Important Tips On How To Save Your Marriage From Divorce

Save your marriage... or not? Divorced or together? If you've come here, you'll probably have the same problem and wonder how to save your marriage from divorce.

And as you prepare for a divorce, I can imagine you could use my help. You are very bored with this. But today I will help you to solve this problem. And it's easier than you think.

Still not sure what you want to do? So read this article first to determine if you should break it or not.

Tip 1: Identify the problem

If you are in a relationship, it may be difficult for you to talk too much about your problems.

If you say something you don't like, your husband will get angry. And if he did the same, how would you react? Do you listen to his criticism or dismiss him?

Take seriously what's going on between you. If a divorce is being prepared, it means that there are problems that cannot be ignored. If it's so bad that you can't ignore it anymore, it's time to take a hard look at how your relationship is working.

The positives are not what matters right now. These are the exact issues going on between you. Maybe you want different things right now. And I want you to know that's totally fine.

You are not the same individual. You are both individuals with your own desires and preferences. And your taste doesn't always match. It shouldn't cause relationship problems. People think you should have 100% of everything in common. That is, if you want a successful relationship. But the reality is that it's not necessary. It's entirely possible to enter a relationship without having to agree on everything.

There are enough relationships that the differences between the partners are huge. For example, when one partner is much larger than the other. If one partner has more money than the other partner.

The point is you find a way to deal with those differences. Just like the problems that can be caused by these differences.

But for that, it's important that you don't consider it "wrong" that these problems exist. There is no right or wrong: only results. And that's why it's important to see what both of you want.

Only then can you answer a much more important question. Will the relationship work as it is now?

If you are facing a divorce, it certainly means that here and there some reproach is on the table. But I want to ask you to stop this immediately.

Yes, your relationship is not good. Problem. And yes, your partner participates. But as long as you continue to blame yourself, these problems will only increase. Ideally, you work together. Worst case scenario, you keep blaming yourself until the divorce papers are signed. So please don't make this mistake.

Focus on finding solutions and finding common ground. So that you can live happily ever after, if you decide to be together.

Tip 2: Give him what he needs

I will tell you some secrets that men will never tell you. They are too proud of it. Their ego is too big. And if they tell you, they will do it in disguised language. The truth is too divisive. Are you ready for this? Here it is: a huge ego for men.

Most women are well aware of this. They know that when a man reads a map, he is not told where he is going. Like when she asked her husband "does she have a big butt in that dress".

But knowing something doesn't mean you do it. And things often go wrong there.

How often do you do any of the following?

Comment when your husband is doing something that benefits both of you. For example, a chore in the house, or a household chore that you have entrusted to him.

Criticise him for working overtime, ignoring the fact that he's doing it to make you money. He mocked him in front of his friends. Be aware that its "ridiculous" limit is very low. A harmless joke at his expense, combined with a smile, often goes too far.

Men are too sensitive when it comes to this ego. They will never tell you. But if you do some of these things, he'll never thank you for it.

He will grow frustrated about it. And if that frustration builds up, you can tell it's having a negative impact on your relationship.

This is one of those secrets that men will never tell you, because it's so easy for them to take it as "baby talk". But for men, it seems realistic. They want to be taken seriously. If you don't, they'll feel fumbled.

That's because we want to feel physically strong. Someone who laughs at us despite our physical strength is clearly not afraid of us.

And that in our heads equates to disrespect... and the feeling that we have to prove ourselves. I know how ridiculous that is. Trust me, I wish it were different.

But that's what men don't want you to know. They will never honestly tell you how they work. And it's not just bad men and gamers or narcissists who have to put up with it. Literally every man struggles with this.

Let me tell you another secret about men:

This also has to do with the previous point. Men have huge egos. And if you are close to a man, this ego is "activated".

He never wants to make a mistake in your presence. He wants to feel big and strong. And realise that he is in control.

But if we know you well, we know very well that a large part of ourselves is in your hands. That with the push of a button, you can literally take away our relationship and, therefore, part of our self-esteem.

It was a bit of a strain on his shoulders.

As a result, he frequently needs to take a break with the woman he's with. It's purely so he can get up and feel independent of you.

Men process their emotions differently than women. Men are often thought to consciously act aloof or emotionless. The flip side is the truth.

Most men have feelings, but they are well hidden under a weak sense of social norms. From elementary school, we were taught that we must be strong and not cry. We are constantly striving to be the strongest spirit in space.

Women are allowed to process their feelings by talking about them. Women of course need it more. And if there is a man who needs it, then this desire naturally grows due to social pressure. Yes, that's a pity. Can you do something about this? No, unfortunately no. So give him some time to himself. Every man needs a few hours a day to relax

It might look like this:

• He spends his time working on a car in the garage.
• He is playing video games or watching a movie.
• He drinks an insatiable amount of alcohol with his friends.
• He is in a group.
• He goes bowling.
• He does other men's things.

The thing is, he needs time to recover from his job. When he comes home from a long day, he wants nothing.

Most men need a few hours a day when he can be alone.

So that he can organise his thoughts. Can handle his emotions. So then he could pretend they weren't there anymore. And he can be the strong person he thinks you dream of.