Married woman's hardest card, not marriage, not children, but this thing

"Can you have a baby and still get a job?"

It was my friend Mumu who said that.

Since she got married last year, her family has been pressing her to have a baby soon.

Said now let go of three children, while young, more than a few good to have a companion.

Mumu doesn't resent her family's urging, but she has her own worries.

Across the door, Sister Li, after giving birth to a child, no one to help, had to quit work, at home as a full-time wife;

A colleague of the company, three years gave birth to two children, because of reduced work efficiency, the company forced her to leave after the end of the lactation period.

Watching others around her, her quality of life plummeting because of having a baby, she felt intimidated.

Worried about having a baby and not having a job;

I am afraid that if I lose my financial resources, my children will suffer.

Many women of childbearing age face a difficult trade-off between work and childbirth.

Their plight, they really need to be seen.

Their problems, they really need to be solved.

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Read a piece of data:

In 2022, the total number of stay-at-home mothers accounted for 12.6 percent of married mothers in China.

This is not a small amount.

When a mother is confined to love and the kitchen, the responsibility of feeding the family has to go to a father.

Family conflicts can also arise.

As a result, many mothers are eager to be able to work again when their children are two or three years old.

Nearly 90 percent of stay-at-home parents want to return to the workforce, according to the 2021 Workplace Stress Survey for Women.

It's just that the road back to work isn't easy.

The daily care of young children is still a distraction for mothers, and problems that arise in kindergarten still need to be solved by mothers.

In the survey, 63.5 percent of mothers said they "cannot balance work and family."

It's not that they don't work hard, they just need more jobs that are suitable for "mom".

So, "mother post" came into being.

What is the mother post?

Literally, it's a job for mothers.

It pays five insurance and one fund, mothers have security;

It has flexible working hours so that mothers can combine work with children.

Sichuan's mother Yi Wensi, in a clothing company to do "mother post".

She came to work at 9 o 'clock every day, operated the sewing machine according to the issued drawings, and completed the piecework of the day.

I finish work at 4:30 p.m. every day, just in time to pick up my kids from school.

If something happens at home in the process of going to work, you can also temporarily ask for leave.

The rest of the work will be filled by other versatile workers.

It doesn't affect work or family.

The take-home pay, which varies from 4,000 to 5,000, is based on local requirements and the mothers' productivity.

Such a form of employment, no doubt to those who do not have enough time, and want to go out to make money mother a chance.

It's not just in Sichuan.

As early as 2021, "Mama Gang" became popular in Guangdong.

Jiang Guixiang is one of the beneficiaries.

Before taking a job at Mama's Post, she did odd jobs so she could have time to raise her children.

While the income from part-time jobs can ease some of the economic pressure, it is not guaranteed and the work is sporadic, so Jiang Guixiang often worries about money.

After learning of the "mother post", she quickly came to apply.

"It's a flexible schedule that suits me."

With this job, her daily routine became much more regular.

After seven o 'clock in the morning, she will wake up the child, simple cleaning, riding an electric bike, will be more than 3 years old children into the kindergarten.

By the time we get to the factory, it's 8:15.

"Other factory employees clock in at 8 o 'clock, so the extra 15 minutes allow me to settle my children's breakfast, get them to kindergarten and then come back to work."

The time of departure is also variable, with a choice of 4 p.m., 4:15 p.m., or 5 p.m.

What's more, working here involves signing a contract, paying social security, and everything is formal.

"I feel secure and want to do well."

In this way, "mother post" has realized many women's dream of employment "at home".

Many mothers know this post, hope that their own city can also have a "mother post".

Because when work and family can be balanced, when mothers are no longer forced to stay at home, they can redefine their worth.

They don't sacrifice themselves for their children.

And I'm not going to have a lower quality of life because of a child.

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Over the years, mothers have been discriminated against and treated unfairly. There are so many...

In the past two days, pregnant mothers have shared their experiences of being laid off.

She said the company had been trying to get rid of her since the early stages of her pregnancy.

In order to avoid the compensation, he asked her to leave voluntarily, saying that it would be easier to find a job.

"I didn't follow through and go back to work after maternity leave.

I didn't realize it was the same routine.

The company has written my resignation report for me."

I don't understand.

"Should pregnant mothers and nursing mothers be dismissed?"

Some mothers want to go back to work after having a baby.

But has not been able to wait for the company's return notice.

She couldn't wait, sent the company to ask the leader.

The answer was cryptic:

"I forgot to tell you that I'm losing staff this year.

Go out and look for it. Excuse me."

With no regard for the provisions of labor law.

They don't even have a mental preparation, and they don't reach out to you.

Instead, a breezy "Excuse me" dismisses you when you can't wait to ask again and again.

A person's rice bowl, so easily hit.

Nowadays, everyone is encouraging to have a third child, but no one thinks about the feelings of mothers who have children.

"Just had a baby and lost your job!"

"When you have a baby, you have to look at your boss."

When did having children become a female sin?

There was a debate in the film: Why do women fear marriage and childbearing?

Zhan Qingyun's answer made most people present silent.

"You asked me why I fear marriage and children, do you have to ask?

I don't have to say the cold words of the parents-in-law, the three men and six women who point, we go to see now the novice mother group, those full of anxiety.

A mother's needs, her preferences, her fears, her life aspirations are forgotten.

Everything has to give for my child."

"My mom, she sacrificed her better chances for me.

Now I've grown up, gone to a good college, got a good job, and suddenly I'm at an age where society is asking me to sacrifice the best years of my life so that I can have a child.

Our family has accomplished so much from generation to generation. Who has it accomplished?"

A word that makes people cry.

Yes, as women, they are desperate not to be trapped by "xx's mother".

They are hoping for something like a "mom post" that will get them out of their current rut.

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But what I didn't expect was that when mothers called for the "mother post" to be promoted nationwide, they could give themselves a guarantee.

But suffered a lot of resistance.

Among them, the most vocal, is this sentence: why no father post?

I admit that those who want a dad post essentially want fathers to share the burden of motherhood.

It frees women from domestic chores.

But I'm sorry to tell you this.

The current society, is the default "male master outside, female master inside".

Women are forced to bear the primary responsibility for raising children.

Data from the fourth Chinese Parents' Social Status Survey shows that:

In Chinese families, 67.5% of the tutoring work for children aged 0-17 is mainly undertaken by mothers.

Only 7.5 percent of families had two parents caring for their children.

Is it different from the screen full of "nice guys" you see on the Internet?

That's right.

There are good men, as we often call them, but they are few and far between.

The slogan "Women hold up half the sky" is familiar, even though the society has developed so far.

But it should not be ignored that modern society still defaults to housework and childcare as women's responsibilities.

This is also why, whether you are a junior college graduate or Peking University PhD graduate.

As long as you're a woman, you'll be asked the same question in an interview:

"How do you balance work and family?"

That's what millions of women are facing.

Even if you don't want to accept it, you have to.

In addition, there is another cry about the "mother post" :

"You can go to the nursery school in three months. You can pick her up after work. Do you worry about that?"

Indeed, currently on the market, there are really three months of baby care institutions.

It doesn't even take three months.

The nursery downstairs of my house, for six weeks of age.

Just pick up and drop off on time every day.

But let's not say how many families can afford to spend $10,000 a month.

Just seeing a child that young, a whole day away from their family, adjusting to a strange environment, being taken care of by strangers.

Most moms are sad:

"It hurts so much, the baby is so small."

After all, we have a child, not for their early independence, so that they don't bother themselves.

But want to hold their hand, to feel the change of the seasons, witness the joy of growth.

Is it wrong for a mother to want to spend more time with her children while still having a job?

Instead of thinking about how to solve their worries, persuade them to let go.

Isn't that a little cold.

We cannot say that in a few short years we will change everyone's mind and truly achieve equality between men and women.

What we can do is to raise awareness of women of childbearing age and the plight of stay-at-home mothers.

To solve the problems they're facing right now.

Fix what you can fix.

At least, the emergence of "mother post" is a solution, but also a kind of progress, isn't it?

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There is a media company in Guangxi, which employs mostly treasure mothers.

The female boss is also the mother of the child, they usually take care of the baby during the day and live at night.

In order for employees to better balance family and work.

She and her husband were discussing whether they could set up a children's playground at work so that the precious mothers could bring their children to work at set hours.

Make money and raise kids.

Why would you do that?

Because she is a woman and a mother of two, she knows better than others how desperate mothers are to work.

And how far they'll go to keep their jobs.

"If you have a job, you have an income. You can feed your kids well."

"I won't be looked down upon by my in-laws anymore, because I am also an income earner."

"I can be a role model for my children and no longer look idle in their eyes."

If marriage makes a man work hard, because he has a family to maintain.

Then giving birth makes a woman more responsible, because most mothers want to give their children a better environment.

The reason why we are now calling out for a solution to the problem of working mothers of childbearing age.

Because this is not the plight of one person or one family.

This is an urgent problem for millions of families today.

Instead of blaming young people for not having children.

Blame modern women too selfish.

Try to put yourself in their shoes.

What real problems do they face?

How to let them want to live, dare to live, not have so much pressure and anxiety.

Maybe the whole society needs to do more.

If you say, giving birth to children is a matter of thousands of generations.

Then, it is a duty to treat mother well.