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Setting Boundaries is not Injurious to Kindness

Setting boundaries is an art, a perquisite to be a responsible human being.

By Thinking TankPublished about a year ago 3 min read
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Once upon a time, in a world much like our own, there lived a young woman named Sarah. She was known throughout her community for her kind heart and her willingness to help others in need. From a young age, Sarah had been taught that kindness was the most important virtue a person could possess, and she had taken this lesson to heart.

As Sarah grew older, she began to realize that her kind heart was not always an advantage. People took advantage of her kindness, constantly asking her for help, even with the smallest of tasks. Sarah found herself constantly running errands for others, sacrificing her own time and energy to help those around her.

At first, Sarah didn't mind helping others. It made her feel good to be able to make a positive impact in someone else's life. But soon she realized that she was spreading herself too thin. She struggled to set boundaries and found it difficult to say no when someone asked for her help, even when she knew that she didn't have the time or energy to give. She would often find herself overwhelmed and exhausted, trying to keep up with the demands of others.

Despite her kindness, Sarah found that people often underestimated her. They saw her as someone who was too gentle, too fragile, and too emotional to handle the challenges of life. They didn't see her strength or her resilience, and this made her feel small and powerless.

Sarah began to feel resentful. As she gave more and more of herself to others, she began to realize that her kindness was not being reciprocated. People would take what they needed from her, but they wouldn't offer anything in return. Sarah felt like she was being used, and this made her angry and bitter.

But despite all of these disadvantages, Sarah couldn't bring herself to change. Her kind heart was a part of who she was, and she couldn't imagine living any other way. However, she knew that she needed to find a balance. She needed to learn how to set boundaries, how to say no, and how to take care of herself.

At first, setting boundaries and saying no was difficult for Sarah. She was so used to putting others' needs before her own that it felt selfish to say no. But she quickly realized that it was important for her own well-being. By saying no, Sarah was able to prioritize her own needs and take care of herself.

With time and practice, Sarah learned how to use her kindness as a strength rather than a weakness. She found that by taking care of herself, she was better able to help others in meaningful ways. She learned that saying no didn't make her a bad person or a less kind person. It just meant that she was taking care of herself, and that was important.

Sarah's journey taught her a valuable lesson. While a kind heart can be a wonderful asset, it can also be a double-edged sword. It is important to find a balance, to learn how to set boundaries, and to take care of ourselves so that we can continue to give to others in a meaningful way. Being kind doesn't mean sacrificing our own needs and well-being. It means finding a way to give to others while also taking care of ourselves.

In the end, Sarah continued to be known for her kindness, but now she was also known for her strength and resilience. She was able to help others in meaningful ways while also taking care of herself. And that, in itself, was a powerful gift to those around her.

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