Why a Coffee Date?

Before I start! This has everything to do with time, and nothing to do with money! Coming from a person who enjoys the typical dinner date and experiencing a new restaurant with a wonderful woman, it disappoints me to write this article in this tone! Yet, there is still hope, but I see it getting worse before improvements come along!

I have a few reasons why men prefer coffee dates vs spending time putting thoughts in a date, to only be let down!

Now let me make this clear! I speak only for the men (like me) who are really put forth an effort to meet a wonderful woman. Yes, there are men and women both who spoil the dating pool with urine, and there is no debate, they are out there! So I stand on a high ground broadcasting this message to the real women, there are men who honestly want to date you! However, you have to make it through the coffee stage first and here are a few reasons why!

Men are getting tired of burned by women who lacks respect for the men they are currently dating! Is it me, or is the city of Dallas filled with loose women? The last four women I met (social media and meeting out and about) have all been complete duds!

Now the invite for a date to a nice respectful (non-chain) restaurant was extended and two went on actual dates. However, when I tell you these women (at least three I know for fact) had no respect for their current relationship and just lied about having a significant other.

As a single man, I don’t have time to be a part of some insane boyfriend and unwanted drama that may cause my life, or time in prison. Men rather not deal with investing their time with someone who is disloyal and would potentially put them in danger by playing games with women who try to see if their man is jealous or just want to pay them back for cheating on them. Sister, please leave me out of that triangle!

Men what to feel wanted and respected! A coffee date shows the man your are interested in him and you aren’t throwing plate-licker vibes at him! Coffee dates provide the opportunity for the couple to get to know each other from pure conversation! This way, the two parties can see if there is a natural vibe and flow of positive chemistry!

More men are staying to themselves as of lately because we don’t want the disappointment of dealing with a woman who has no intention of being intimate (non-sexual) us and they aren’t willing to build. No, we don’t want to take care of your kids! Come with a financial plan that includes taking of your kids!

So many women are out of touch as to how much money it takes to run a household hold of a couple with children vs the average earning man out there. Stop comparing us to Russell Wilson and we cannot make money from a Fans Only page! Those are unrealistic expectations!

Yes, the prime reason why men resort to coffee dates first! Most women have very high and unattainable expectations for men! I have tested the situation on four women. Different backgrounds and looks and different occupations. Unfortunately they are all the same! Not serious about getting to know a man, have an unresolved or current relationship going on (I have receipts).

So the next time a man offers to take you out for coffee, please accept and see where it goes! Yes, there comes a time when he has to break down and take you out on a real date, but give it time!

This madness has to stop and let’s start by talking to other, honestly and openly!