The most thorough marriage comprehension, marry 10 years of experience to tell you

I recently had a conversation with a friend who has been married for 10 years and was sharing her thoughts on her marriage. She said, "My marriage is not as happy as it seems. Her marriage feeling surprised me, because in our impression, she just graduated is married the boyfriend and got the marriage certificate as soon as she graduated, we envy, the friends for many years after graduation, reunion every time two people also attend the workshop on time, from two behavior can see, their marriage is very happy, they also have a pair of lovely children. Why is such a marriage unhappy? And I learned a lot from her thoughts on marriage.

1. Don't strive for perfection

Our decade was as uneventful and predictable as our personalities. We imagined the life we wanted, achieving one small goal after another, and creating our own homes. Miyazaki hayao said, "Love is not finding a perfect person, but learning to appreciate the imperfect person with perfect eyes." We're not perfect people, and we're not looking for a perfect marriage. Only in plain days, enjoy each other's unique light.

2. Communicate

No cold war is a kind of mutual respect and equality. Please do not use the tone of command to command others, do not impose your opinions on others, so that it is also easy to communicate with others do not for some trivial things, and do a magnifying glass, a small thing magnified thousands of times tens of thousands of times, that way, there is no way to communicate.

Sometimes you need to understand, in fact, it is a small thing, really do not need to fuss over. Especially after a fight between a couple, don't take a cold war approach. If you want to be productive, communication can make your life a little better.

3. "Win-win Cooperation"

Marriage is essentially a union of two economies, and can actually bring many economic benefits, especially when it's hard for people to change the status quo quickly. For example, if a house sells for $2,000, you have $1,000, he has $1,500, and no one can afford to buy it alone. But if you two get married, you have $2,500, you can buy a house, and you have $500 left over to do whatever you want.

On the surface, the sum of your assets doesn't change, but all of a sudden you own a house, and so does he. Both of you live in peace. Choosing a good location will bring you both the satisfaction and practical benefits that neither of you could immediately achieve when you were single.

4. Lovers go to family

Every kind of marriage starts from ignorant love, from strange to familiar, and then trust, and finally into marriage into relatives. Many hope to return to no mask, then hope back to the original, anew know how good, that has always been the passion, but we are human beings, not gods, everyone has flaws, met is the fate of life,...... have been doomed, why not experience in it slowly grow up, marriage life is daily necessities sauce vinegar tea.

My friend's sentiment on marriage makes me feel how she has become mature and strong step by step in the past ten years. Marriage is the practice of two people and also the growth of one person. Her sentiment on marriage also makes me no longer afraid of marriage, as long as I live a good life seriously, why fear marriage?