Emotional Intelligence in Relationships is Essential

Effort for Emotional Intelligence

If you want your relationship to last, having emotional intelligence is a must. A relationship that does not involve any effort is a relationship that will be filled with endless problems.

Recognize your Emotions

So, what does it mean to have emotional intelligence? It means that you have the ability to recognise your emotions and not let them have power over you. To be emotionally intelligent is to be able to accept how you are viewed and try to understand the opposite side.

It is not just about You

In case you have never seen the X Factor, you have to see it, but apart from the singing auditions you will see, you will also notice how some contestants lack emotional intelligence. When the judges tell contestants they cannot sing, they think the judges are completely wrong and they begin to insult them or get upset so easily. How can they demonstrate emotional intelligence? Simple, by having awareness that not everyone thinks like them.

Connection is Important in Relationships

Emotional intelligence is vital in relationships because it is what helps couples maintain mutual understanding. Not only that, but having emotional intelligence can also make couples feel connected because they are able to express their feelings without feeling like a disturbance.

Active Listening prevents Misunderstanding

How can emotional intelligence be applied in relationships? Well that depends on what the issues are. For example, there is a man and a woman whose marriage is not so great all because the man sees himself as a victim and does not consider the feelings of his wife; why is this wrong? Because it demonstrates that he only cares about himself and his wellbeing. How can he understand that a relationship is not about one person only? By taking the time to listen. Active listening allows couples to understand what is wrong and it helps them to look for solutions for their problems. Active listening is not meant for you to hear people and then give your response that you desperately want to give.

Disagreements are Okay, but Insults are not

Remember this: Having emotional intelligence does not mean there will not be any fights or disagreements. In every relationship, couples will not always meet eye to eye. The point of having emotional intelligence is to make sure couples do not hurt each other’s feelings when they deal with a disagreement. Before reacting without thinking, try to remain calm, or remove yourself until you are fully ready to talk about the issue. Sometimes having disagreements can be a good thing because couples are able to learn about different perspectives.

Express Emotions in a Healthy Way

Being called crazy for expressing your feelings is the worst thing that can be said to you. This is what makes people hide their emotions and stay silent. This, however, is not healthy at all. Sometimes people hide their true feelings because they believe it will help save their relationship, but the reality is that doing this will suffocate them. It will also create unawareness in people who have no idea that their partner is not okay. If you do not want to come across as crazy for expressing your emotions, think about what you will say before saying it. Also consider how you want your words to come across, pay attention to your tone of voice. Do not just tell your partner what you are feeling, give explanations to why you have these feelings and make it clear that you do not want to continue a relationship that will only consists of misunderstandings and lack of respect.