what could appear to be a hot mess; however, her true natural beauty took command of the moment. If I never witness raw beauty in any stage, Janette display the peak of natural beauty at that very moment. A temporary sweat covered the tip of her chin and I took my handkerchief to remove the attempt of imperfection. Janette smiled and gave me a soft kiss on the lips and said, "now what about this mater plan of your?"
To see an image of Her Best Version
This is very funny to me, but it was time to put this to print because a bunch of people miss this. Now I cannot tell any woman what she should be doing as a woman to uplift, support, or encourage a man. I will remain in my lane and do my duty as a man. Now keep in mind that I will always live with the understanding of teamwork and two-way streets. What's good for the goose, is good for the gander! So many of us are conditioned with options! Too many options to where we cannot make a decision that will allow us to make a final decision. We make decisions based on what we see at the current moment, sometimes with the thought that if conditions change for the worse, an exit strategy can be executed. Instead, we need to see if she excels in whatever she is doing today, do men have the capacity to accept what she is about to become? Is she humble enough to manage who she is about to become for the greater of the people that is currently surrounding her? So sometimes we men ask the wrong questions. We need to take a step back and consider how we can bring out the best version of her, and if the outcome will be within our capacity to accept. So let me break this down into three areas in placing a vision into a woman that will set everyone up for a successful relationship.