A challenging time in one or more aspects of one's life is an inevitable and unavoidable component of the experience of being alive. It is a good idea to have some tools for mindfulness put aside for when other sorts of storms occur, such as a challenging time with your health, money, profession, house, or relationships. This is analogous to having an umbrella and rain boots ready for when it ultimately rains.
- Here are eight different tools that may assist you in doing just that.
1. Reflect on whether or not you are losing an old layer in order to make room for something new to emerge.
The majority of people are not big lovers of snakes, but the process by which a snake sheds its skin on a regular basis might serve as a reminder that we all go through periods in our lives in which something, someone, or someplace—or even a way of being with ourselves—passes away. In spite of the fact that trying times usually include suffering, discomfort, and exposure, they also throw up the door to mending and change.
What are some of the ways in which a new layer of you or a new layer of promise and opportunity with reference to any aspect of your life is beginning to show itself? Put your attention on the new healthy routines, people, opportunities, experiences, attitudes, thinking patterns, or resources that are entering your life as you make your way through this challenging period.
Hard times have an uncomfortable, in-between-worlds aspect to them, similar to the way a snake sheds its skin; nevertheless, we can often already see traces of something great being born into our life, even if it is very fresh and delicate. This is similar to how the snake sheds its skin.
2. Embrace the joys of the everyday and make them an even more significant part of your routine.
Due to the fact that trying times often need your complete presence, they have the potential to make you feel more alive and conscious. Use the opportunity to be more present in the moment to savour the little things in life, whether it's because you're being a careful carer for someone else, for instance, or because you have to keep focused on looking to your own mental, emotional, or physical health more than normal. Savouring the little things in life is a gift.
Remind yourself that these simple pleasures are something you can dependably look forward to each day, such as sipping your favourite tea, smelling your favourite lotion as you rub it into your hands, watching the sunrise in the morning or your favourite time of day from your back porch, listening to a healing story written by your favourite novelist before bed, and feeling your favourite blanket wrap around you as you doze off at night.
These simple pleasures assist restore equilibrium to your energy levels and serve as a gentle reminder that not everything in your life has to be challenging right now.
3. Make a course correction, demonstrate adaptability, and adopt a new strategy
This is something that, in most cases, we are forced to do, and we do it with reluctance. It's true that you might not want to take a different approach to your finances, such as having to cancel an exciting vacation, saying no to something your child wants that all of their friends have, or starting to watch your bank account every day to make sure you can pay all of the bills this month. However, it's only when we take a different approach to things that we get different results and give things a chance to get better.
If you and your mother used to spend every Saturday afternoon in the park together before she died away, you will need to rethink how you spend your Saturday afternoons now that your mother is gone. On some days, it may provide a sense of nourishment to just miss your mother while sitting on a park seat. On other days, you may get the sense that you need to make a change and be flexible, such as listening to a humorous podcast while walking through the park, reading a wonderful memoir written by someone who is also grieving while snuggling your pet in the grass, or inviting a good friend to share coffee and a heart-to-heart conversation with you on the bench that you used to share with your mother. These are all examples of things that can help you pivot when you get the sense that you need to.
When we are faced with adversity, it opens our eyes to the fact that a different perspective is often more therapeutic.
4. Dedicate a portion of your time, energy, and thoughts to an aspect of your life that is not challenging at the moment.
The challenging aspects of our lives have the potential to occupy a significant amount of mental and emotional space in each of us. Even though this is perfectly natural and even helpful in some ways, since thinking about the things that aren't going well in your life may help you work through your feelings and even drive you to make changes, it's important to remember that we all need a vacation from the difficult things from time to time.
Whether it's an aspect of your life over which you have some influence or circumstances over which you don't have much control at all, keep in mind that the healing process may be eased along but should never be hurried. This is true whether or not the circumstances are under your control.
Stamina is one of the things that helps us get through challenging circumstances, and strengthening our connections to joy, purpose, and hope helps us do so. You should rejoice in some aspect of your life that is positive, satisfying, and makes you feel hopeful. Spend some time doing something that brings you joy, being with someone who makes you happy, or reflecting on how far you have come in some aspect of your life. Because of this, you will have greater emotional endurance to get through the challenging aspects of the situation.
5. Seek out particular support resources that are geared to difficult times so that you are not going through this alone yourself.
It's easy to feel alone when you're going through a tough moment, which may make the challenges you're experiencing seem even more insurmountable. It is essential that you feel supported by other people, and this may come in the form of frequent consultations with a counsellor, the reading of a book written by an authority in a field in which you are experiencing difficulties in your life, or participation in an online support group comprised of others who are in a similar situation.
When we are provided with practical help, it frequently makes a challenging situation seem simpler to emotionally handle. This means that feelings of being frozen or overwhelmed are replaced with feelings of being encouraged, motivated, and proactive.
Try my oracle deck Grief, Grace, and Healing for specialised help if you're going through a difficult time after suffering a loss of any type, such as an accident, going through a divorce, experiencing a shift in a treasured job or established employment, or having someone you care about die away. These are just few examples.
6. Recall a challenging situation from your history that you were able to get through; what aspects of your strategy were successful, and which ones were less so?
The advantage of becoming older and experiencing more challenging times is that it enables one to understand what strategies are helpful for them during challenging times, as well as what behaviours that lead to self-sabotage they should avoid.
Patterns of self-sabotage are prevalent for everyone, and we can frequently recognise signals that we're drifting back into old coping techniques that don't help—only make things worse. When something like this occurs, it is important to be kind to yourself and to turn to a coping strategy that has historically shown to be beneficial. These strategies may include slowing down, practising self-love, reaching out for comfort, or getting lost in a healthy escape like a creative pastime. When something like this occurs, it is important to be kind to yourself.
Thinking about challenging situations that you have successfully navigated in the past may make you feel more at ease about the difficulties that you are now facing, can help you put it into a bigger perspective, and can reawaken your sense of interest regarding how this problem will develop and be resolved over time.
7. Reconnect with your religious beliefs.
This may refer to your faith in yourself, faith in another person who is assisting you through this challenging moment, trust in the inherent kindness and better character of other people, or confidence in a higher force. It may be helpful to just connect with your religion and remind yourself that grace, mercy, and miracles will meet you along the path while you are going through a difficult moment.
It will not be entirely up to you to figure out everything and make things happen; some healing will be bestowed to you as if by some mystical force. The midst of adversity may be an excellent opportunity to rediscover, investigate, and develop one's spiritual practise.
8. In addition to considering the worst-case situation, you should also consider the most probable scenario.
One of the most difficult components of a challenging moment is the presence of uncertainty. You can find yourself wondering, "When is all of this going to be over?" After all is said and done, what will life be like?
It's natural to imagine the worst-case scenario, especially when doing so might help us get ready for something that will shatter our hearts. It's okay to do this. Despite the fact that the absolute worst-case scenario doesn't happen very often. Sometimes the best-case scenario comes true, but more often than not, the most probable scenario—or anything in the centre that falls somewhere between best and worst—is what really occurs.
You may better prepare for the future by looking at potential outcomes, which can assist not just with your mental state but also with shaping the actions you do. Be careful to consider every avenue of opportunity, and be flexible in the event that events transpire in a manner that exceeds your wildest dreams or most optimistic projections.
The main point to be learned
It is certain that we will go through challenging periods in our life; thus, being prepared for them is of great assistance. That way, you'll have the peace of mind that comes with understanding how to provide for yourself, which will make it easier to weather difficult times and even help you find the hidden gifts that are contained within them.
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