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To the man who tried to assault me, I'm sure you don't remember me. After all, I was just a waitress in a hotel trying to get through the 6th Christmas party she'd served at that week and heading to get more cutlery at 1am while you were stumbling up from the bar. I was just 17 years old when you grabbed me by the waist so hard you left bruises as I tried to walk past you. "Oh baby... baby where are you going?" You slurred into my ear while pressing your erection against my hip. "You don't want to work tonight, come back to my room instead... you'll have much more fun" you smirked as you pushed me through a door and down the corridor. You shushed my protestations and, when I began to cry while saying "please no" over and over again, you grabbed my upper arm and told me to shut up.
Megan HindmarshPublished 3 years ago in VivaMenstruation Hygiene Tips!!
Menstruation Hygiene Tips!! Women are thankful for many of the natural traits in them like bearing a child, going through labor pains and much more. However, one natural phenomenon that most of the women are not that fond of is Menstruation. It's not that we hate it, but we do not like it as much as we adore night dress for girls sexy. As this comparison makes no sense, so does the period aches.
Billebon Online Lingerie StorePublished 3 years ago in Viva5 Things Sex-Positive Women Do Differently
If you grew up hearing that sex and sexuality were shameful things never to be discussed in polite company, you’re far from alone. The same is true of you if you’re officially tired of it and ready to embrace a healthier, more sex-positive way of life. However, knowing you want to be sex-positive is one thing. Truly understanding what sex-positivity is (and isn’t) is a little more complicated.
My Body
Sex=pills and portions. If not sex=babies. Have you ever thought about how hard it is to have a great sex life as a woman? I don’t know about you, but I love to have sex. Its intimate enough to satisfy my craving for an affectionate touch but just as detaching to preserve my emotional independence. However, this freedom of sexual expression comes with a plethora of responsibilities. At my age, there is now way I’m having a child right now. So that means it’s my responsibility to be on contraception. Ugh. Take your pick… the pill, patch, injection, IUD. I have tried a couple techniques to shield myself from a pregnancy, if I was a man… anyway. With contraception there’s risks, of course. Your tit might fall off, JOKING. No seriously, cancer, blood clots, exotic pregnancy. Although these risks are clinically “rare” they still happen. I don’t mean to be a Debby-downer, but doesn’t it just make you so mad sometimes. You’d think because women go through enough during childbirth and after that we should be able to enjoy a full, vibrant sex life. But I guess not. Me, I’m against contraception. I was on it for a long time and started at a relatively young age. I didn’t even realise that I could feel so normal when I came off of it. There were so many aspects of life that were affected by the pills I was taking. My skin, for one, was trash lol. I’ve only just been able to undo the years of damage. Second, my mood swings were horrible, I would get so upset sometimes and wouldn’t even know why. Thirdly, the constant yeast infections. I thought my vag was just more sensitive or something, but once I came off the pill I went from having thrush every 1-2 months to having them every 1-2 YEARS! The only good thing I can say about that experience was that it kept me slim (but once I came off it, I exploded so I guess it’s not that great lol). I bet some will say but “it’s worth it because you could have worry-free sex”. Wrong. I had continuously heart attacks (not real ones) every month until I got my period. As you know the pill is not 100%. I didn’t get pregnant though, thankfully lol. Yes, it worked.
Anita VictorPublished 3 years ago in VivaDear Ladies Who Struggle With Body Image
Throughout my 26 years on this earth, my most prominent enemy was the perception of body image. Whenever I would watch shows or movies, the female main character was tall and skinny. The photos I would see in magazines of “attractive women” were photos of women with big boobs and a toned stomach. My older sister fit those molds but, I did not. My sister would receive attention from boys and I would not. Growing up I was always the smart sister who was hysterical with a fun personality but, not the pretty one. Thinking about that now, I am proud of those traits. Growing up in my sister’s shadow though, put me in a dark place mentally.
The Mindful EducatorPublished 3 years ago in VivaMonsters
For a lot of children, the monster under the bed or in the closet was the scariest thing they could imagine. For me, I didn't need to imagine a terrifying monster. Instead, I knew without a doubt he lived right down the hall.
Calese YoungPublished 3 years ago in VivaFlashbacks
Okay, so just like many girls have been through stuff so have I. I’d like to say more than people imagine, us girls been through a lot. If you just sit there and tell yourself I wonder if she’s been through certain stuff more likely she has. People who know me don’t know this,but I have been through some in thing that changed me. This is the first time I talk to it in public. Yes, I know I’m beautiful, smart, worthy, caring, and out of all I’m Me; but there’s some people that didn’t understand that they shouldn’t take advantage of us. Like I said in many of my stories before my mom worked a lot and for that reason she would leave us with her friends to take care of us. Until, one day she said we staying with one of her coworkers wife. They had a beautiful home and they were nice. I don’t know what they were to her, but they also took care of the owners kids with us. The lady would treat us like her own. Girls I know sometimes it’s hard to trust people and after I’ve been through this I know also. This ladies husband would call my sister and I to come and sit on his lap while watching T.V.,but little by little as day goes by he would intentionally touch us in the wrong places. He would stick his tongue in my sisters ear and mine and bite it to. He would rub us all over and at the time I don’t think I knew what was going on. I’ve been sexually harassed and even though I didn’t get it worse as many of you guys I still was tormented for life. My trust in older people and my love for Mexicans went away. That guy was Mexican which was why I couldn’t stand my people at all. People who haven’t been through this will say stuff like; Why would that have anything to change you about?”,or stuff like can’t you just forget about it?”. In reality, No we can’t because once a woman been through certain stuff they start building their wall. Some women who are hard to get or hard to open are those victims. I know I don’t like talking about my problems because I never told my mom what happens until the other day recently we talked about it. It’s been about 10 years I want to say. Reason for my relationships with guys have not been the best. I always think to myself am I good enough for him, am I worthy, is he going to judge me, or stuff like will he love me still. I’m here to tell women don’t be scared to open up please we need more strong women out there to help one another. Women should be proud of who they are because we are all beautiful and strong. Girls who been through stuff and you have a boyfriend don’t be scared to open up and be you. I promise you they’ll accept you and appreciate you more. I learned the hard way but that’ll be in a different story. Also ladies listen make sure you speak to people you trust with these things. Honor and make sure you love yourselves FIRST. That’s my story and I know many girls been through stuff like that. I promise your future will get better it’s time to get up babygirl and rise to your future.
Melissa MezaPublished 3 years ago in VivaWales Firebreak Lockdown
So, by now, most of you have probably heard about what happened in a Tesco Supermarket in Wales, it was all over social media. If not, let me explain.
Clare BrienPublished 3 years ago in VivaAmanda
She was always there for me. This little voice that penetrated every depth in my soul as if she knew exactly what I wanted to do next.
Sana AlibuxPublished 3 years ago in VivaDreams Vs Reality
For me being a skinny model was never in the cards. I came from a big family that has always been heavy or "big boned" as some would say. My father was 6'1 450lbs and my mother was 5'2 and just a bit thick. As luck would have it I inherited my fathers genes. I grew big and fast. In one year when I was only 10 I went from 5'4 to 5'10. That doesn't seem like a lot but trust me at 10 it is. The rest of my years growing would be an uphill battle. Not only was I tall but I was thick. I didn't have a butt, however, I had what I later learned was referred to as baby bearing hips. Wide ones. By the time I was in high school I was 6'1 and around 200-215lbs. I was active in sports and played basketball and did weight lifting. You would think that a girl with my height and my athletic build would be pretty fit but when I did the whole BMI thing I found that by being just 1lb over my weight limit for my height I was considered morbidly obese. Those words cut through me like a hot knife through butter. Me? The girl who was always active and always playing sports, morbidly obese!? Wow!
Nicole DunhamPublished 3 years ago in VivaPhoenix
The tattoo titled “Phoenix” was inspired by an autobiographical piece called “Stand In Your Body” which conveys empowerment, vulnerability, and a graceful strength that only women can have to directly contrast the two archetypes of the "delicate flower" and the "sex symbol". The chakra watercolors represent "Stand In Your Body". Highly saturated colors create a backdrop for white hibiscus flowers which represent the beauty in rebirth and the scent used to nurture femininity and healing from sexual assault.
Jessica ShepardPublished 3 years ago in VivaWhy Fire?
In my tiniest tattoo lies the one with the most powerful meaning for me. It’s also the body art that is most ridiculed or questioned. It isn't the most expertly done one either. Fuego (Fire in Spanish) tattooed in my cursive handwriting. I never thought I’d get a word tattooed on my body. As a writer, for some reason I never wanted to mark my skin with words. I wanted to decorate it with art.
Chris StrattonPublished 3 years ago in Viva