how to have transcendental sex

Transcendent Sex known as "Transcendent Sex" describes how the simple act of making love can result in altered states of consciousness and even spiritual enlightenment. Without even having a glass of wine, the bedroom I was in started to dissolve, and I found myself being transported to a sunny beach surrounded by sea creatures from ancient Crete.

This is something I have personally experienced. In spite of the fact that I knew nothing about this culture, I felt the most exquisite rapture and bliss I had ever known. I eventually went back to the familiar bedroom and continued having sex there; my lover didn't seem to have noticed. Even the most intense orgasm during sex on other occasions was a thousand times less compelling than the ecstasies I was experiencing.

I was suddenly standing on the sun-bright shores of a sandy beach, squinting at the glittering waves come rushing towards me, and I was surrounded by vivid sea creatures, fish, and octopi. I was no longer in any room with my lover at all. I was no longer protected in his house from the snow blanketing the wintry northeast.

I was perplexed and wondered if I had somehow been carried into the water from the beach before realising that the sea creatures were only pictures. Images created in the unmistakable style of frescoes from the prehistoric Crete civilization, a culture I was completely ignorant of. It didn’t matter. The most exquisite rapture and bliss I had ever felt flooded me.

TRANSCENDENT SEX: WHEN MORE THAN THE EARTH MOVES

Eventually, I was back in the comfortable bedroom, still having a good time. Evidently, my lover hadn't noticed anything. Had I gone insane? I had never before slipped out of reality, and I wondered how long I had been "away." I kept quiet about it because I was embarrassed to admit to my partner that I had wandered so far from his attentions and because I was also feeling pretty crazy about it.

But I also never forgot about it. Later, stranger things continued to occur during other sex sessions. Ecstasies that were a thousand times more potent and compelling than the most intense orgasm constantly overcame me.

One day, I lost all control and started laughing and giggling, jumping into my lover's arms, and telling him what had happened. He gave me an odd look and then admitted that he, too, after a lifetime of sex, had been experiencing some strange things when he was in bed with me. It was the most glorious experience in the world, one that introduced each of us to ecstatic and spiritual realms we had never imagined existed. It was an experience that went beyond what psychedelics or meditation could provide.

UNLOCKING THE DOOR TO HIGHER CONSCIOUSNESS THROUGH SEX

We've both been in other kinds of altered states, and we both study different kinds of altered states of consciousness. My career is based on understanding and using research on normal and unusual states of consciousness to improve myself. I conduct research into more specialised fields for the Palo Alto Institute of Transpersonal Psychology.

My work in business involves assisting leaders and organisations in designing systems that accommodate differences in adult awareness. I made the decision to look into the situation more thoroughly. After publishing a number of articles, I decided to write a book called Transcendent Sex:

When Lovemaking Opens the Veil because the results were so astounding. The good news is that you don't need to practise Tantric Lovecraft or other esoteric arts to travel to other dimensions during sex. There is no requirement that you be a sex god or goddess.

The truth is that for the majority of people, the most accessible route to higher consciousness can be found in the common act of making love. Even atheists or agnostics who have had a transcendent episode during sex frequently think they have accessed divine forces. These encounters are so intense that they alter people's perspectives on sex and religion. Their impact on people's lives is tangible.

By demonstrating that a sizeable portion of the population has mystical experiences every day in the bedroom, this study explains the sexual-spiritual foundation of the majority of ancient religions. There is still sacred sex occurring. In fact, it appears to be unstoppable.

The act of making love can elicit intense episodes that share the same traits found in the highest spiritual states described in diverse religions such as Buddhism, Christianity, Judaism, and Islam, as well as those cited in the annals of yoga and recent research on shamanism.

One of the most potent forces for ecstasy and personal transformation has been kept in the shadows for centuries due to the controversy surrounding the union of sex and spirit. Both large-scale studies of spirituality and large-scale studies of sex typically reveal spiritual experiences. However, this connection has remained unknown to the general public, much like how near-death experiences occurred but went unreported until they were recently "discovered."

In a lifetime, it appears that one in eight to twelve people will have at least one transcendent sex experience, but most people are reluctant to discuss these experiences for the same reasons that my partner and I were.

The majority of those I spoke with admitted that they had never told anyone else—not even their lovers—about what had happened in the bedroom because they were afraid of being labelled as insane or having a profoundly moving spiritual experience mocked or made fun of by others. Before they became a topic of public discussion, that is what prevented many people from discussing near-death experiences.

THE SURPRISING LINK BETWEEN SEXUAL ECSTASY AND SPIRITUAL ENLIGHTENMENT

What about Tantric Yoga and Taoism, spiritual practises that have been adapted to Western culture in order to work with sexual energy? Those paths have, of course, always acknowledged the sacredness and transformative power of sex, but contemporary iterations frequently only place an emphasis on getting more and better orgasms or strengthening your bond with your partner.

You actually don't need to practise any special religion or belief systems to have a mystical experience during sex. It is something that anyone can experience at any time, and the experiences are frequently unexpected. They have nothing to do with the beliefs you consciously hold about sex, religion, or anything else!

Hairdressers, lawyers, salespeople, and shop owners who had grown up in typical American homes, most of whom had some kind of fairly traditional Judeo-Christian beliefs, are among the 91 people whose fascinating, humorous, and strange cases are presented in Transcendent Sex. These are regular people who we pass on the street every day. Many of them no longer believed in God, and some had intense sexual conflict.

Then, whoosh! Like I did, they experienced an unexpected ambush in the bedroom one day. Baptists reported having Zen-style nirvanic sexual experiences. Catholics engage in shamanic travel to other dimensions. Jews experienced the Holy Ghost's presence.

Atheists were sucked into past lives or taken over by fertility gods in ancient times. You never know what will happen, but it has the potential to permanently alter your outlook on sex and religion, as well as your life.

Transcendent sex can be distinguished from regular sex because people's perceptions of reality alter: they may no longer recognise their partners or feel like themselves; the "rules" of how the world functions may have changed; or they are no longer in the present but rather in a different time and place. Sometimes each of these divisions fails. Transcendent sex-related episodes resemble altered states connected to high levels of attainment in various spiritual traditions, such as:

• Seeing visions
• Feeling transported to other locations
• Experiencing waves of heat, energy, and light
• Participating directly in the animal and plant life of the earth or in other natural forces
• Re-living past lives
• Being visited by gods and other avatars
• Being possessed by spirits
• Embodying spiritual forces, such as speaking in tongues
• Dissolving into the primordial Void, such as nirvana or Samadhi
• Dissolving into God or the great I AM

Chester is a good example; he called me one day and demanded to speak with me after taking a graduate course on my research on sex, gender, and spirituality. Because he hadn't shown much interest in the material in class, I was afraid he might want to contest his grade, but instead, he asked me to speak with his girlfriend, Alice, who was in need of assistance.

Although he had never personally experienced anything like it, he was able to recognise and facilitate her terrifying transcendent episode while they were in bed. As Alice's soul appeared to depart from her body, the more quickly it seemed to move away from it, the more ferociously she began to tremble in his arms.

She had never experienced an out-of-body sensation and believed she was going to pass away. Chester, who was completely oblivious to what she was going through, recalled what he had learned in class and had the foresight to advise her to calm down in the safety of his arms and to trust rather than resist the experience.

After her shaking stopped, he observed her enter a state of "superdreaming," in which her eyes were moving incredibly quickly behind her closed lids. Chester felt what he described as "waves of energy" radiating from her body as he calmly stroked her.

He could feel them even with his hand suspended a few inches above her skin. When Alice had calmed down, she recalled that she had allowed herself to return to the experience, as if she had been willing to "go through a doorway," but this time, rather than rushing through space away from her body, she found herself surrounded by God's presence.

All at once, she experienced a flood of unwavering love and light, which made her instantly aware of how completely precious and beloved she was—as well as everyone else is—and that all the things she had ever regretted in her life had absolutely no bearing on this. God was not what she had anticipated. She came to understand that, regardless of what she had done or would do in the future, she was perfectly loved just as she was, rather than learning how she didn't measure up or receiving a life mission. When Alice returned to the real world, she was in a euphoric state and had been sick for a while.

Even the terrible nausea could not dim her ecstasy. She and Chester had consumed the exact same meal, so they were aware that there was no physical explanation for her illness. As a result, they were scared and sought my advice.

It was the first time that Alice and Chester had heard of someone becoming ill following a transcendent experience during sex. However, while Alice was telling me her story, she provided me with some crucial hints. Recently, that guilt had been overwhelming since Alice felt she had failed in her God-given mission to work with orphaned refugees abroad and had to return to the United States. Alice used the expression that she always "swallowed her guilt" and "pushed the guilt down into her stomach." With her new understanding, there was no longer any justification for holding onto the guilt.

When I met Alice a few weeks later, she was still ecstatic and claimed to have fully recovered in a matter of hours. Obviously, all I could offer her was the truth of her own experience; however, I could let her know that her experience was not unusual.

Her transformative episode had been made possible by Chester's ability to act appropriately; it deepened their love and faith and affected them both. Another point in Transcendent Sex is illustrated by Alice and Chester's story: since otherworldly sexual experiences can happen to people without warning, lovers may be much more vulnerable than meditators or other people who are purposefully cultivating altered states. Such a "break" in their everyday reality can frighten and even destabilise those who are unprepared, especially those whose worldviews do not take spiritual or supernatural events into account.

To cope with their experience, some people underwent years of psychotherapy or other professional intervention. It's critical to recognise the potency of these sexual experiences. The person's ability to function may be negatively impacted by their dark side, which can result in an addictive need to be in a relationship and delusions about the partner and the "rightness" of the marriage. People can take precautions to be ready for this possibility and to keep themselves out of harm's way in potentially harmful relationships.

THE TRANSFORMATIVE POWER OF SEXUAL ECSTASY

However, most of the people I spoke with reported that these sexual experiences, like other spiritual awakenings, had had very positive effects on them. People who had been agnostic or atheist started to look for spirituality. Others started to have more loving relationships, not just with their partners but with other people as well.

Still others were determined to change their unhealthy ways of coping and let go of beliefs that contradicted themselves. Surprisingly, a few people who had been sexually abused as children were able to stay in the moment, enjoy sex, and even orgasm.

In my opinion, the words of those who have actually gone through these experiences are ultimately the ones that most convincingly demonstrate how strong they are, how to invite them into your life, and how transformative they can be. For example, a participant named "Richard" claims that his experiences have "really helped me rehabilitate sex from this cesspool of moral judgement.

I realised for the first time that sex really could be a vehicle for transcendence. That seemed to be the whole point of my experience. It's really deepened [my relationship].

The problems don't go away. Speaking for many, a woman expresses how much simpler it is for her to show compassion: "It transformed my life and my outlook. I have these feelings for my partner now, seeing the hairs in his ears or something that might be ugly or whatever, and I just feel so good for him. It's wonderful.

And it translates to other people. "It does translate." And Elaine, a woman who has been a practising Buddhist for decades and lives in a spiritual community, describes her sexual spiritual openings as "I suppose when I describe it, it will sound like a form of psychosis... Of course, you know from the results that this is not a psychotic experience. Once time is no longer still and normal life resumes, you are changed, but in a good way. Your other relationships are also enhanced by the experience because you have changed. Somehow a semblance.