Learning about you.

Learn to trust people's energy and not their words. (Brother Ben X)

Learning to trust other individual's energy is not easy, but it can be done. I turned fifty in August, and I honestly have to say that my mental state of mind is entirely different now. I am honored to see fifty years of age and reflect on all my accomplishments. I am incredibly proud of myself for setting my goals and boundaries accordingly for me, not for others.

I know firsthand how hard life can be, but even though I know how hard it can be, and most times it is complicated, that doesn't mean I will give up on myself. I move more with a purpose that is comfortable for me, not for others to move in. I have learned over the years to trust people's energy because other's words don't mean much when their actions do not align with what they actually mean. I am a cheerful and, most times, outspoken person, so for me to hear someone say something to me and then realize that their actions are not the same as what they actually mean, I will fall back and look more at the person that is speaking to me than the situation at hand.

You must learn more about yourself before trying to learn about someone else. Being comfortable with who you are is more important than wasting your time trying to figure out other things in your life that are outside of your control. You have to be able to see the good within your inner circle before you start reaching out to fix other's issues. I am not saying always keep to yourself, but I am saying that it is better to be alone than to have loads of people in your space where you can not understand the energies of others around you.

Most people are only in your space to do one thing: see how much of your positive energy they can use for themselves. Half of the time, these individuals do not even realize that they are the ones who are taking your positive energy and using it for bad in the first place. These people are not always bad. They are simply misguided and know that they need clarity on what is going on with them, but instead of looking inward at themselves, they would instead go outside of themselves to see who else they can destroy. These individuals do not want to work hard to ensure they do things correctly. They complain about the bad and not seeing all that is good in their lives.

Your words mean nothing to me when I can clearly see that you are the one who is bitter and broken still. I do not mind helping others when I see that the other person seeking the help wants it, but if you step to me with the drama, guess what I will do? I will disconnect myself from you and your toxic energy.

If you do not like the disconnect, then instead of assuming what you think you know is going on, how about coming to me and sitting down and having a conversation first? Then, you can better understand me, how I move, and why I move the way I do. Most people make this part of the process so complicated, and there is no need to be difficult when all you have to do in the first place is communicate effectively.

I am wise enough to know that for me to continue to grow and develop, I have to first learn about myself, and then I can seek out others who are doing the same or better than me so that I can learn more from them, not sit around to see how much more I can take from them knowing that I did not put in the hard work to get to that next level like they did. Doing this action to someone is not only wrong but disrespectful all at the same time, and it is not fair for any of the parties involved.