Why are others coquettish is high emotional intelligence, you a coquettish is made

It is said that a spoiled woman is the best life, but not every spoiled woman will have a good life. Some girls coquettish and some girls coquettish, are two completely different effects. A few examples will be clear:

A girl's boyfriend is very busy with work recently, but she wants her boyfriend to accompany her to the movies today, so she said: recently you have no time to accompany others, no matter what, you are going to accompany others today! Am I not as important as your clients?

B girl, boyfriend to work overtime, originally agreed to go to the movies today, the result can not go, so the girl said: well, today let you go for a while, but tomorrow you can double compensate me oh!

C girl and boyfriend quarrel, two people quarrel more fierce, the boy said: why is every time I give in?

So C says: Huh! You don't even love me now! I don't even want to be coaxed!

D girl and boyfriend quarrel, two people quarrel more fierce, the boy said: why is every time I give in?

So girl D said: Because I have something you don't have?

The boy asks: What do you have?

Then D girl answered: because I have a tall and handsome, gentle and considerate, inclusive of my boyfriend ah!

Obviously, among them A and C girls, it is easy to make boys feel that she is doing, and B and D girls, but they can easily resolve the contradiction, so that boys are willing to make concessions and compensation.

Why is the same coquettish, the effect is so different? That's because these two ways of playing spoiled, in essence, are two different.

The former is more inclined to ask boys for something to achieve their own purpose, while the latter is more inclined to provide boys with value emotions, so that boys enjoy such a relationship model.

Coquetry was originally a way to enhance the relationship, one side is happy, and the other side also enjoys it. But if it becomes a way to kidnap the other party for the purpose, then the other party will naturally find it difficult to enjoy it and regard its actions as actions.

All in all, proper pettiness is a provision of emotional value, rather than a claim and squeeze.

So how can we correctly act spoiled, provide each other with value emotions, and let each other enjoy this kind of relationship with you? Here we summarize some methods from several major aspects:

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One's words

Sweet mouth is a very useful skill when acting like a spoiled girl. But equally, you must avoid direct and obvious requests while being sweet.

For example, there is a girl who especially likes to praise her boyfriend, boyfriend promotion and salary, praise her boyfriend's ability is strong, serious work looks handsome. Then send her a link to the gift she wants and ask her to buy it for her.

Whenever you want something from your boyfriend, start giving him a big compliment and then say what you want. After a long time, her boyfriend will be afraid of her as long as she is spoiled, let alone enjoy it.

No one likes transactional praise, and it's frowned upon if we benefit from pandering to others.

When we praise a person, if the praised person finds out the motivation of the praised person's behavior is to seek benefits from him, it will greatly reduce the liking of us, and even will stay away in order to protect themselves.

Therefore, when we are spoiled, we must avoid too purposeful praise, which will not only make the other party enjoy your spoiled, but also make the other party hate and hate your spoiled way.

Compared with forced coquetting, we are better to use the way of coquetting to ease the atmosphere and sublimate the emotional temperature.

For example, when you quarrel with the other party, you can say: "I know bullying others, you speak so good, but you can't say you ~", "You are a science student, my logic can't catch up with you, I don't know let others ~"

In this way, even if the other party is very angry, it will be tempered by your retrogression, and even sometimes it will comfort you in turn, and your quarrel will become a sweet episode in your feelings.

In addition, you should learn to express your needs naturally with a soft way of speaking.

In this way, the other party can better understand your inner needs and meet your needs.

When you want your partner's company, you complain angrily, "Are you the only one busy?" Will you come with me or not?" This will only make you and him unhappy, your needs are not being met, and your lover will feel that you don't understand him.

Change the soft way, learn to act pettish, say, "OK, I don't bother you, but tomorrow you have to make up for me!" Otherwise, I will not let go of you, who fascinates me."

This way of speaking is definitely much more lovely than "no, people want you to come now is I important or xx important", and it can also get more feedback from men.

Holding the appropriate act of petticoat is a kind of emotional weakness, is a gentle sword, but also to create an effective lubricant of interest value, even if it is met again rough boys, will hang down the proud head to love you.

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limbs

Many times, this kind of thing depends not only on words, sometimes good body can also be silent.

Psychologists have suggested that:

Information exchange result =7% language +38% intonation speed +55% expression and movement.

That is to say, body language accounts for 55% of the information transmission during communication, so when acting petite, use body language to convey your psychological feelings and needs, which can provide better taste value.

For example, when communicating with each other, using your cute little expression and looking at the boy with small eyes will make the boy can't help but want to hug you, and even lift your chin and kiss it down.

You can also wink at the right time, different scenes, pucker up your lips, raise your eyebrows, slightly raise your face, or show a pathetic expression, so that you can get along with boys like a fish in water.

Or after you are angry and wronged, you can use a small fist to beat the other person's chest, you can also bad pinch him, twist him, bite him, etc., or directly silently hug him from behind and lean on his head.

This kind of silent language is richer in information than the spoken language, and it also leaves more room for the other person's imagination, and he will think, "How wronged and helpless she is, so it will be like this."

At this point, the other person's protective desire will quickly escalate, he will hold you tightly and want to love you.

Of course, girls who never act pettishly may be a little uncomfortable or uncertain in the early stage of operation, but it will be much better to start practicing slowly from a simple point of view.

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Matters needing attention

Finally, we must pay attention to the timing of coquettish, the timing is not right, all coquettish is floating clouds.

The timing here is to remember the three Nos.

Do not act coquettish in public places where there are many people, it is best to act coquettish when there are only two of you, so that you can take into account each other's face and let each other have a sense of respect;

Not on the line on the nose on the face, to moderate, see good stop;

Do not be too frequent, pay attention to the number of pettiness, otherwise the other side will produce immunity if you use more.

In short, just the right amount of pettish can provide high-quality fun value, help to enhance the emotional concentration, more happy elements, less contradictions and unhappiness.

Finally, I would like to remind you that the key point of coquetting is to emphasize quality rather than weight.

Don't think about winning by quantity, if you were a girl who didn't play spoiled, but after reading today's article, you played spoiled with your boyfriend ten times a day, then the other party will feel that you are abnormal in spirit. Therefore, I would like to advise all of you to make gradual progress according to your capacity.

When you subtly will be such a spoiled style, gradually strengthen in the other person's heart, your spoiled will look more natural, more not contrary to harmony, more appear not to do.

Well, today to share with you here, I hope everyone can become the good life of the woman!

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