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Family life from the feminist perspective; can women have it all? Can anyone?
Married woman's hardest card, not marriage, not children, but this thing
"Can you have a baby and still get a job?" It was my friend Mumu who said that. Since she got married last year, her family has been pressing her to have a baby soon.
#SingleMomChronicles:Hey Daddy
Being a single mother means that I am raising my daughters predominately on my own. Each daughter has her own father. I met my oldest daughters father when I was a kid. I was 6 years old and he was the 7 year old neighborhood bad boy. I met him because he stole my little brothers bike. I was gonna get it back. I was prepared to fight if necessary. Our parents (back then and still to this very day) live n the same block. Our relationship lasted 5 years. Our daughter was born when I was 20 (i turned 21 a little over a month later), and he was 22. I knew I had to grow up fast in order to care for this child. I bought a car in January, gave birth in February and signed the lease to my apartment in April. My daughters father wasn't ready to leave the streets. By that, I mean he still wanted to hang out with the homies. While I do not promote terminating pregnancy, I wanted to explore all my options. This was in 2005. I gave her dad a choice. I said to him: "are you sure you want to keep this baby? I don't want to be a single mother." Here we are 17 years later...
Latoya GilesPublished about a year ago in VivaI Thought There Would Be More Blood
I thought there would be more blood. Don't get me wrong, the blood came. The pain, the guilt, the confusion, rage, sadness, guilt- hell; the whole smorgasbord of emotions piled on top of me until I couldn't take a deep breathe without every mote of willpower I had.
Judey KalchikPublished about a year ago in Viva#SingleMomChronicles: Stats
I am a black woman. I have never been married. I have a different father for each of my two children. They are both largely absent, financially and physically. Each of those things alone place me in a certain category of society. Put them all together and I am the epitome of a stereotypical "black mom". Stereotypes are not race or gender specific unfortunately. I am so very tired of the single mom narrative. Y'all know what I'm talking about. Popular opinion suggests that single moms are lazy and just leach off the government. All the blame is always placed on us.Perhaps, had we chosen better men, we wouldn't be single moms. If we can't make ends meet, we need to work more hours or get a higher paying job. Heck, some people have the nerve to say work TWO jobs, instead of depending on the government. I have even heard folks have the audacity to tell a mom that if she couldn't afford children, she shouldn't have had them. Are you freaking kidding me? I cannot speak for anyone but myself, but life happens. It is quite as simple as that. One day I have a good job and life is good, then all of a sudden the whole world is thrust into a pandemic and my mother is in the hospital fighting for her life. She gets better (thank goodness) only for my children to get Covid. Naturally, as their sole caregiver, I got sick too after a while. I lost my job.
Latoya GilesPublished about a year ago in Viva#SingleMomChronicles: Mom Guilt
I have had "mom guilt" many times over the course of my parenting alone. I just never knew it had an actual name. So what exactly is "mom guilt"? Well, the online dictionary defines it as: "the name given to the feelings of guilt women experience in relation to their children. Mom guilt comes from an unrealistic ideal of a perfect mom.". That is a great way to describe it.
Latoya GilesPublished about a year ago in VivaFerrari 458 Italia
The Ferrari 458 Italia is a high-performance sports car produced by Ferrari from 2009 to 2015. It was designed to replace the Ferrari F430 and was the first Ferrari to feature a direct-injection V8 engine.
Car CommunityPublished about a year ago in VivaPCOS/PCOD Uncovered:
Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS), also known as Polycystic Ovary Disease (PCOD), is a hormonal disorder that affects women of reproductive age. Despite being a relatively common condition, there is still much that is not fully understood about PCOS/PCOD. However, recent research has shed light on some of the latest insights into this complex condition.
#SingleMomChronicles: Me Time
Hey mamas! On this episode of #SingleMomChronicles, we are gonna talk about: ME TIME. It is difficult as a parent to get time alone. As a single parent? Alone time is pretty much non-existent. I found myself becoming extremely overwhelmed all of a sudden. As the only adult in the house, everything lands on my shoulders. Whenever my children need anything, they come to me, of course. I have to cook, clean, help with homework, give advice and pep talks, be a listening ear, ect. I have a 17 year old daughter. She has generalized and social anxiety and depression. She has abandonment issues from her father leaving her as a child. She has mixed emotions about him raising his other kids but not being there during her childhood. She talks to me about all of those things. I have to sift through her mental and emotional stuff while attempting to sort through my own. I still gotta work somewhere to make money to live day to day. That is a heck of a lot for one person. I got to the point where I was sitting on the toilet in the bathroom with the door locked at midnight crying my eyes out. I mean ugly crying with the snot and the stuttering sobs. I would cry whenever I was in my car alone as well. That is no way to live. Something had to change, and change soon.
Latoya GilesPublished about a year ago in VivaThe Dangerous Agenda Behind Gender Fluidity: A Critical Analysis
Gender fluidity is a term used to describe individuals who do not identify exclusively with one gender. The concept of gender fluidity has gained increasing attention in recent years as part of the broader discussion around LGBT issues. However, there is a darker side to the gender fluidity movement that is often overlooked. In this article, we will explore the dangerous agenda behind gender fluidity and its negative impact on society.
Yosr StudioPublished about a year ago in VivaWEIGHT LOSS PLAN
Are you having trouble getting in shape? Do you have trouble maintaining a diet or exercise schedule? Although developing an effective weight loss strategy might be difficult, it can also be made considerably faster with the right advice and resources.
goddy igbinosaPublished about a year ago in VivaHow to handle a partner's emotional baggage
Emotional baggage refers to unresolved emotional issues that a person carries with them from their past experiences. These unresolved emotions can negatively impact an individual's current relationships, including romantic relationships. When you enter into a romantic relationship, you may find that your partner carries emotional baggage. In this article, we will explore how to handle a partner's emotional baggage and provide tips for supporting your partner and maintaining a healthy relationship.
Rajveer Digital MarketerPublished about a year ago in VivaThe importance of mental health in relationships
Mental health is an essential component of overall health and well-being, and it plays a critical role in relationships. Good mental health enables individuals to engage in healthy and fulfilling relationships, while poor mental health can lead to difficulties in communication, emotional regulation, and problem-solving, among other things. In this article, we will explore the importance of mental health in relationships and provide strategies for promoting mental wellness within a relationship.
Rajveer Digital MarketerPublished about a year ago in Viva