Loneliness - The Monstrous Normality That Comes With Love, Leaves With Love

Maybe you know what it means to feel deserted, devitalized, empty inside, squeezed by what was most beautiful and optimistic in you. Maybe you know what it means to wake up one morning thinking that today is another day when you are still alive (peak!) Even if you have nothing to live for.

There is no greater paradox in this world than the fact that the man who is born and dies alone is a social being throughout his life. There is no stronger drug for a man who lives through and with other people than love. Certainly, of all the types of addiction, love addiction is the worst, the cruelest, the most relentless.

Perhaps of all the types of loneliness, the one felt after losing a loved one or leaving is the most stressful. Admittedly or not, each of us has experienced at some point on our skin what loneliness is, that petty feeling that suffocates and leaves you breathless, weak.

Maybe you know what it means to feel deserted, devitalized, empty inside, squeezed by what was most beautiful and optimistic in you. Maybe you know what it means to wake up one morning thinking that today is another day when you are alive (the top!) Even if you have nothing to live for.

Maybe you know what it's like to get lost in a huge bed, big, too big, still impregnated with the memory and longing of your last love. Maybe you know what it means to dilute the feeling of suffocation with a strong coffee while you smile silently at the thought that another day of work awaits you in which you will consume yourself, you will sink, you will forget how lonely you are. 

Maybe you know what it means to get home in the evening and turn on the TV … turn it on as loud as possible … just to stop your thoughts screaming at you, one at a time or all at once, reminding you that you're not like everyone else.

Maybe you know what it means to wish that you didn't have a day and a night just for the sake of not crossing it alone. You may know that the labor law that makes you forget doesn't always work.

Maybe you know what it means to feel alone while you're not alone, while sadly looking at the stranger (your life partner) on the right side of the bed and the chest that rises and falls regularly.

In two or one, of all the types of loneliness, the loneliness that is born after the departure of love or during a false relationship is felt most acutely in the opinion of psychologists. Loneliness can become a stigma, a natural part of a person's way of being, and must be shaken from the mind, from the soul. 

Loneliness is often confused with the need for affection, and in the absence of real, genuine affection, people are tempted to feel alone. It is said that the great loneliness after great love is overwhelming. Reality shows us that it is so.

The perfect method of self-punishment - "I deserve the age of loneliness …"

Love takes us out of loneliness, love sinks us. Of course, loneliness seems to be the perfect destination when for one reason or another you have been deprived of love or you have lost a loved one.

After the end of a relationship, sometimes the state of loneliness is self-induced. Women especially find it harder to accept the end of a relationship, clinging to memories, resentments, the past.

Women, psychologically speaking, are more attached to the idea of ​​a couple, of unity, of the safety of "two". Women, more than men, after a relationship in which they have invested a lot from an emotional point of view, are tempted to blame themselves, to look for their mistakes, to recap endlessly the story, to look for culprits, to dig up and to cry. death by a love that refuses to set.

Without even giving themselves a chance to smile … Some people impose their loneliness as a lifestyle just because they feel they have been wrong in the previous relationship and are afraid of the disappointment and suffering that could start a new relationship.

And what's sadder … emotionally speaking, sometimes we don't even realize what's going on inside us. We are the perfect actors wearing so many masks that we tend to forget what our true face is.

The banal and miraculous cure for loneliness: Fall in love with yourself

"God wants me to be alone …", "I will never be able to get over this", "I just can't stop loving him". How many times have you not repeated these thoughts? Those who think they are alone in their loneliness are mistaken. One-third of the world's citizens admit to suffering from chronic loneliness. 

And according to other statistics and psychological studies, a relationship or marriage does not guarantee the end of loneliness. Psychologist Richard Booth believes that single people are their biggest enemies because they tend to withdraw from social contacts when their unrealistic expectations do not meet the standards they set.

Silence and loneliness are beneficial and can be extremely constructive leading to balance and self-recovery. We need minutes, days, hours to be alone with us even when we are involved in the most intense and beautiful love relationships.

Rainy days when you have nothing to do and are alone with you should be not a pain, but a wonderful opportunity to discuss and revise yourself. "Who else are you, how are you, what have you done in the meantime"… If you rely on the fact that there will always be someone who will help you get rid of loneliness, then you will always be alone.

Sometimes it's not bad to be alone. Sometimes it can be good to have a space where you can receive someone. Loneliness is, after all, the manifestation of one's insecurities.

And yet … what is the cure for loneliness after a great love? The cure is old and simple since the world and is called narcissistic "Fall in love with yourself." Start with the beginning: try, fight with yourself, give yourself time, new chances. Forget. If you can't forget, try to forget. Fake it till you make it…