Ensuring a Successful Date with a Foreign Woman

Most people have experienced at least one bad first date in their lifetime. It's true — we're all likely to make mistakes when our nerves get the best of us. Even if it turns out to be an unfortunate situation, it still makes a pretty good story to tell at parties.

Nobody is perfect, and that’s perfectly fine. It’s our flaws that make us human after all.

You don’t have to have devilishly good looks or be well-off to attract ladies. You just have to have decent manners and an interesting character, especially when you’re planning on dating a foreign woman.

Let’s say you are currently seeing a Latina from Colombia. You aren’t very familiar with her country, but you at least have basic knowledge about her culture. The problem is, you have no idea what cultural differences you have that might set her off.

This can also apply to women of other ethnicities, including Russians, Thais, Filipinas, or even Ukrainians. It’s inevitable for two people from different cultures to bump into a few rocks in the road.

If you are currently seeing a foreign woman, here are a few tips that you can make use of:

Don’t pretend to know everything.

No woman, foreign or not, likes a know-it-all.

It’s not a problem if you’re a person who genuinely enjoys sharing the things you like. However, you need to avoid coming across as pompous or arrogant.

A foreign woman sees the world differently than you do, but you should never underestimate her level of intellect. If you want to share a topic that you are unsure of that she can relate to, you have to pay keen attention to whether she’s listening to you or not.

If she doesn’t look the slightest interested, then move on.

If she displays open body language, then tread lightly. Slow down your speech and see if she is still following. If she looks confused, then you offer her a brief explanation.

Avoid stereotyping.

When dating a foreign woman, you should ALWAYS see her beyond stereotypes. Stereotypes are true in some cases, but more often than not, they are exaggerated statements.

Stereotyping is harmful. Not only to those who are the subject of the generalization but also to those who believe in them. To simply put, this misinformation pollutes your mind and prompts you to generalize an entire race based on an assumption.

Avoid entertaining stereotypes. Look at your date for the way she is, not her ethnicity.

If you think you might have said something possibly offensive, apologize.

Habits often kick in when you get comfortable with your date.

If your date tells you that what you are doing is making her uncomfortable, apologize and thank her for informing you.

It’s best if you talk openly and are transparent with each other. A bit of cultural exchange goes a long way and can help you see the world in her eyes.

NEVER talk about the political state of her home country.

Unless you have any affiliation with her home country, you have no place to speak about it. If you have surface-level knowledge of her country’s state of affairs, don’t ask her opinion about it.

Even if your date is apolitical, you have to keep your opinions to yourself. Avoid commenting on political matters.

How to Tell If Your Date is Having a Great Time

When it comes to body language, women are a lot more expressive than men. You can tell how a woman is feeling just by observing how she carries herself.

To be able to read your date well, you have to keep an eye out for details. You don’t necessarily have to nitpick every single observation. A sign or two is more than enough for you to tell if she is engaged in your conversation.

So what should you look out for?

Eyes

Whenever someone is lying about how they’re feeling, their eyes usually give it away. It’s like that famous saying, “the eyes are the windows to the soul”.

You’ll know if your date is tuning in to what you are saying if they are maintaining a healthy amount of eye contact. Not the awkward kind where they stare blankly and look awkwardly.

The eyes have a movement pattern that tells you if your date is paying attention or not. According to former FBI agent Joe Navarro, when someone is engaged in conversation, their eyes move in a triangular motion.

It starts with the lip, moving to the left eye, then goes to the right eye. The cycle then continues.

Try to observe your date. If her eyes are relaxed, show little to no tension, and are moving in a triangular motion, then you know you’ve caught her attention.

Facial Expression

The face is a blank canvas that you can paint with various emotions. Much like how a red watercolor contrasts itself from the paleness of the off-white cloth, it’s easy to tell what a person is feeling through their facial expressions.

When a person is not comfortable, they are often tense. And they usually manifest it in different ways.

Let’s say your date is smiling. She seems genuine enough. Her smile does reach her eyes. The only thing that seems off is how her lips slightly quiver, making her smile look a tad forced.

Posture

Much like the face, the tension you get from being nervous can show in how you sit and walk.

There’s a magic in body posture that gives you an idea of whether the person you are with is enjoying your company.

When a woman is nervous, she often arches her back way too stiffly, and her fingers quiver.

If she is in a slouched position or her legs are facing away from you, it probably means she is looking for a quick escape.

However, if she leans on you, makes as much physical contact, and sits up straight, then it means you got her attention.

Be Yourself and Have Fun!

Remember the goal of dates. You go on them to get to know each other better, so don’t focus too much on becoming prince charming. Instead, just be yourself and have fun!