Dear Gianna
Q: "Last month I lost my grandfather, whom I loved deeply. The loss was incredibly hard for me, almost
unbearable. The same night I called my boyfriend, who was supportive on the phone, but told me he
would see me in three days like we had planned because he had already agreed to go to a football game
with his friends. I tried asking him to come to see me that same night, as I needed support. Still, he said
that while he felt really sorry for me, there wasn't anything he could do to make it better, and he would
be with me in a few days, anyway. I can't get over the disappointment; he wasn't there when I needed
him most. Some of my friends think that what he did was out of order, others that he didn't do anything
wrong because the pain was mine and I have to be independent in dealing with it. I am torn; I don't understand if I am overreacting or if he is unsupportive."
