HOW TO SPEAK SO THAT PEOPLE WOULD WANT TO LISTEN

The voice of the human. We all play this instrument. I think it's the strongest sound in the entire universe. It's the only one with the ability to declare love or ignite a war. Nonetheless, a lot of people report that nobody pays attention to them when they speak. And why is that the case? How can we use our voice to influence the world effectively? What I'd like to propose is that we should break a few habits. Here, I have gathered seven deadly sins of speech for your enjoyment. While I do not claim this to be an entire list, these seven are, in my opinion, quite significant habits that we may all develop. Let's start with rumours. making disparaging remarks about an absentee. It's not a pleasant habit, and we are fully aware that the person who is gossiping will be talking about us five minutes from now.

Next, the judgement. We've all had conversations with people who behave in this way, and it's really difficult to listen to someone when you feel like you're being simultaneously assessed and found wanting.

And last, negativity. This can happen to you. It was difficult to listen to my mother while she was in her latter years because of her extreme negativity. When I told her one day that it was October 1st, she responded, "I know, isn't it awful?", When someone is that negative, it's difficult to listen. Complaining is yet another example of negativity. This, then, is British national art. This sport is national to us. We gripe about anything from politics to sports to the weather, but in reality, whining is just a form of mass distress. It's not making the world more cheerful and sunny. Apologies. Everybody has met this person. Perhaps we've all been this person. Some people are quick to assign blame. It's difficult to listen to someone who is always acting that way and they simply transfer the blame to everyone else and refuse to accept accountability for their deeds.

The sixth and penultimate of the seven is embroidery and exaggeration. It actually denigrates our language at times.

For instance, what do I name something that truly amazes me? Eventually, of course, this hyperbole turns into lying, and we don't want to listen to those who are deceiving us.

Lastly, there is dogmatism. the mixing together of opinions and facts. When those two become mixed up, you're just hearing the wind. Someone is always barging you with their thoughts and treating them as gospel. It's not easy to hear that. Thus, these are the seven deadly sins of speech. I believe these are things we should stay away from. However, is there a constructive way to look at this? Indeed, it does.

If we wish our speech to be effective and to influence the world, I'd like to propose that there are four extremely strong pillars or foundations that we can stand on. Luckily, these symbols represent a word. The term is "hail," and its definition is excellent as well. Not the kind of thing that hits you on the head after falling out of the sky. I am referring to this term, which means to greet or congratulate with great enthusiasm, as I believe our comments will be accepted if we maintain these four tenets. What then do they represent? Try to guess what it is. Of course, the H stands for honesty—being truthful in your statements and being frank and straightforward.

Authenticity, or just being who you are, is the A. The I stands for honesty, reliability, following through on commitments, and being a someone that others can rely on. And love is the L. Though I don't mean romantic love, I do mean well-wishing for two reasons.

First of all, I don't think we should aim for complete honesty. “You really look so terrible this morning, my goodness”. Maybe there's no need for that. Of course, honesty is wonderful when it is tempered with love. It's also quite difficult to assess someone while you're sincerely hoping for them to succeed. Even if you can accomplish those two tasks at the same time, I'm not convinced. So, praise.

Furthermore, you say it now, and it's similar to the old song in that it's both what you say and how you say it. What a powerful toolkit you have. The toolbox that very few people have ever opened, despite the tremendous nature of this instrument. To help you talk more powerfully, I'd want to take a little look inside and bring out a few things that you may play with or take with you. For example, register. However, there is a register in between, even though the falsetto register may not always be very helpful. For those of you who are voice coaches, I won't go into great detail on this. Still, you can find your voice. You can hear the difference if I spoke with my nose. If I descend this far into my throat, where the majority of us talk the majority of the time. However, you must descend to the chest in order to gain weight. Do you hear the distinction? It's true that we identify depth with power and authority, which is why we support politicians with quieter voices. It is the register. Next up is timbre. It's the tone of your voice. Once more, study demonstrates that humans favour voices that are warm, smooth, and rich—like hot chocolate. It's not the end of the world, though, if that's not you—you can still train. Get a voice coach now. Additionally, there are incredible things you can do to enhance the tone of your voice with exercises, posture, and breathing.

Next, prosody. I adore poetry. This is the sing-song, the meta-language we employ to communicate ideas. It's the fundamental one for conversational meaning. If a speaker has no prosody at all, it can be quite difficult to listen to them talk in unison. That's the origin of the word "monotonic," which means monotonous. Furthermore, recurrent prosody is now entering the picture, where each sentence finishes as a question even though it is essentially a statement rather than a question. Let's attempt to stop that habit of yours because if you keep saying that, it will actually limit your ability to communicate through prosody, which I think is unfortunate. Speed. I may speak extremely quickly when I'm excited or I can speak slowly and deliberately. And of course, our old friend silence comes to an end at the end of all of that. A brief period of silence during a conversation is quite acceptable, right? There's no need to stuff it full of ums and ahs. It has a lot of power. Pitch can be used alone or in conjunction with tempo to convey excitement, though this is not always the case. And loudness lastly. There are those who broadcast continuously. Aim to avoid doing that. That's known as "sodcasting" —obtrusively and thoughtlessly projecting your sound on those around you. Not polite. Naturally, the most significant situation in which all of this applies is when you have an extremely important task to complete. It could involve presenting a speech to an audience while standing on a platform. A marriage proposal, a raise request, or a wedding speech are a few examples. You owe it to yourself to examine this toolbox and the engine it will be working on, if it is truly vital. After all, no engine functions properly unless it is warmed up. Get your voice warm.

walk through these six vocal warm-up exercises before giving any kind of speaking. Follow these steps whenever you have an important conversation. Arms up, take a deep breath, exhale, and sigh out in that manner, warm up your lips and repeat the sound, Ba, Ba, Ba, Ba, Ba, Ba. It feels exactly like it did when you were a child.

Next, we'll practise the tongue using spoken la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la. Finally, roll an R. Arr Lastly, the pros refer to this as the siren, "We" is used at the beginning, and then "aw." The "aw" is low and the "we" is high. You exhale, "Weeeaawww," as a result. I am sure you are doing great . Do those before you speak the next time.

To wrap up, let me to briefly discuss this in perspective. This is a really important aspect. In a room full of noise and poor acoustics, we talk poorly to those who are just not paying attention. I have discussed that at several points. Imagine the state of the world if we could communicate effectively with aware listeners in settings that truly served their purpose. Or, to put it another way, imagine what kind of a world it would be if everyone deliberately produced, consumed, and designed every space around sound? It does sound like a lovely world where understanding is the norm, and it is a concept that should be shared. I'm grateful.

Thank you !