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The Inner Child

Embracing Our Past for a Brighter Future

By Myke & AmyPublished 12 months ago 3 min read
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The Inner Child

Have you ever come across the concept of an "inner child"? It's a fascinating and, at times, unsettling idea that psychology invites us to explore. Despite our efforts to grow up and become adults, we carry within us the echoes of our younger selves. There's a version of every person we've been hidden within us – the confused teenager, the sad child, the hungry infant.

These inner children never fully vanish; they become part of our complex nature. It's akin to an oak tree's rings, which bear the marks of its growth over time. However, some of these inner children may be hurting. They carry wounds they don't know how to heal, losses they struggle to understand, and feelings of loneliness, distress, or shame.

Sadly, many of our inner children never received proper care during challenging times. Their unique difficulties often went unnoticed or were dismissed. Paradoxically, it's not that their cries for help are too loud; it's that they are not heard enough. They have been locked away, their voices silenced and forgotten. But still, they persist, like restless ghosts who haunt us, silently impacting our lives.

The path forward requires a rather unfamiliar concept: reparenting. We must first identify our inner child and acknowledge their distinct struggles. Then, we can provide them with the soothing balm they were denied. Ideally, this work should have been done by our parents during our formative years. But in reality, some of it was left unfinished, requiring us – as adults – to step into the role of parents for our inner children.

We need to tap into our adult capacities for kindness, reassurance, empathy, generosity, and warmth. Directed towards the three, five, or fifteen-year-old versions of ourselves that still exist within our minds, these qualities can offer the healing support they lacked when they needed it the most. By helping our inner children, we are ultimately helping ourselves, for we stand on their shoulders and can only be as stable as they are.

As we imagine what a caring and compassionate person would have said to us during difficult times, we might find ourselves shedding compassionate tears for our former selves. We begin to acknowledge the trapped sadness that finally has an opportunity to be seen, worked through, and released. A profound sense of relief follows, and we might make it a habit, perhaps late at night, to revisit our inner child, providing them with extra comfort and tenderness. This not only benefits them but also nourishes our collective well-being, allowing us to sleep more easily.

We often know how to treat the real children around us with kindness, patience, and encouragement. True liberation awaits when we extend the same tolerance and warmth to the children inside us. By embracing and nurturing our inner child, we embark on a journey of self-compassion and personal growth, opening doors to a brighter future filled with understanding, acceptance, and love.

Reconnecting with our inner child and treating them with as much tenderness, patience, and warmth as we would offer a real child is a powerful act of self-care. It allows us to heal old wounds, release emotional burdens, and cultivate a greater sense of wholeness within ourselves.

When we acknowledge the pain and neglected needs of our inner child, we can address them with love and understanding. Through reparenting, we become the caregivers we needed but didn't have during those crucial moments of our development. This process is not about dwelling in the past or assigning blame; it's about reclaiming our power and rewriting our narrative.

As we provide comfort and support to our inner child, we witness a transformation within ourselves. We may feel lighter, more at peace, and better equipped to navigate life's challenges. By honoring and cherishing our younger selves, we create a foundation of self-compassion that extends to every aspect of our lives.

Revisiting our inner child regularly becomes an opportunity for continued growth and self-discovery. Late at night, when the world is quiet, we can take a few moments to connect with that vulnerable part of ourselves. We offer reassurance, understanding, and a safe space for our inner child to express their feelings. This ongoing practice fosters a deeper connection with ourselves and reinforces our capacity for self-love.

Now is the time to liberate ourselves from the weight of the past. By embracing our inner child and treating them with the same tenderness we show others, we embark on a transformative journey of self-acceptance and personal liberation. It's a journey that leads to greater emotional well-being, resilience, and a renewed sense of joy in our lives.

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