dating
All about dating. First dates, three years into a relationship, Tinder, and more.
I'm So Sick of Pickles
Okay, so now that I’ve gotten my #pussypower rant out of the way (for now), let’s have ourselves a laugh. So, these said “men,” I have met… let me tell you a little bit about them. These guys still buy paper plates to avoid doing dishes. They leave their black, coarse pubes or beard or whatever-the-fuck hair in the sink and on the counter (and then complain when our hair SHEDS-as if that’s in our control). These “men” have empty refrigerators with the exception of a few beers and a jar of pickles. (I swear-pickles are a huge common denominator here… lol… get it? Pickles?) No, but actually. Dudes love pickles. These men read a couple of Malcolm Gladwell books and think they have mastered life. They’ve got it all down. Their Bumble profiles boast about how they “love to travel!” But shortly after getting to know them, you learn that their last trip out of the country was in 2016 on a college study abroad trip. These said “men” are on the same playing field as my fifteen-year-old brother. Actually, that’s insulting. My little brothers, while they are immature as shit, THEY are men. Okay… not totally… but in the sense that they were taught respect. My parents didn’t abide by or enforce heavy gender norms (which was pretty rare in the 90s, so that was rad of them), so we shared Barbies AND Hot Wheels. I loved doing my brothers makeup (and they are SAINTS for letting me) but I also loved watching Monster Trucks with them. Alec, the older of the two, fucking loved playing with Polly Pockets. And in return... he let me come with him to Boy Scouts because he knew I despised hanging out with the girls. Uh… also… girl scouts literally fucking sell cookies. And I just googled where that money even goes to? I’m still unsure. Okay-anyway. Despite my brother being a total shithead, that sensitive little boy will always be there. And the ladies LOVE him for that! THE POINT: it isn’t a nicely trimmed beard and some bulging muscles that make you a man. It all boils down to just being a decent fucking human being.
By Samantha Emma8 years ago in Humans
I'm Not Going to Laugh at Your Stupid Jokes Anymore
I think I’m going to use my dating life as writing material. Each date is a new entry. A new topic. A new story. Every story is more raw and gritty, honest, humiliating, and comical than the next. (I’m going to talk about other things… but the point is—if Stanley Kubrick rose from his grave and decided he wanted to begin directing tragic love stories, my life could be his sole source of inspiration. But because of the seven different plot twists that follow each dating encounter, we might need M. Night Shyamalan to assist as well.
By Samantha Emma8 years ago in Humans
I Tried to Go on 7 Dates in a Weekend
Background: Oh gosh. Here we go. So, I've been single for a while, by my standards; I am only 23. I had moved to the city (no, not that one, not that one either) about eight months prior, and I had gone on a few dates but none of them really stuck. Every date I've been on since I've moved here was found on a dating app—I’m the youngest person in my office by 15 years and I only had two or three friends when I moved into my apartment. I've dated (dated (verb) 1. been an official "thing") less than five people in my life and I've slept with at most ten people; I'm decently introverted.
By Jess Schaper8 years ago in Humans
At First Sight (Pt. 2)
Rising Suspicions Now it was the waiting game. Who would message who first? Could she resist picking up her phone, even just to send a quick hey? It wasn’t a romantic notion to think that the guy should message first. After all there was that stupid rule of three days, right? Before she had even made it the two blocks back to her apartment, her phone buzzed in her pocket. It was definitely a pleasant surprise at the time. She wasn’t used to any sort of attention, let alone male attention.
By Christina Oswald8 years ago in Humans
The Craze
All male or all female boarding schools shape your mind in a certain way. The way you act may be different from your counterparts in mixed schools, all through the years of your boarding school life, and a little bit after. Going to an all-girls school made me experience quite a lot, honestly, I wouldn’t change a thing if I had to turn back the hands of time, because I met my best friend in high school. Yeah, this occurred in high school. As an onlooker the things I saw were just mad. Depriving girls of seeing boys does some weird s*** to the brain. When they do see boys it’s a RAMPAGE, oh... my... goodness, it was so funny watching things unfold, during visiting days.
By Chimdi Chime8 years ago in Humans
Getting Your Place and Your Look Ready for a Date: A Guy’s Guide
Whether you’re just getting to know someone exciting or are deeply in love with someone you’ve been with for a long time, dates are really important. Setting aside time to get to know each other and focus on the romance is key to any good relationship from the start, and it’s something that remains important, experts say.
By Marshall Stevenson8 years ago in Humans
5 Things You Should Know About Dating Older Women
A lot of the perceptions younger guys have about dating older women are based on stereotypes or hearsay. A strong cultural image will be the sexually liberated middle-aged woman, Mrs. Robinson, brilliantly portrayed by Anne Bancroft, seducing her friends' son, a gauche ex-student played by Dustin Hoffman, in the 1967 movie The Graduate. It wouldn't be uncommon for mates to make jibes about cougars, mature women whose sexual appetites are certainly not undiminished by age; if anything, these femme fatales could give females half their age lessons in seduction. If you're a young man who has occasionally surfed into a cougar website, how accurate is a site like this in portraying age-gap relationships? If you want to make the most of dating older women, it's important to appreciate where the stereotypes end, and the facts begin. Here are five things you really need to know about:
By Jonathan Draper8 years ago in Humans
At First Sight (Pt. 1)
First Date Looking back, she should have known. She should have known that that look wasn’t love. She should have known that look wasn’t ecstasy. She should have known that look was desire on the verge of obsession. First loves are blinding. The entire world could be burning and she would never have known. She knew though, knew after it was too late.
By Christina Oswald8 years ago in Humans
Dating in the Desi World
Growing up, let’s just say I was discouraged from dating girls in high school. I think the fear my mother had was that I would end up with a white lady. I was socially awkward, insecure, shy, nerdy, and overweight, meaning there would be no way that I would pursue anything romantic. If anyone asked why don’t I go out with her, I have the convenient excuse: “It’s against my religion.”
By Desi And Confused8 years ago in Humans
Toxic Relationship
Hey, I'm going to try to make my story as detailed and short as possible. Please, feel free to share your opinion. My name is Jahnae and I'm from NYC. I've been with this guy for 3 years now & we're going to refer to him as MOT (MOT= MISTAKES OVER TIME). 2016 me and MOT met in high school. I'm a VERY antisocial person. However, I always figured if he tried talking to me, I would give him a convo. One day I was on my Facebook and I noticed a funny picture of him went viral, so I wrote him first like hey, we go to school together and etc. Days and weeks went by and I finally hung out with him. The first time we hung out, it was late and we didn't really get into much. Mot was so different from any other boy I've been with and that made me so sprung off him. Mot began to move very sneakily over time, me? I wasn't the type of girl to just sit back and play the guessing games so I did my research and found out mot was in a relationship with someone.
By jahnae james8 years ago in Humans
How to Spot a Toxic Lover
Thanks, Psych2go, for this idea. Disclaimer: These are all based on my personal experiences and what I have learned while being in an abusive relationship. Not all of these behaviors may lead to an abusive relationship, but for me, they were red flags that I had ignored.
By Niki’s Craft8 years ago in Humans
