It is hard to deal with judgement especially when you are recieving it from the people you love. When you had no choice but to grow up in a certain place and use what you were given to the best of your ability. Maybe you grew up in a tightly woven small town, and were tought to base your purpose on a certain religion to make meaning out of your life. Just one example, although there are billions of other communities and traditions that exist. Ways of being that were passed down from generation to generation. All meaningful and purposeful in their own ways, I have learned that there is no right or wrong belief. Humans, still do human things even if they are aligned with the best kind of traditions and beleifs and religions. People still disagree, and people still judge which does not make sense you would think that they would practice what they preach right?
Problems and solutions, two seperate islands that seem to be out of touch and opposites from eachother. We all want to be able to embark on our journey of finding that island of solutions to many aspects in life. That utopia where the poeple we care about thrive and the dreams we have are finally accomplished. A place where we can feel joy and freedom with ourselves, not having to worry or carry the weight of the world on our shoulders. An answer to what to do next, and to ultimatley be okay with the result as Florence + The Machine puts it in her song, "The Dog Days are Over." Celebrating a release of what used to keep us confined and trapped to truly embrace happiness.
Where am I headed? An umcomfortable question that many of us have asked ourselves. Not knowing what is coming up down the road can really cause us to make certain decisions that can impact our lives. Making sure that you are safe from the unknown is a great way to stay updated on what you need, and what can be done to stay safely nesseled in your current situation. Although, what happens if your current sitution is hard work that requires many hours out of the day? What happens when other areas of your life seem to be losing that control?
Isn’t it a great feeling when unexpected things happen that brighten up your day? The accomplishment of passing a test, getting a promotion, having someone recognize you for your hard work are all things that fill us with pride and strength. There are many milestones in life that keep us going and moving towards what we choose to experience next. Although what happens on the days that you aren’t receiving great news? The days where something happened that left you dissatisfied? Days where you are just settling? Knowing that with all the accomplishments and happy moments there are still those times many people ignore or push away, because experiencing it hurt. There might even be things in this moment that you are avoiding, in order to stay focused or stay strong in creating a better life for yourself. You are doing just that, trying your best to keep fighting and keep coming out on top.
Like many people you’ve probably heard phrases such as ‘never give up!’ Truly a powerful phrase, although you can only keep tackling the same situations with the same approach until it comes back to bite you in the butt. This in turn becomes stressful and very hard to keep up with especially if it’s scolding your kids every time they don’t finish their chores. Why does this happen? Ultimately, when situations arise that aren’t ideal we tend to emphasize things in a way that takes power away. I have witnessed this myself with how people talk to each other expecting things to be ‘done’ correctly. This color of seeing something as ‘wrong’ and fighting to fix it creates two opposing sides. With two opposing sides the reaction is to defend yourself and fight back because it’s human nature! Of course a child will fight back, they might even cut deep with their words which perpetuates this duel further. Wouldn’t it be swell if there was a way to skip that stress and extra fight just to make sure your child not only gets their chores done, but also learns mutual respect?